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writes:I'm African American. So I snogged a co-worker that I was close friends with at a party and his Caucasian friends seemed to have a problem with it. At work everything was as normal and we were chillin out as usual. He told me he did not want a relationship with someone at work but I was quite surprised because I hadn't asked for one.We continued to chill ou for 8 months longer and i began to notice that whenever we were in his home town he pretended that he didn't know me but at work we would be best of friends (even discussing really personal stuff). Fast forward a few months one of his friends told me he was gay and when I confronted him on our drive to work and he said it was true. I was upset cos at this time I fancied him.I couldn't bear going to work so I asked him to drop me at the nearest train station. Laer that evening he called me and said it was a joke.A few weeks later i started getting texts from him asking me when his "c**k would be in my p***y." Kinda strange but we got it together and I found out that he couldn't keep an erection. We tried quite a few times and we couldn't. We argued and went our seperate ways.Fast forward some months. I would get texts out of the blue asking what I was up to and if he could come round at 2am. Again, he couldn't get it up. Is this even booty call?!This didn't last long as we argued again about his strange behaviour when we were together in his home town. We met for a closure conversation in which he cried and said that he was really screwed up.Any ideas on what was going on here?! By the way he is from a very conservative and affluent white town.
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reader, Prophet7 +, writes (16 May 2009):
I think race has something to do with it also. I'm from America and back in the day Whites would hook-up with races who they "hated" behind closed doors or anywhere out of public view. I say this because you said he ignores you in public but tries to hook-up with you after 1am. He may not be racist but he could be worried about what others may say who don't approve of Whites dating Blacks. Doesn't matter if he is racist or not, move on from this because his behavior is unacceptable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses. I do totally think you are both right. I do also think that there is a racial element to it because I know his brother is racist.
Also with penile erectile dysfunction, which guy is going to try and have one-night stands/ do booty call if he knows he has this problem (his exes have all dumped him due to this).
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): dear fast forward,
I really dont think its a colour thing... think he is just so undecided about what he wants - i think he wants his cake and to eat to with out getting involved.
Think he needs to talk to a medic about his dick problems. Decide if he is Bi or not and then go find a partner that it works best for....
As for you i would fast forward a few months when you have found someone who is really into you and stop screwing around with this stupid guy, who obviously isn't.
hugs star.x.
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reader, Prophet7 +, writes (16 May 2009):
You should leave this alone. He's not someone you want to deal with. The last thing you should when you can't keep it up is argue :-D. Sorry for the joke couldn't let that one slide. Seriously, his mind is screwed up. He tries to have a sexual thing with you but ignores you in public. Have more respect for yourself and don't allow him to disrepect you like that. He's not even a real friend because friends walk, talk and hang out in public places together and are not ashamed to be associated with each other. Save yourself present headache and future heartbreak if you continue with this, trust me. Hope my advice helps you. God Bless...Prophet7
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