How can I stop my family from questioning everything my husband and I do?
Q. Hiya Just a little question for you all..I am 35 years old, married, own a beautiful home and have a good job. All which I achieved. When I was a teenager, I had some fun like every other teenager, went travelling etc. I tried university but d...
A. 24 February 2016: Just ignore it. It's really none of their business. If they keep asking you how you can afford it then reply honestly: 'Just hard work and thrift'.
You might also try heavy irony if it amuses you. Tell them it's easy when you run and inte... (read in full...)
My fiance's overbearing brother wants us over every weekend and its exhausting for us. How do we draw the line?
Q. Hi- My fiancé and I have been together for almost four years. We dated for two years. We stayed at his parents a lot during this time because there was more space opposed to my parents. His brother and wife would stop by his parents here and...
A. 22 February 2016: I probably shouldn't have told you to be rude. Sorry. It's just that I hate to see people being walked over when a few choice words could set the ship straight.... (read in full...)
Are my best friend and I in love?
Q. Okay so things with my best guy friend of about 4 years (I have known him since we were babies) have recently got more complicated. A few years ago our relationship was sort of flirty but nothing ever happened between is and then it fizzled ...
A. 22 February 2016: You haven't really said what outcome you would want from this. Whether you would like this to become something more or not is fundamental to how you proceed. Remember you are part of this to. Life just doesn't happen to you. You play a part too.
S... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 22 February 2016: In life you can be an optimist or a pessimist. You might as well be an optimist. The outcome overall is much better. It is a better way to live. You are nicer to be around.
If someone is being a pessimist to protect himself from disappointment then... (read in full...)
My fiance's overbearing brother wants us over every weekend and its exhausting for us. How do we draw the line?
Q. Hi- My fiancé and I have been together for almost four years. We dated for two years. We stayed at his parents a lot during this time because there was more space opposed to my parents. His brother and wife would stop by his parents here and...
A. 20 February 2016: YouWish has put some good points. There is something else you might do. You say your fiancée has tried being nice. Well just be bloody rude. Sometimes you need to give someone a proverbial slap to get their attention. You have been holding in all ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty but I want to move on from my ex
Q. Me and my ex broke up after two years due to me not being able to trust him from the 1 year point, he wouldn't let me have him on facebook due to us having such an on and off relationship, he started hiding the fact that he was with me and I saw him ...
A. 20 February 2016: You really need to screw your head back on. Unprotected sex with your ex'? And you haven't blocked him on your phone. Darling you have left the door open, and he is going to keep coming back until you slam it shut.
Be mean to him. Do what it take... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual, yet why do I orgasm faster with female partners than with men?
Q. From when i was about 14 i knew i liked men, i use to have cheeky self pleasures to gay porn and love it. As i got older i followed the 'normal' path, got a girlfriend and then came the night of losing my v, i panicked, what if i can't get it up i ...
A. 20 February 2016: Perhaps a female partner understands better than the men you have been with, how your body works. Or maybe you just find them more sexy. What do you think?... (read in full...)
My husband chose this other woman over our daughter and me and now wants a divorce
Q. Hi everyone hope you can help me out today. Well I'll start off by saying I'm recently separated and in the process of divorce. I was married for the last 8 years to a man who I really thought was the love of my life and everything I've ...
A. 20 February 2016: I am sorry to hear about this situation. I know it is ceaseless pain you feel. It can seem worse than bereavement. Take comfort in you beautiful daughter. That is something good that has come out of it all.
I am sorry to tell you that it takes a lo... (read in full...)
Why does my lover play the push and pull game?
Q. Why does my lover push and pull? I am actually quite fed up with it. After 5 years, I don't want to be ignored and sent minimal three word texts. Have told him as much. I would much rather be told if he needed his space, didn't want to message. Not ...
A. 19 February 2016: Stop being so available. It sounds like you are at his beck and call. You are the other side of this push pull game. So decide you aren't go to play by his rules anymore. It's time to turn the tables girl!... (read in full...)
