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writes:Is it ok for my boyfriend to work at a night club? I have told him it bothers me because I don't trust the situations that could easily happen in that environment. Also, we now get very little quality time together because he is so either working or is exhausted all the time. He needs the extra income so moonlighting is what he needs to do. What should I do?From,Feeling in a rut Reply to this Question
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reader, pinkjet +, writes (21 March 2009):
pinkjet is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your honest and helpful answers. I do have trust issues with which to contend. He was getting chummy with a co-worker which got my wheels churning, however, you all are correct and I need to handle my issues. I love this website!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): You have to trust your man if you don't he will surely cheat. You can't just assume that because he is in a certain environment he will do you wrong. If he was going to the club all the time to party I would be worried but he is working. Him having two jobs tells me that he is a hard worker and hard workers are dependable and not usually cheaters. If time is the biggest problem schedule a date once a week. I know you would love to spend time with him but people gotta do what they gotta do to survive.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 March 2009):
I don't know what nightclubs you go in but the ones I go into the staff are working very hard for their cash.
They are running round and serving drinks.
How you think that is going to lead to him cheating, I am not sure.
You seem to have serious trust issues with him. Why don't you think that he can stay professional at work and would go off and chat up a girl and get sacked?
As for the time issue, could you help him SAVE cash in any other area? Could you help him reduce his outgoings? Or could you help him find a main dayjob that pays better so he doesn't have to moon light?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): dear feeling in a rut, either you you trust him or you don't. decide - if you do then great. if you dont then talk to him.
has he wandered off the path before? or are you clingy?
he will be too exhasuted to do anything i suspect.
Star.x.
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