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writes:I thought nothing could go wrong, she was really all over me, she liked me as much as I liked her, then when I go to ask her out, I get told indirectly as soon as I walk in the door that she doesn't think it will work out because of the age gap and she can't go on a date with me because her parents wont accept it. My heart sank as soon as I heard this, I had flowers for her and everything for when I asked that day. It was like one of those scenes from a movie where everything falls apart emotionally. I was inches from tears all day. I tried to talk to her and find out what was going on to only have her look at me and be inches from tears herself and say she wanted to be just friends. That glance lasted only seconds, the complete opposite of how she had acted the day before. She walked away the long way to her class, possibly crying as her head stayed tucked close to her books. Before she could barely keep her eyes off me. I slept the rest of the day away after crying myself to sleep. I don't feel for people very often, but she was the second i have felt this way for, and the first ended badly. We had the same interests and everything. This seems it may end the same, leaving me hurt.Our main difference our age, I'm 18 she is 16. We both will turn one year older this year. I think from what some of people I know, who family friends with her family. Her parents are extremely protective of all of their kids. She probably said something to her parents about the whole situation and they said no or she thought about it as she said and came to a assumption that it would never be excepted by her parents. My connection to her parents is my friends grandmother who knows me really well, and knows that I wouldn't do anything stupid or wrong and is going to talk to them about it and try to help me. I understand why they would be nervous, most 18 year old dating younger girls are just after sex, but im not i really like her because we can enjoy our interests together. Which are kind of outside the social norm. We are kind of nerds lol. I tried to stop thinking about her but I can't, I'm in love with her I think. It's even begun to affect my normal behaviors. All I keep thinking about is Monday and that I have to talk to her about all this. What can I do to get on the better side of her parents so that I can date her, I'm willing to do just about anything. I'm walking a thin line, I don't want to upset her or anger anyone so I don't want to make bad moves that could make things worse for either of us. I have already thought about talking to them, and I'm still going to give her the flowers in any case. If I can't date her im still going to try to be friends with her, even if it kind of hurts to look at her, knowing that I can never be with her, or at least until she leaves the house. I like her in every way, I don't want to lose her from my life in any case. Aunts please help me...
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 March 2009):
Well that's the idea!
He has to know that you are scared of him so you'll treat his daughter right and never try and have any kind of sex with her.
You could talk to her, but she might be freaked out by the idea.
I's just go for it but then I'm the impulsive type and I do get into trouble some times.
You know her so if you think it would be best to talk to her first then go for it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThats a good idea, and im not the most burly guy around, i can hold my own but he probably would kill me without trying if i did something wrong. lol
But should i talk to her about this before attempting. It feels like i should.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 March 2009):
I think you'll have to do this the old old school way.
Pop round and ask her dad for permission to take her out on a date.
Be super respectful and acknowledge the fact that he can break you and bury your broken body somewhere in the woods.
If he says have her back by 10, have her home by 9.45.
All boys used to have to go through this, our generation is very lucky in the fact that you can just deal with each other and not with your chosen girl's dad's shotgun.
Good Luck!! xx
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