I'm pregnant and still a teenager and at university, what should I do?
Q. Okay so I think I'm pregnant and I'm petrified. I still live at home with my parents and I have a long term boyfriend but we're both at university and if I tell him I'm pregnant I don't want him to drop out even though I'll have to because I don't ...
A. 26 January 2016: In the months ahead you will need support. Your body has been programmed to expect a baby and suddenly it isn't going to happen. I am certain you made the right call. In the coming months be kind to yourself. Your boyfriend probably won't appreciate ... (read in full...)
I flirted with a crush that is my boyfriend's friend and our room mate. How do I get things back to normal?
Q. I'm in a very confusing situation at the moment. I temporarily live with my boyfriend and his 3 flat mates. They are all boys about my age (19-21). Not an ideal situation to start with but on New Year's Eve while drunk with my friends I called...
A. 18 January 2016: The best thing is to leave your boyfriend as gently as possible. After a decent amount of time you can take up with your new fancy. I say leave a decent amount of time for everyone's sake. It's OK to date your current boyfriend's friend but not on ... (read in full...)
She told me she was bad news and would eventuallly hurt me
Q. Hello helpful people I have been seeing a girl for around 3 months now, the relationship started as a friendly but also sexual relationship, iv grown to really like this girl, and enjoy spending time with her. She really likes me to, here comes t...
A. 17 January 2016: You have to back off. If there is any interaction you must be cordial, warm but not needy. Sometimes women need space to decide what they want. Respecting their wishes shows strength, calmness and respect.
You might think that camping on her door... (read in full...)
I want to stop. How should I stop going after someone who ignores me like this?
Q. Dear Cupid I am dating someone for past 3 weeks, earlier he seemed to be ok, wanted to talk to me all the time, we connected well. Had sex previous week and after that he is ignoring me, my calls, when I ask says he is busy over work, and today...
A. 17 January 2016: This is like asking how do I stop banging my head on the wall. You stop. You haven't achieved anything with your present method so it is ridiculous to keep trying that.
My only other suggestion would be to ask a mutual friend. You are only thre... (read in full...)
Why not? I always make sure he's satisfied, so why doesn't he satisfy me?
Q. Dear cupid. This is a bit of an awkward one, me and my boyfriend have been together 3 years now in the begining we used to always have sex and he used to go down on me. However now im lucky if it even happens on my birthday! ive tried talking to...
A. 17 January 2016: Perhaps you should get him to use a love toy instead. If he won't tell you the reasons he is off oral we can surely can't. Go online together and choose a couple of fun bits of merchandise to help you get satisfaction.... (read in full...)
Should I reveal all to the wife of my ex? My Bf will leave me if I fail to tell her
Q. Hi, I recently started dating an amazing guy, everything has been great and we are thinking about getting married. While talking about our pasts he found out that up until the day I met him I was still friends with an ex boyfriend. The...
A. 16 January 2016: I don't blame your boyfriend for not trusting you. You have a somewhat loose morality which apparently allows you to sleep with this married man on an ad hoc basis.
I certainly don't think it would help his wife by admitting this. It could kill her ... (read in full...)
I don't like the way my boyfriend performs oral sex. Do I tell him?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has suddenly been showing an interest in going down on me. It's never been something I've ever brought up, so I guess he just got curious and decided to try himself since I go down on him quite often whenever we're ...
A. 16 January 2016: Of course tell him, but it's the way you tell him that is crucial. The direction needs to be brought into the love play so he doesn't feel his efforts are being rejected. He needs to be steered rather that curbed. You can be as vocal as you like. ... (read in full...)
He says he misses me but I don't believe him so I ende things. I'm feeling used
Q. was seeing a man off an on for several month . he moved to another state and moved again with his son in fla . at first it seems ok now that I have retired things seem not right . so I have been thinking back an I look up how a relationship should ...
A. 16 January 2016: If this was an on/off relationship it doesn't appear that you have lost much. I like my partner to be on the scene. A relationship is built. It takes the two of you. I don't believe half-hearted affairs amount to much.
So, my advice would be to f... (read in full...)
