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writes:MOD NOTE: Poster is 15, not 18 as stated.My mum and dad split up in august last year, and ever since then theres been constant arguements etc. The main arguements are between me and my dad, and theyve got so bad that i actually hate him and refuse to have contact with him. All the arguements have upset me, but it never really bothered me. Around march, the arguements stopped as i broke contact with him completely, but since he comes up every weekend to get my other siblings, the arguements have started again. For some reason in the last couple of weeks everything is getting to me, its gotten to the point where even if someone mentions him to me i break down in tears. I dont know why, but ive been 'depressed', i keep breaking down and i cry myself to sleep most nights. Ive lost a lot of friends because i keep pushing people away, and i have no contact with other family any more. I cant talk to my mum because it just results in more arguements. I feel really lost and dont know what to do anymore. I miss who my dad used to be, we used to be really close and got along so well. Im only 15 and although ive made myself out to be really strong; my dad doesnt seem to realise how much its f***ed me up. I've had more wrong with my life (2008 was the worst year of my life) and some things have improved, so i dont understand why i feel more down now than i have done before. I dont know what to do, or who to turn to. I think i just needed to get it out of my system. But i dont think i can cope with it all much longer :/
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reader, stephscrewup +, writes (10 July 2009):
stephscrewup is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou those who gave advice :) you've helped me alot and things are slowly starting to get better. you have no idea how greatful i am :) x
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reader, Prophet7  +, writes (17 May 2009):
You feel bad now because the wall you put up has fallen you feel everything that you avoided last year. Anger fueled your fire last year through all the arguements and change. This year you are feeling your true emotions and it's getting you down. Your parents divorced but that does not change the fact that he is your father. It sucks when parents split, it happens sometimes but things do get better after the storm. Now is the time to have a heart to heart talk with dad. Let him know how you feel about everything but be respectful of him, he's your father. You need to realize that he's hurt too, nobody really wants to lose their wife and family but things happen that we have no control over sometimes. Don't bottle your emotions up because it leads to depression and anger problems. You must vent by talking about what's bothering you. Hope my advice helps you. God Bless... Prophet7
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): It's because you miss him andyou feel bad for arguing with him and now you feel rejected because you've made a situation where your other siblings see him the whole time. Stop this grudge with your dad make it up to him, i'm sure that the divorce was equally your mum's fault, you shouldn't take sides.
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