Why do my crush and his friends keep staring at me?
Q. There's this guy at my badminton who'll stare at me constantly, mostly with a smile on his face. And if I stare back he'll alert his friends and they'd all turn round and look at me. In our last game, he stayed next to our court and got his friends ...
A. 19 February 2016: You could always try the old trick of dropping something, like a wrist band, as you walk out just before him. It gives him the opportunity to pick it up and run after you. It gives him the excuse to approach you.
If he can't manage that perh... (read in full...)
Frustrated love life. Is it true that some people truly are unlucky in love?
Q. Bad luck with love! Is it true that some people are unlucky with love? Finding the "one"? Having a serious relationship and growing old together? I'm starting to think I'm going to have that problem. I'm turning 25 soon and I've only ha...
A. 19 February 2016: Just take one ball at a time. Put the ducks in order ie. set out your priorities and tick them off one after another. You are trying to juggle too many problems at the moment.
You are just adding to your worries when they all become entangled like... (read in full...)
Why do my crush and his friends keep staring at me?
Q. There's this guy at my badminton who'll stare at me constantly, mostly with a smile on his face. And if I stare back he'll alert his friends and they'd all turn round and look at me. In our last game, he stayed next to our court and got his friends ...
A. 19 February 2016: This is not your problem. If he fancies you he needs to get the courage to ask you out. If on the other hand he and his friends are playing some mean game then you still need to ignore them.
What do your friends think? It is hard to give an opin... (read in full...)
I see him more as a friend, a good friend but there's a spark there, but not that much of a spark?
Q. okay so, ive been texting / meeting this guy for a couple of months now and things are going well, he's great such a nice guy so funny. he's told me that he's likes me but I told him a few weeks back that I don't want anything serious which he ...
A. 18 February 2016: I think you are messing this poor guy about as you aren't being clear. He probably thinks he has a chance. I think you should do the slow let down. Gradually stop texting and back off the meetings.
You are going to lean on him more and more thro... (read in full...)
I have feelings for a guy that I work with
Q. I have feelings for a guy that I work with!! On our works Christmas party we kissed, before this we had a laugh and banter together. Since the kiss, we have spoken everyday since. Just general chat, the odd compliment, generally just getting to ...
A. 18 February 2016: When people get to know each other it doesn't always work out that they are a good fit. In your case it sounds like you have both been looking sensibly at each other. No china has been broken.
He has respectfully decided that it isn't quite righ... (read in full...)
Why do some folks gossip so much?
Q. Why do folks gossip so much? Heard a couple of women from work gossiping about our Manager and her estranged relationship with her husband. Am not a fan of my manager but these two women did grow in the organization because of her- where is the...
A. 17 February 2016: I suppose it is of interest to them. There's different kind of gossip of course. One sort is just dissemination of information. This can at times be useful. There is malicious gossip in which reputations can be torn apart. Sometimes though people ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to be romantic again! He's gotten too comfortable
Q. Dear cupid me and my bf have been together a year and 4 months.We are pretty happy 80% of the time. But lately I feel taken for granted.Sometimes he seems irritable with me for no reason and im getting trust issues from this.I feel like he's getting ...
A. 16 February 2016: Can you accept him the way he is? Some men aren't demonstrative. Perhaps it's true you have fallen into a rut and he is taking you for granted. How can you break that cycle?
You can talk to him directly and tell him that if he doesn't pay more atte... (read in full...)
This girl overheard me and now she know who my crush is. How do I react when he finds out?
Q. hi,so i need a quick answer right now.heres my problem:so i have this crush,and i was talking about him with my friends,but this girl "overheard" it and yelled at my crush,fortunately he didn't hear,but she was yelling beside the bus, i was making ...
A. 16 February 2016: Considering everything going on in the world I think you can put this problem to the bottom of your worry list. It might be mildly embarrassing but it is going to happen a lot more and a lot worse as you progress through life. Don't worry. Laugh it ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be turned on that your wife slept with other guys before you met her?
