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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI am dating someone for past 3 weeks, earlier he seemed to be ok, wanted to talk to me all the time, we connected well. Had sex previous week and after that he is ignoring me, my calls, when I ask says he is busy over work, and today is sat, still no response for my calls or text, though I know he saw my text.I feel cheated, that all this was just to have sex with me, he is not even that attractive and had a very bad breadth but I liked him atleast I thought so.Question is, how should I stop going after someone who ignores me like this, I want to stop asking him why he is doing this. I know the answer but still I'm keep on calling and waiting for his call forever, it sucks completely. Please help mePs - I am introvert and have social anxiety, I don't have friends in the city I live.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 January 2016):
 2 weeks in might have been WAY to early to determine if he was only looking for sex or wanted more, so next time you date a guy... GET to know him, take your time, make it more like 3-5 months of dating before sex.
NOT that I blame you or anything, just common sense advice.
He wasn't looking for a relationship , but sex. He faked interest just long enough to bed you.
So how do you stop?
YOU BLOCK and then DELETE his number. That way he can't call you and you can't call him.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (17 January 2016):
You were nothing other than sex to him. Learn and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2016): You have to realize that you are letting your ego get in the way. He doesn't want to be with you. Deep down you know this. Why doesn't he want to be with you? Who the heck knows why? He just doesn't. He is letting you know this by ignoring you and making himself unavailable. You are at the very bottom of his priority list. You are taking his rejection way too personal. But you have to realize it's your ego talking. Ego is a FALSE sense of pride. It's a "false" sense of pride because in order to keep the ego pride, you are not acting proud and dignified at all, but pathetic. Calling him when he hasn't called you. Asking him why he hasn't called you. Etc. just stop. Ignore your ego and instead tap into your TRUE sense of pride. True pride is humble, it doesn't take things personally and can let go and walk away silently with dignity. True pride is to accept that he lost interest. Just accept it and walk away.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (17 January 2016):
 Yeah, he used you for sex. You stop going after him by STOPPING. Delete his contact info in your phone, and delete him from your social media.
If you're looking for a guy who's not just after sex, then you may want to wait longer than 1-2 weeks to have it. Guys who are interested in relationships with women tend to slow down and get to know them.
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reader, hany  +, writes (17 January 2016):
 It's Obvious that he used you for sex, for one nightyou've to stop calling him and think about yourselfevery minute you contact him, it takes him more away from you.I know that kind of men, and how they thinkTry to get busy with your work, or go for jogging it always helps for thinking and ordering your ideasHope you will be OK soon
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (17 January 2016):
 This is like asking how do I stop banging my head on the wall. You stop. You haven't achieved anything with your present method so it is ridiculous to keep trying that.
My only other suggestion would be to ask a mutual friend. You are only three weeks in so no great loss if you never see each other again. It's just your pride demanding answers. Are you sure you want to hear them? Is it that important? Or can you do the sensible thing and let it go and look for a better match?
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