My boyfriend turned 40 and has become sad and depressed. Does this happen to everyone?
Q. My boyfriend is 9 years older than me and we have been together for just over 3 years. When we met he was 36 and he seemed really full of life and we had so much fun! We talked about everything and anything and had sex a lot. He will be 40 ...
A. 16 January 2016: Birthdays with a zero always a bit more of a milestone that those in between. If he is starting to become depressed then exercise is paramount. It probably doesn't matter what kind to begin with. Some people can't stand gyms. I like swimming but ... (read in full...)
Should I Stay with bf or is he a forever commitment phobe?
Q. I would like to know if my boyfriend of 3 years is dragging his feet or should I move on? I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. We are both in our early early 30s. We talked about marriage and he says he wants it with me but does...
A. 16 January 2016: Yes of course he is procrastinating. Many men find themselves putting off this decision. You will need to bring this to a head to get any change. I wouldn't presume to tell you how to do this. You probably already know the answer and the risk.
B... (read in full...)
I lied to my dying friend and told him that I loved him. Now he's gone and I feel sick
Q. I slept with my friend because he was dying and because I felt guilty for leading him on. Each time after having sex he would cry and hug me and profess his love for me. He had a crush on me for years. During his last days I lied to him that I loved ...
A. 15 January 2016: I think your gift to him was beautiful. You did love him as a dear friend and you gave in the most generous way. I am touched by your love and kindness. It isn't wrong to do what you did. Quite the opposite. You reached out to him in what can be a ... (read in full...)
Why does he cuddle but no kisses?
Q. Hi I've spoken to you previously about man who was fwb but then seemed to want more then disappeared. Anyhow I am confused , have been seeing him lots , last six nights in row. He initiated was lovely , cuddled , spooned ,he was nude . thing is ...
A. 15 January 2016: This is just off the top of my head but do you think he might have an STD? Perhaps he doesn't want to kiss you because he might lose control and go for full intercourse so he is keeping himself in check.
Sometimes with a new partner it is a wise... (read in full...)
Are people really ever not looking for a relationship?
Q. Dear All Firstly, thanks for reading this. I was just wondering, partly inspired by past experiences but also mostly just out of curiosity. Do you think people are ever really just "Not looking for a relationship"? I'm the type of ...
A. 15 January 2016: People may steer away from a burgeoning relationship for all manner of reasons. It's not always about you. Her friends have told you she doesn't want a relationship, and I would accept that at face value. Don't go looking for hidden meanings. Her ... (read in full...)
Would you get mad at your partner if he or she only replied "thank you!" a day after you sent a naughty text message?
Q. Would you get mad at your BF of three years who is in South Africa right now visiting family if you sent him a sexually explicit message and it took him over a day to reply to it? Not only that but when he does reply it's short? The message de...
A. 14 January 2016: Not everyone is comfortable with this sort of approach. I think you are wrong to assume all men respond to this sort of thing. I would find an explicit message like you describe too OTT. So perhaps you need to accept that his reply was the best he ... (read in full...)
Confused after discovering her sexting: is she going to rekindle an old flame? Do I leave her or make it work for the kids?
Q. I caught my wife of 13 years sexting an old "friend" from her old neighborhood. I accidently received a pm from a social site (she used the site to sign into a music app on my phone and didn't sign off) and it contained explicit details of her ...
A. 14 January 2016: Boy did I get this the wrong way around. Sorry. However most of what I said earlier applies. Your wife was looking for a bit of excitement but she has to now decide on her family or the high road.
You really need to decide whether to give her anot... (read in full...)
Will having a pet interfere with my dating life?
Q. Hi all, this is not a relationship question as such but any advice would be appreciated. I have been single for just over a year now and living on my own for around 6 months. I have absolutely always wanted a dog or a cat (or even a rabbit), ...
A. 14 January 2016: Dogs are good for exercise. Cats are good for asthma. Rabbits are good for stew (joking). The great thing about having a dog is that wherever you are, people will come up and talk to you, or your dog at least.
Having a pet can curb spontaneity rega... (read in full...)
Confused after discovering her sexting: is she going to rekindle an old flame? Do I leave her or make it work for the kids?
