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writes:I've been seeing this married guy for approximately 1yr and 3months. He's no longer with his wife. Ever since he left his wife, it's like things has change. I love him dearly, sometimes I feel as if he loves me, then there's time that I feel as if he's punishing me for the things that she did to him,(She cheated as well). I know he loves me because it shows, what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, smiles12  +, writes (17 November 2008):
I think you need to talk to him about how you are feeling, you need to explain to him that you feel he is punishing you for his wifes mistakes... you are not his wife.
Did you get together while he was still with his wife? If so I think that it is probably the excitement that has gone from your relationship, it doesn't need to be a secret anymore so there's not that eliment.
To be honest I think he is probably feeling like his male pride has taken a bashing if he's found out that his wife cheated too which is probably not helping the situation either.
Maybe a break between the two of you would be a good idea, give him time to sort his head out and would be good for you to understand how you really feel about your relationship with him. But I definitely think you should sit down with him and talk through everything with him, this could help him open up to and let you know how he is feeling.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 November 2008):
Well since he had no time to get over his marriage and jumped straight into a relationship with you, it's no wonder that he's expecting the same things from you both.
If he does it again, tell him that you are not his wife and he needs to cut it out or you're leaving.
If he does it again after than then disappear for a couple of days.
He needs to get over his marriage before he dates anyone else. Other wise you are just a traded in replacement who's pretty much exactly the same.
Good Luck!! xx
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