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writes:I'm a 20 year old girl.My parents are pretty old fashioned and conservative, especially my mom. She's spent my whole life telling me what I can wear, who I can hang out with, ect. My mom has even told me she doesn't want me dating...ever.Anyway, I've never had a boyfriend or been kissed or anything. Only one guy has ever asked me out on a date, and he ended up canceling on me cause he said he still had feelings for his ex... After he told everyone at our work that he liked me and embarrassed me.I mean, I know of guys who have liked me in the past, but none have ever asked me out, or even done anything to show me they like me. It's usually my friends who tell me that they found out from them. All a few of these guys say to me that they think I'm "not like most girls."I see all my friends getting boyfriends and being happy and it makes me really sad. I'm pretty good at hiding it though, but on the inside it's killing me.It makes me think "why can't I be like them? What do they have that I don't?" I don't think I'm a supermodel by any means, but I'm not a leper either. I'm just really awkward I think. I always feel different, even when I'm with friends hanging out and stuff.I used to tell myself, that one day I'd meet someone and I wouldn't feel like this anymore, but I've already spent 2 years in college, and it's just making worse.Honestly, I think at this rate, I'm destined to be an old-maid forever. Is it weird that I feel like this?
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reader, Rogerramjet +, writes (7 July 2009):
I'm 30 now, and remember feeling the very same way back when i was 19... I had never dated, and worried that i probably never would...
As a result, i started forcing the issue, and got myself into a bunch of relationships that i truly regretted....On the flipside, love did eventually find me a couple of times (as the previous poster said, "when i least expected it") and i really had some wonderful times and experiences..
You just have to be patient.
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reader, passionatelynumb  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 No sweetie, you are not a leper. Far from it. You are something to be treasured. I spent most of my college days single, and happily so. I promise you that your time will come. I've always found love when I least expected it.
Trust me at your age most guys just want to get in your pants and then move on to find the next notch for their belt. I know I probably sound like your mom, but its true.
In time you will come across someone who truly wants to share his life with you.
Be proud of the life you've lived so far. When you do meet that special someone, think of how grateful he will be knowing you don't bring with you all of the scars and baggage of numerous broken relationships from high school and college.
Don't get yourself down. Once you stop worrying about finding a boyfriend, you will find one.
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