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writes:MY FIRST DATE FROM HELLSo I was chatting to a lady for a few weeks. I met up with her 30 miles away from where I live and we went for a meal. Everything was grate and we got on really well and had a laugh, we went to her local for a drink after the meal and she seen one of her girl mate who she ain't seen in ages, she came back over to me and said do you want another drink or do you want to go? I said yea we will go because I got work in the morning. We Pulled up at her house and she spoke about how she wants to settle down and be happy with a nice person, she went in home and I drove out of her road but went the wrong way, so I drove up the road and came back round the roundabout. She was walking up the street and I pulled up and said are u ok? She said no because one of the lads that was with her mate at the pub has kicked off so she was going back to see what's going on. i said ok get in and we will go back. We pulled up and she ran in the pub. I followed after I locked the car up. Know one was in there so I went to the ladies toilet and heard her in there talking to her friend and said " what can I do he thinks I am a good girl and I can't really say I just want to come back and get pissed up with you lot so can you lie for me and said something kicked off but it's fine know" so She walked out the door and seen me standing there. Her heart must of dropped into her ass! Lol so after stuttering her words out she said she's sorry and feels really ashamed and embarrassed. She said she lied because she didn't want me to think she was a piss head and her ex was a control freak that wouldn't even let her go to the shop on her own so she lied to me about going back to the pub and the hole story she made up n trying to get her friend to lie too. I said what's annoyed me is the fact that I drove all the way up here and you just sat there and looked into my eyes and said you just want to settle down and be happy and then made this hole bullshit story up about some lads kicking off when they looked like they wouldn't hurt a fly and was drinking fucking panda pops in the corner! Anyway I grabbed her bag off the seat and chucked it out the window and drove off in disgust! why lie and on a first date? I would of just left her at the pub and went home if she wanted to stay with her friend! Now she texting me saying she's sorry and embarrassed and she wants to see me again! What shall I do Next?I just want to settle down and be happy
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reader, Drt1985 +, writes (14 January 2016):
Drt1985 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your view and advice I appreciate it and the help you give to people. I won't be going on a second date and I've deleted her number, I liked her because she was attractive and we got on very well but I can't do lieing let alone on the first date. She's deleted my number as I requested haha thank you so much peeps ;)
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (14 January 2016):
 oh dear... um thats a bit embarrassing and weird. Personally I wouldn't give her another thought, I would expect if you were to meet up again it would be rather uncomfortable for both. She fluffed it, so be it
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 January 2016):
 Oh block her. She is a time waster.
All she could have said was, I'm heading back to met up with my friend, no need for elaborate lies. Or she could have thanks you and said, I think I'd stay at the pub making sure my friend is not alone.
I would not go on a second date with her, nor would I want to be "friends".
IF she so readily lied to you on the first date, how do you think she would act if dating? Do you think she would just stop lying?
It's a bit shady.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 January 2016):
 It was only a first date, its up to you how you proceed from here, you can just say you are not interested or you can give her another chance, the choice is yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2016): Don't go on a second date with her? She lied to you on the first date, would you ever believe anything she says after this?
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reader, Denizen +, writes (13 January 2016):
 It's a good story to dine out on and thanks for entertaining us with it. Presumably you won't be looking for a second date with this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2016): If she already is making up that kind of whopper on your first date, I don't see that she is very good relationship material. You would not want to settle down with someone like that.I think your first instinct was correct about chucking her and her stuff out. She will not make you happy in the long run if she is a compulsive liar, and already trying to manipulate you with her stories.Move on to the next one. At least you found out right away!Best of luck to you, you deserve better treatment.
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