Q. When I met my new wife I had just gotten divorced. I had only been with my ex-wife so didn't have much experience. My new wife had been married twice and had two children. I'm not overly endowed so I was very nervous about having sex with her for ...
A. 16 February 2016: Do I think it's normal? No, I don't. It suggests to me that you are more concerned with the sexual act than the person. You are feeding some fantasy. You need to consider well what is happening in your head that is driving these thoughts. ... (read in full...)
Confront the cad or befriend the heartbroken girlfriend!
Q. So, out of nowhere 6 months ago a random facebook friend stole my heart. He wished me a happy birthday, charmed me right off of my feet and for a few months after that we chatted incessantly, day and night. He's a world traveling performance artist ...
A. 16 February 2016: Sometimes it's not your battle. Don't feel you have to involve yourself further. This person helped you through a difficult time. Take the good from it.
And as a side question, why is the Filipina girl contacting you? How did she get your addr... (read in full...)
Dating 2 years, said he wants to be friends, had an abortion after unplanned pregnancy and now don't know where I stand with him!
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 2 yrs now but he says he doesn't feel the spark and wants to be friends and we found out that I was pregnant! He got close to me again and was very supportive during the abortion and keeps teasing me that we ...
A. 15 February 2016: He sounds like he is caring but doesn't have the maturity to be the partner you need. Don't try and hold on to this one. He will always resent you for it.
If you let go he might realise what he would be missing without you. Or he might just go. ... (read in full...)
I'm missing having close friends and a best friend! What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am trying to figure out what to do because I have MANY acquaintances, but no close friends. Granted, my life is not bad. I have a really great boyfriend, we go to a lot of parties and outings with other people, and I do hang ou...
A. 15 February 2016: Bridges can often be rebuilt - that's if you are sure they should be. True friends can't be manufactured. If you find yourself in a bit of a desert as far as friends go you have to make do with what you have.
Sometimes you can find them in the most... (read in full...)
My teacher has started treating me differently and won't listen to me
Q. Hey everyone i have a problem with my teacher this is the last year. Here in high school He taught me english for two years .he is an excellent english teacher and i really respect him a lot he is nice to me and we talk all the times i konw tha...
A. 14 February 2016: Just leave him alone. It may not be about you. He might have troubles of his own that are nothing to do with you. Perhaps you were becoming too demanding - who can say?
Just respect the distance that should be between teacher and student. Do you ... (read in full...)
My gf is texting another guy
Q. Hi guys, I've been with my current girlfriend for over a year. At first, we started off as casual. During this time, she hooked up with two different guys and then met her ex girlfriend for Valentine's day (she swore nothing happened). I acc...
A. 11 February 2016: A line has to be drawn on this. You are right to be upset. What on earth is she thinking about? She has to explain to him that she is already in a relationship; she isn't looking for anything else, and will he please stop messaging her. Then she ... (read in full...)
What is crossing the boundary between an attached guy and his female friend? Please enlighten me!
Q. Recently, a female friend called my boyfriend about a personal issue. She was talking about a guy whom she slept with and did not want to pursue anything beyond FWB with her. They used to be colleagues, but by the time this call took place, they ...
A. 10 February 2016: What does you boyfriend think about this? I think it is important to know how he wants to deal with this. You must talk to him. Is there anymore that can be achieved by his meeting her in person?
It just crossed my mind but she isn't pregnant is s... (read in full...)
Should I give my shy crush a Valentine's card?
Q. Hey! Should I give my shy crush a valentine's card? Im almost certain he knows I like him, as other agree it's been made obvious- but he also knows I'm shy.. BTW I don't know this guy as a friend yet, although he does always make shy conversation...