Q. I caught my wife of 13 years sexting an old "friend" from her old neighborhood. I accidently received a pm from a social site (she used the site to sign into a music app on my phone and didn't sign off) and it contained explicit details of her ...
A. 14 January 2016: It's summit time for you and your husband. You need to draw a line. and he needs to agree never to cross it again. It should be a one-time offer. He's worth a second chance. He's strayed but you hold the cards.
He now has to live by the rules if h... (read in full...)
My first date from hell! What shall I do next?
Q. MY FIRST DATE FROM HELL So I was chatting to a lady for a few weeks. I met up with her 30 miles away from where I live and we went for a meal. Everything was grate and we got on really well and had a laugh, we went to her local for a drink afte...
A. 13 January 2016: It's a good story to dine out on and thanks for entertaining us with it. Presumably you won't be looking for a second date with this one. ... (read in full...)
Am I with the wrong guy?
Q. Hi agony aunts, hope you can help. Years ago i had this boyfriend. He was romantic, passionate, funny we were so in sync andthe sex was fantastic he was so in tune to my needs, however i was very young at the time and a very difficult teenag...
A. 13 January 2016: Why are you taking these messages from your ex' talking about sex? Doesn't that seem dishonest? Would it be OK if your current boyfriend was doing that with his ex? No, I don't think you would like it.
You would be doing your current boyfriend a fa... (read in full...)
Parents coming between us
Q. My parents disapprove of my boyfriend because he is of a different race. They keep nagging me about going out with him and today, my mom said that she's disappointed in me for choosing this guy. I'm 21 this year. Not only that, they also think th...
A. 13 January 2016: The flag you posted is Malaysia. Am I wrong in thinking that area is a bit of a cultural melting pot? Are you sure it is his race that is the problem? Have they actually said that?
The other thing I would like to know is are you still living unde... (read in full...)
How do I make it up to him?
Q. I have a HUGE crush on a guy I met in Tinder. We went on one date and it was MAGICAL. We have been speaking for a long time, and I have so much respect for the person I have come to know on a virtual level. I am attracted to him mind, heart and ...
A. 12 January 2016: Just meeting you and having the opportunity to take you out and wine and dine you should be enough. You could offer to pay for a nice bottle of wine. If you were thinking of a gift don't be too ostentatious. It's just a gesture.... (read in full...)
He criticizes me all the time, is this relationship worth pursuing?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm dating someone for past 3 weeks, we connected really well at the start, it's like we are destined to meet and everything. But the problem is he criticizes me all the time, but never compliments when I ask about it, says he doe...
A. 12 January 2016: He has to accept the whole package which is you or not at all. You are you and that's what makes you special. Find someone who loves the whole you. You deserve nothing less. Let this bozo find someone else to criticise. Who made him Mr Perfect?... (read in full...)
Sex is good but he's gone cold
Q. I met a guy at uni a few months ago and i guess we sort of became fuck buddies having mostly drunken sex. It hasn't been constant but before Christmas it was happening regularly and it turned into a more friends with benefits as we spent more time ...
A. 12 January 2016: It looks like you both got to uni' and started bonking like crazy because you could. And yes it's fun but you forgot about the other part of being in a relationship. The thing that makes it special is: love, care, respect. The physical side becomes ... (read in full...)
I can't see a way out of this hole ...
Q. I'm a friendless, 25 year old male that has never been in a relationship before. In "paper" it'd seem like I'm a good catch, I have a master's degree, a fulfilling and well-paying career and an awesome apartment downtown. The biggest issues that I ...
A. 11 January 2016: I think you need another dimension to your life. Why not go and teach children in Nepal? Why not become an aid worker in Africa?
Become a diving instructor in the Caribbean. Anything so your life isn't boring or self centred. You will find then you ... (read in full...)
Now I know should I meet him?
Q. Hi, I met this guy online. We been talking 5 months. He lives 2000 miles away. He wanted to come visit me however I have roommate so we mutually decided I go visit him. I was under the impression we were dating monogamously. Come to find out, he's...
