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writes:My boyfriend of three years has suddenly been showing an interest in going down on me. It's never been something I've ever brought up, so I guess he just got curious and decided to try himself since I go down on him quite often whenever we're intimate.Ok, the thing is, oral has not been pleasurable for me. At least the way he's doing it.. And I'm not sure how to correct him as I'm not sure how to make it feel better, myself. It's been the third time he's gone down on me and I honestly feel like he has no idea what he's doing down there... He seems to enjoy himself but there are moments where nothing is going on, or like last time, he somehow started using his NOSE a lot more than his hands at all, and that weirded me out. I start getting insecure and uncomfortable and want him to stop. How can I correct this? Is talking him through the whole deal the only way to make this more comfortable for me? I'd like to enjoy it as much as he enjoys me going down on him, but I'm starting to lose faith lol.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 January 2016):
 YES, you tell him.... not in a critical tone... but by telling him what you like best..... and asking him to experiment whilest you offer your feedback....
There's nothing that should be "off the table" when two people are trying to pleasure one-another....
Good luck...
P.S. If you want me to come over and give him a lesson on just HOW to do it, that can be arranged!!!
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (16 January 2016):
 Of course tell him, but it's the way you tell him that is crucial. The direction needs to be brought into the love play so he doesn't feel his efforts are being rejected. He needs to be steered rather that curbed. You can be as vocal as you like. That will show him when he is doing well and if he wants to please you, as he should then, he will pick up the cues. If he starts making you uncomfortable then gently direct him to a better area. Be a little more controlling in a subtle feminine way. At least he's trying.
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