A. 10 February 2016: Valentine's day is the day for sending Valentine cards so go right ahead. Of course you know that you never sign them - but you can include a little hint. Hope you et one back.... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend cheated on his ex wife and I'm worried he will cheat on me
Q. I met a lovely guy a few weeks ago who was married for 18 years. He said they broke up many times but waited until their daughter grew up before they divorced. He said that he cheated on his ex with one married lady from an adult dating site and ...
A. 9 February 2016: Well he probably didn't have to tell you any of this stuff. That displays a certain honesty. And it sounds as if he and his wife stayed in the marriage for the sake of the child.
If your intuition about him is good I would give it a try. The one ... (read in full...)
My bi girlfriend wants to have a threesome and I'm not cool about it
Q. Ok so my girlfriend who's bi kissed her friend who's also bi whilst the friend was pretty drunk, she then told me about it afterwards and I told her that I wasn't mad (she's only 18 and has never actually experimented) but I didn't want her to do it ...
A. 9 February 2016: It sounds as if you aren't comfortable sharing your girlfriend. While it might seem like you are being asked to play the lead in a porn movie the reality will change not only your relationship with your girlfriend, but also how you think about ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 3 years cheated, broke up with me and now is dating the woman he cheated on me with. I'm not coping well
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 3 years, with our relationship ending about 3 months ago. I had always thought my boyfriend was a great man and a great partner, but he really did me dirty towards the end and also after our break up. He ended up ...
A. 9 February 2016: When your trust is broken like this it can be wounding in a very deep way. Know that before he cheated on you he had already done it in his head. It is good you found out now. You are rid of him, and when you have healed you will meet someone ... (read in full...)
How should I message the guy I like ?
Q. Hi ive just joined a dating site and ive seen someone i fancy on it ,its not quite as simple as that, this person isnt a stranger to me hes like an acquaintance ive always had a liking of him we spoke a few times over the years . im quite a very ...
A. 8 February 2016: Dating sites are remarkably unreliable. If I were you I would use a carrier pigeon or a message tied to an arrow. (I jest) There is also the time-honoured way of asking a mutual friend to intercede. Otherwise if you want to continue with the dating ... (read in full...)
Why do men have long term relationships but never fall in love with me?
Q. Hi, why do men seem to like me have long term relationships but never seem to fall in love with me. I feel i should just give up trying. i am in love with my partner of 6.5 months but he says he has feelings but too early to talk about love. i...
A. 8 February 2016: Love isn't really about the words. It's how you feel. Do you feel cared for? Do you feel supported? Are you valued? If so cherish what you have.
Love is an easy word to bandy about, but having someone who is there for you; thinking about you; putt... (read in full...)
This boy used to like my cousin, but now he likes me, and I don't know what to do!
Q. I need help well see my cousin and I are very close she is like a sister to me well this boy that used to like her doesn't like her no more because he doesn't want to keep opening up how he feels about her if she doesn't feel the same way and one ...
A. 8 February 2016: It's great to have an admirer isn't it. Your instinct is right to be a cautious about this boy's turn of affection towards you. But hey! Take it slow and go out on a SAFE date if you want to.
You can tell your cousin if it makes you feel bett... (read in full...)
Does my personal trainer have a crush on me?
Q. I am 20 and he is 36 and is married according to his FaceBook. When I first met my personal trainer, he kept looking deep into my eyes with the biggest smile. He then texted me asking how my day has been and when I am starting, to have a good ...
A. 7 February 2016: This question comes up repeatedly. My best guess is, No! He does not have a crush on you. Maybe he is flirting; maybe not. It goes with the territory.
It is a bit of sugar that keeps women coming to the gym. Everybody likes to feel they might be a... (read in full...)
I've changed my mind about children .....
Q. I made a deal with my husband before we got married in 2011. Back then I was young and immature. We considered each other soul mates. We both liked the care free lifestyle. Like playing video games, travelling and partying. We work in the gam...
A. 6 February 2016: A lot depends on your financial situation. Are you both secure? My ex' sprung it on me and I didn't object. Although we have been apart for some years my children are the best part of our time together. I originally didn't want children but they ... (read in full...)