A. 11 January 2016: Sorry if I misunderstood. If you can't get refund or a credit note for your flight then try selling it off on Ebay. It's a lesson learned and we all have them. Hopefully they get fewer as we grow older. :-)... (read in full...)
Is he a psycho? Is he trying to have friendship on his terms?
Q. Dear Aunts, a dilemma has been haunting my life since 3 years. A guy I was on/off with For 3 years has re-entered my life after he asked me to never contact him again In June. he wasn't being available and consistent so I burst and freaked out one ...
A. 11 January 2016: You are not listening - or not understanding the answers given to you so far. Whether he has a girlfriend or not is immaterial.... (read in full...)
Now I know should I meet him?
Q. Hi, I met this guy online. We been talking 5 months. He lives 2000 miles away. He wanted to come visit me however I have roommate so we mutually decided I go visit him. I was under the impression we were dating monogamously. Come to find out, he's...
A. 11 January 2016: Did I understand correctly that you were intending to travel with your roommate? If that is the case why not just turn it into a holiday for the two of you and ditch the assignation with Mr Popular who you now don't really want to see?
What was ... (read in full...)
Why couldn't he have come back in my life before I got married
Q. I feel my life is a movie right now and I need help please. Years ago when I was 22 (I'm now 34) I met and fell in love with this guy, my age and we were together almost 2 years. I was convinced he was "the one." He then got an opportunity to s...
A. 11 January 2016: Have you got to the stage in your marriage where you want a bit of glitter in your life? Could this be why you are prepared to break everything you and your husband built in order to enjoy the crazy romantic love that beckons? It's a huge step and I ... (read in full...)
I worry that telling him how I feel may scare him off!
Q. So I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month. I've met his parents and relatives on Christmas day, and I've also met all of his friends. He's only met like 4 people in my life: my mom (not introduced as a bf), 2 of my friends, and his ...
A. 11 January 2016: Stick to you plan to go to your east coast uni'. This is a wonderful period in your life. You are going to meet dozens of new and interesting people. Your present infatuation will fade and you will regret being stuck in you home state.
If both of y... (read in full...)
She complained against me. Am I justified in being cold towards her?
Q. I have a weird situation. I'm taking a tennis class, and I got an odd phone call from the person who runs the tennis classes telling me they had a complaint that I (and a few other people) weren't good enough to be in that class. I spoke to the ...
A. 11 January 2016: Don't be cold. Be charming. Confide in her that someone is causing trouble behind the scenes. Ask her advice.
I think it is unusual and unprofessional for the person running the course to contact you with this information. What was his point? Did ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend intend to send this email to another woman?
Q. I have a very big problem and it's been eating away at me for the past few hours but it's been ongoing. I know the fine people of DC will be able to provide me with the best possible advice and that is why I am here reaching out to you. My boyfri...
A. 11 January 2016: I would give him the benefit of the doubt. He probably has lots to cope with out there. If I may say so you come across as being 'needy'.
You may have reasons for your suspicions but you haven't wanted to share them so we don't have a complete pict... (read in full...)
Was it the right decision? To not have child by him?
Q. Over 30 years ago I met a man who became my first love. Cutting a very long story short, we met through music. In the 80's he got a break and was signed to a major label. Our relationship suffered due to other women and the fact that my life was at ...
A. 11 January 2016: Don't look back. I believe that everyone makes the best decisions they can at the time. Sometimes they work out and other times not. No-one sets out to make a bad decision although they can look that way in hindsight.
Your first love wanted a rock... (read in full...)
Is he a psycho? Is he trying to have friendship on his terms?
Q. Dear Aunts, a dilemma has been haunting my life since 3 years. A guy I was on/off with For 3 years has re-entered my life after he asked me to never contact him again In June. he wasn't being available and consistent so I burst and freaked out one ...
A. 10 January 2016: You are 50 per cent of this relationship. If you are happy to play emotional ping pong then carry on. If however you think you have had a craw full of the on/off thing then kick him into the long grass and find someone more stable.
However I have... (read in full...)
I worry that telling him how I feel may scare him off!
