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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He as always had a jealousy problem as well as a bad temper. HE has called me every name in the book. He is very spoiled but he also has a lot of issues with his family. I know that he loves me, he does a lot of things for me, and he treats me good. Well about 8 months ago we got mad and he said some really hurtful words. I couldn't take it any more so we broke up. I ended up having sex with someone else. We ended up getting back together and he has really changed. I mean he did a 360! We do everything together and everything is going great. I love him so much and he does everything in his power to make me happy. People really do change. I just want to know should I tell him about what happened when we broke up? Should I feel guilty? I know it would hurt him but I just need to know if I should tell him or not?
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reader, lemmygirlz +, writes (1 September 2010):
 if he asks you i would tell him because if you don't he could find out later from someone else but i see no point in telling him since you were broken up
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reader, unclezak  +, writes (20 May 2009):
watch the episodes on friends where Ross and Rachel are on a 'break' and all the other times the 'break' is mentioned. good stuff I say!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): he called you every name in the book, right, so i am guessing he has no names left to call you now that you have slept with someone else.
what was so wrong with him, that he had to do a 360. and have you chnaged your ways. perhaps not? why should he only change and not you.
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reader, blueyes333 +, writes (20 May 2009):
DO NOTTTT TELL HIM! and do NOT feel guilty! You 2 were broken up, he does not have the right to know what you did when you guys werent together. That is your business, not his. Dont feel guilty babe this guy kind of seems like a jerk anyways. Dont let him be mean to you. He has no right to call you names. But hey i'm glad hes changed! hopefully it sticks : ) Good luck!
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (19 May 2009):
 I wouldn't volunteer the information to him since you two were broken up at the time, but don't lie to him if he asks.
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reader, Shanny96 +, writes (19 May 2009):
 you should not feel guilty. To be truly honest, you were not together at that point. Tell him, because if he finds out later in the relationship... it could get worse. Boys are jealous. Just be honest... say you do regret it and that you weere thinking about him. hope everything works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): I'll tell you to tell him, because I'm a guy and I would care.
Others will probably respond on here telling you don't ever tell him because it would serve no purpose. (Except to keep the relationship founded on honesty.)
When you broke up, would he have slept with someone else? Did he? Did he never even think about it because he assumed you also would not have even considered it that soon? Stuff to think about.
If you only listen to one thing I say: DO NOT LIE TO HIM.
Either tell him the truth or say you don't wanna talk about it. But if a lie ever comes out, it will probably do more damage than you ever imagine that it will. Even if the truth doesn't come out until 25 years from now. The fact is that men are not wired the same as women when it comes to secret affairs. You just cannot expect him to react to this stuff in he same ways that you would in his place. Most guys are just not built the same way as most girls.
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