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writes:How long do you guys think it's normal to have the same 'friend with benefits'? Surely if it goes on too long it must mean something more? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emjo +, writes (21 June 2009):
 Your welcome lovey :)
take care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI feel I should just clarify that I don't necessarily want anymore than being FBW, I just want to suss out how he might be feeling about the whole situation. Thanks for your answers though, particularly emjo who put it very well! x
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reader, Emjo +, writes (18 June 2009):
Im sorry hunny i dont think it ever means something more.
As a girl i feel we get more emotionaly attatched during sex whereas to the boy its just no strings sex. i mean what more could they ask for, i guess if you want a relationship with a guy you shouldnt enter the lets just f*** cycle as it is impossilbe to retreat from once feelings develop. You dont want to call it off cos' you care about them and like the physical contact and therefor kid yourself they may want more after some time of this, "maybe if im really good in bed?" "maybe if i let him see how good a girlfriend i could be?" Its all pointless, to a man willing to become a FWB to someone thats all he'll ever want them to be...
Or at least in my experince, i could be wrong obviously :)
and if you like him then best of luck lovey :)
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reader, passionatelynumb  +, writes (18 June 2009):
 Are you kidding me? He's getting commitment free sex here! Why would he ever want that to stop. Most guys could have a f**k buddy for life and she could mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to them.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (18 June 2009):
 Honestly, a "friends with benefits" thing can go on forever. It's really dependent on the mindset of the people involved. I mean, if you were clear in the beginning that you two were only together for the occasional sexual encounter and were cool with that, then there's no reason to see that end... unless it seems that you've had a change of heart and are actually fostering feelings for the other person.
The best advice here is to lay your cards on the table state what has happened and see if the same feelings are on the other side of the table. If not, then it might be time to move on -- there's no worse situation to place yourself in a FWB relationship, wanting more and knowing that it's not going to be reciprocated.
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