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writes:I'm in a very confusing situation at the moment. I temporarily live with my boyfriend and his 3 flat mates. They are all boys about my age (19-21). Not an ideal situation to start with but on New Year's Eve while drunk with my friends I called one of the boys. The phone call was fine until I got a bit too flirty with him. Him being a long time friend of my boyfriend's didn't take it well.The awkward atmosphere in the flat isn't even the biggest issue but the fact that I realized I might be a bit more interested in said flat mate than someone's girlfriend should be. I can't get him out of my head and tried talking with him saying the flirting really didn't mean anything but it only made me feel worse. I feel terribly guilty for having a crush on someone else and it's getting harder to hide that from my boyfriend... Is there anyone there with a suggestion on how to at least get the atmosphere back to normal? Thanks x
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reader, ange.lique +, writes (19 January 2016):
ange.lique is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi!
Thank you so much for your answers.
I think I agree with aunt honesty on not pursuing the flat mate.
When we first started talking he aeemed interested and definitely sensed some flirting but now that everything's out in the open he won't even look at me.
It is going to be the hardest thing I've ever done to tell my boyfriend that I don't feel the same anymore since he's never done anything wrong.
Thanks x
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (19 January 2016):
Regarding Denize's comment: I don't think dating your boyfriend's long time friend is a good idea. Unless you honestly feel that guy is the only one you will ever get interested in. If your boyfriend loves you he'll be devastated. Also from what you said his friend didn't look interested in you.
Leaving your boyfriend could be a good idea since you don't look interested in him anymore.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 January 2016):
 I don't think the atmosphere will ever get back to the way it was if I am being honest. You are not in the best situation. If you are having feelings for someone else then maybe you need to look at your relationship with your boyfriend and ask yourself is it really what you want? Because my guess is that its not if you are having feelings for someone else.
I don't think that anything will happen between you and the guy you are living with if you break up with your boyfriend because it sounds like he wouldn't do that to his friend.
My advice to you would be to break up with your boyfriend if you are not feeling the relationship, or if you choose to stay with him, then the best thing you can do is move into some other place and create some distance between you and his friend.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (18 January 2016):
 The best thing is to leave your boyfriend as gently as possible. After a decent amount of time you can take up with your new fancy. I say leave a decent amount of time for everyone's sake. It's OK to date your current boyfriend's friend but not on the bounce.
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