Q. So I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month. I've met his parents and relatives on Christmas day, and I've also met all of his friends. He's only met like 4 people in my life: my mom (not introduced as a bf), 2 of my friends, and his ...
A. 9 January 2016: Your question really doesn't target my worry, and that is that he TOLD you to go to a college so he can visit after he gets out of the military.
You say he leaves in a month for the military. How long is he signed up for? And he wants to visit you ... (read in full...)
She lies to me all the time so how can I trust her?
Q. I have been with an older woman for two years and she has continuously lied to me during that time, pretty relevant stuff at the beginning like who she is seeing, spending time with etc. but as time has gone on we have gotten over that but now it is ...
A. 8 January 2016: Compulsive lying is hard to deal with. It is destructive in a relationship. A compulsive liar will resort to telling lies, regardless of the situation. It's a habit and hard to stop. Part of the problem is that compulsive liars won't admit they do ... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on my professor who I've heard sleeps with students
Q. I am a second year student at a university and am 18 years old. I took a class last year with a professor and I think he might like me, I just don't know if he wants me. He tells me I look nice, and compliments me a lot. He also hugs me and tells me ...
A. 8 January 2016: I am concerned about you. You are an adult. You know the difference between right and wrong. Other Aunts have criticised the teacher, but it is you I worry about. You are the one who is already, in her imagination, climbing into bed with him. He ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and want to spice things up with my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend and I want to spice up our relationship, we have made out and kissed but nothing else. Any ideas what to do? ...
A. 8 January 2016: Assuming that your question is not bogus, on which I have doubts, or that or you and your boyfriend lack any imagination, just remember whatever you try stay safe. Read some books, learn about hygiene and getting pregnant. You also need to respect ... (read in full...)
The appearance bothers me. Could someone give me some advice to stop me overthinking about this?
Q. Hi all, in a 16 year old girl in my first relationship looking for advice. We've been together 3 months now and I really like him and he worships the ground I walk on, he's 17 going on 18 and he's been in a few previous relationships but only had...
A. 7 January 2016: Oh dear, surgery could sort this but I wouldn't suggest it unless you are grossly abnormal. Everyone is different. If he loves you it won't matter. Only change things if you want to, not to please someone who may not be around next year.
I pers... (read in full...)
Help? Who do I chose? My ex or my child's father?
Q. I met up with an ex boyfriend last year July having not seen him for over 15 years. It was magical and he made he feel so good. WE dated a few times and he even came to my works xmas party. That's the last time I saw him. We had a good ni...
A. 7 January 2016: You have answered your own question when you said:'As such as I cant see us ever living together or getting married.'
So would your ex' ever want to marry you, or should you be looking for someone new - the unmentioned option three? ... (read in full...)
Dating steps. When is it right to hold a girl's hand or kiss her when dating?
Q. I'm a straight guy with little romantic experience: I've been on two first dates and have kissed but am still a virgin. I've been happy to focus on my studies at university and indulging on my interests and hobbies. I've always had an open mind...
A. 7 January 2016: What were you doing in your teens when the rest of us were dating, going to dances, or just hanging out? It seems like your social skills have had a bypass.
Well you ave to go back to school now. It starts with taking a chance. No-one can teac... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and still a teenager and at university, what should I do?
Q. Okay so I think I'm pregnant and I'm petrified. I still live at home with my parents and I have a long term boyfriend but we're both at university and if I tell him I'm pregnant I don't want him to drop out even though I'll have to because I don't ...
A. 7 January 2016: You need to face up to this and quickly. Arrange an appointment at the Brook Advisory Clinic. They are in Birmingham and London. Don't delay. Time is of the essence. ... (read in full...)
My husband is angry and said I was careless!
Q. Hy.im muslim.my hubby got 2nd marriage.its a long story bt the short question is my husband shared something with me about hr..one day my husband nephew borrowed my phone when he was going with hr friends.me gave n he changed the sim.bt didnt ...
A. 7 January 2016: You just have to ride this one out. Also learn the lesson about saying only what you would say to a person's face. Then if they find out, you stand buy what has been written or said. Finally be aware of the trail you leave in emails and texts. ... (read in full...)
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