When I try to talk about problems in our relationship my partner just shuts down
Q. I have several issues in my 4 year relationship p. I would like to address them but my partner just shuts down and doesn't engage. It's like talking to a wall. I never get any response, except 'just look forward'. Is there any hope and can this work ...
A. 6 February 2016: You ask if it's time to leave? It rather depends on the issues you want to discuss. Can you provide some more information without being indiscreet?
The reason for avoiding questions is often to avoid conflict, particularly if they could be make or b... (read in full...)
I like this girl but haven't even talked to her and yet and don't know much about her
Q. Hey ppl, So I met this girl at this place where we both volunteer together to teach underprivileged kids and she is really really really super pretty,what's more?...from what I've seen and heard about her she also seems to be a really good huma...
A. 5 February 2016: When she's not surrounded by friends ask her if she would like to meet you for a coffee. Where's the harm in that? She can say yes or no. If she says no then say, 'Perhaps another time then?' You will get a feeling if she might be open to the idea. ... (read in full...)
Why am I always taken the wrong way?
Q. how do I always get taken the wrong way? when I was in high school I was always the girl my friends wanted to set up with someboy. They kept telling me they wanted to me to be happy but when I said I liked being single they said I was one of those ...
A. 4 February 2016: Essentially you need to start taking responsibility for your own life. You have let it all happen to you. Taking decisions is the most empowering thing you can do. Some may be right and some wrong but at least they are your decisions.
When gett... (read in full...)
This is my first relationship and I'm not sure what to do
Q. Hello ive started talking to a girl on instagram and i think she likes me but before i go deep in the relationship i want to meet her in person. So i was thinking about a stroll in the park but i am pretty sure i like. However i dont want to ruin my ...
A. 4 February 2016: You say before you go deep in the relationship you want to meet her. Well, 'meeting her' is the relationship not the instagram. Meeting is the important bit.
Strolling in the park sounds enjoyable if the weather is right. There is opportunity to t... (read in full...)
We had one date, thought it went great, but does it seem like she's blowing me off now?
Q. So I met this girl at a friends party two weeks ago. We talked for about an hour and I got her number. I asked her out via text, and she said she'd like to but couldn't that week because of a trip, but said she'd be up for it the following week. ...
A. 3 February 2016: You haven't been shown the red card yet. I would say she is proceeding cautiously - which is good. Keep trying. Keep it light. Let it be fun. Be happy.... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend trust me?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months now.We communicate well with each other and always have fun together. However, whenever I talk about my friends (which are mostly male) he'll start to get jealous. I bring up a simple topic like ...
A. 3 February 2016: This is the time when he, and you, have to realise that you are NOT his. You are NOT a possession or a trophy. You WILL choose your own friends. You WILL decide who YOU talk to or not.
Insane jealousy is terrible to live with. Either he chills out,... (read in full...)
Is he rejecting me?
Q. so me and a guy have been talking for a long while. i am 19 now, we've been talking since i was sixteen. i went out once with a group of friends and he is a friend of theirs, he just showed up and we had never met before. he showed up, greeted me ...
A. 2 February 2016: As you are posting using the flag of the Arab Emirates I would advise you to think carefully about your behaviour with this man. I'm certain it would be frowned on. The culture of behaviour between men and women is different in your country as you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love two men at the same time?
Q. Is it possible to love two men at the same time. I am still in love with my first boyfriend. He has never left my heart recently came back after not seeing for nearly 20 years. The feelings came back instantly. I am in love with my child's father ...
A. 2 February 2016: Have you posted this question before? It seems familiar. My answer is that you can only have half the world. And two, choose the lighter happiness.... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 27 January 2016: This is someone who is struggling to come to terms with the realities of life. You are better keeping your head down and getting on with your own stuff.
When you are young you only see the difficulties in getting where you imagine you want to be. ... (read in full...)
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