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*elga17
writes:So I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month. I've met his parents and relatives on Christmas day, and I've also met all of his friends. He's only met like 4 people in my life: my mom (not introduced as a bf), 2 of my friends, and his cousin who hooked us up. We're together almost 3-4 days in a week. He told me he likes me a lot and I said it back. Last weekend he was really drunk and he kept telling me he likes me a lot, and even asked me to be his girlfriend until he leaves in a month for the military. I told him to ask me this again when he's sober and he agreed. He even told me to go to college in a university closer to our city so he can visit me often after he gets out if the military. He told me I make him happy and he hasnt been this happy for a while until we started seeing each other. Two days after that drunken night, I asked him if he meant what he said, he yes but he emphasized that it will only last for a month, so I just didn't answer his question. And then I told him I like him a lot, it was my first time saying it first. I eventually poured my heart out to him. I told him that he fascinates me and i think he's wonderful. I told him Im happier when Im with him and he told me he's less lonely and happy when he's with me. I asked him if I was scaring him off saying all these things, he said no. And even said it's better to get it out of my chest before it's too late. We were talking until 5am and it just felt so comfortable and good to be just laying and talking to him. It's been 2 days since, and we haven't talked much. My question is, did I scare him off telling him about my feelings even though he said otherwise?
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (11 January 2016):
 Stick to you plan to go to your east coast uni'. This is a wonderful period in your life. You are going to meet dozens of new and interesting people. Your present infatuation will fade and you will regret being stuck in you home state.
If both of you do still feel strongly towards each other then he will have leave, and can hop over to visit you. You are too young to start limiting your horizons. He signed up. You didn't.
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reader, Helga17 +, writes (10 January 2016):
Helga17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy "going to the military" I meant he's going to undergo basic training for 5 months. But he'll come back to our city because thats where he'll be stationed. I'm leaving for college to east coast in 6 months tho, thats why he was recommending me to go to a university closer to our state so when he comes back from basic training, he can visit me often.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (9 January 2016):
Your question really doesn't target my worry, and that is that he TOLD you to go to a college so he can visit after he gets out of the military.
You say he leaves in a month for the military. How long is he signed up for? And he wants to visit you AFTER he gets out. Presumably he could be posted almost anywhere in the world during the interim period.
This doesn't sound like a great deal for you. I get it that you really have the hots for this guy, but time and absence have a way of cooling things. So, before you start changing universities and moving cities I would see how permanent this relationship will turn out to be. You haven't known each other for that long have you?
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