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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time- almost a year and a half. I love him to death but we fight SO much. I feel like if i am with someone i love then i should be happy, but i'm always upset or mad, rarely happy.We broke up last night after a long disagreement, but he doesn't even care.No matter if i got mad at him or if he got mad at me, he will never try to resolve it. Like even when he does something wrong, its up to me to fix it or we just wouldn't talk.I really don't know what i should do!I don't want to lose someone i love just because of an argument, but then again- i don't want to be with someone who treats me like a piece of dirt.BTW __ if i apologized and attempted to talk to him about this, then he would say ok and everything would be fine, but HE wouldn't apologize back; yet, he'd still want to be with me.I just don't get it!
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reader, Prophet7 +, writes (17 May 2009):
You guys are very young and it is difficult to have serious relationships during the teenage years. Usually one person in the relationship is a little more mature and bears more of the responsibility(this is you). It has to go both ways, both partners must be able to apologize or be the bigger person sometimes. He is leaving everything up to you and it's not fair to you. If you don't initiate the apology he would just roll with it and act if nothing is wrong. You should tell him how you are feeling. If he doesn't see that this is bothering you and does nothing to be better you may need to think about just being friends. If your partner does not respect you or your feelings the relationship is doomed to fail. Sometimes we see certain qualities in people and start to like them but they may not possess the key qualities we need in a bf/gf. It sounds like you need someone who is a little more sensitive and mature. People need to be able to admit when they are wrong and apologize. You don't want to be with a person who can't admit their faults. Hope my advice helps you. God Bless... Prophet7
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reader, iluver +, writes (17 May 2009):
tell him this. explain to him that he doesnt apoligize. “fighting” is how you learn and understand and solve your problems. BOTH of you need to talk about whats wrong, so its ok to fight about things, as long as you still love each other in the end. : )
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