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writes:I'm a teenager, and it seems like the only males i'm attracted to, is one that are either 5-10 years older than me, or men that are married. Of course i wont risk acting on my feelings, but i can't seem to be attracted to guys my age. They are so immature sometimes, and i feel like i should've been born 5-10 years ago. Im mature for my age, and i feel out of place a lot of the times. right now, i'm attracted to a man that is 10 years older than me, and he's married, but its only a crush, and it's okay to have that kind of crush, and not act on it right? i want a boyfriend, but i can't find anyone that doesn't act like they should still be in elementry school. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): I was exactly in your position about a month ago, and I'm here to tell you that there is hope! I am 16, and my boyfriend is 22 years old. Guys my age never appealed to me because either they are; immature, couldn't respect me, irresponsible, etc...etc... So I'd always be attracted to and fancy older men, one once whom was married also. But just recently, my boyfriend and I began to develop feelings for each other and started dating. One thing though is to be careful, because there are some guys who are just looking for action with younger ladies. What I did was talk to him and discuss what we wanted from a relationship if we were to have one, and here I am today happy as can be. (Except for the lying to my parents and the hiding from friends... that's the hardest part. But it's worth it!)
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (16 November 2008):
Guys your age ARE annoying. So much so that at 17, my first boyfriend (well the first one that I did more than hold hands with) was 21.
Then at 21 I met my husband who was 26.
There is nothing wrong with you, but just wait till you are a bit older, other wise you could be come a target for perverts.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, *plac* +, writes (16 November 2008):
 Hey there.. I'm 17 and trust me the same thing happens with me. The truth is that girls mature faster than boys, so with most guys our age being immature and ridiculous, it is normal to be attracted to older guys.
Just don't go for someone too old because believe me, things can get really complicated, but an age difference of 2-6 years is ok in my opinion.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): When it comes to guys that teenage girls are attracted to, maturity isn't sexier. OLDER is sexier.
I think maturity really has very little to do with it, it's just something teenage girls say (and really believe) to justify their attractions.
Show me the most mature teenage boy you can come up with, and I'll show you a boy without a lot of girls very interested in him. Show me an immature grown man in his 20s, and I'll show you a guy that teenage girls will totally crush over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): all i can say is, THERE ARE ALOT OF IMMATURE PEOPLE OUT THERE.
too many, just keep looking, i promise there are some damn mature people out there. (i hope)
but dont grow up too fast, sometimes its good to be immature. just not in others
have fun and for god sake please dont go for married men, they are overated. lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): It's completely normal for someone your age to be attracted to older men. The idea of a mature relationship is very ideal for girls your age. I think you should keep trying to find guys your age to date, because if you try to date anybody 5-10 years older than you, you could get in serious trouble. Wait a little longer. When you become 18, it no longer is illegal for you to have a relationship with a man older than you. just make sure you feel comfortable with the relationship and be safe with it
Hang in there girl!
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reader, vanessadazed +, writes (16 November 2008):
omg! i'm the same way. i'm 17 and i like guys my age but they are so annoying and i find that i'm only truly attracted to guys in their 20s but i'd never pursue them and put that unfair pressure to break the law on them lol. but wait until you're 18 and then go for it lol
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