A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:My parents disapprove of my boyfriend because he is of a different race. They keep nagging me about going out with him and today, my mom said that she's disappointed in me for choosing this guy. I'm 21 this year.Not only that, they also think that dating will affect my studies. Well, I can assure you that it doesn't. In fact, YouTube does. But they don't understand. My mom kept asking me to find someone of the same race when she isn't even the same race as my dad. And the guy I'm dating, this might sound corny to you or maybe you think it's childish, but he's the one. I need a listener and advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 January 2016):
 It is your life and your choice, they might not be to happy about your choices but it is still you who makes the call.
It sounds strange to me that your parents are off a different race and yet they disagree with you being with someone with a different race. Have they actually said to you this is the reason they don't want you together?
If you prove to them that you can keep up with your studies and do well in your exams then they will see for themselves that he is not distracting you.
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male
reader, Denizen  +, writes (13 January 2016):
 The flag you posted is Malaysia. Am I wrong in thinking that area is a bit of a cultural melting pot? Are you sure it is his race that is the problem? Have they actually said that?
The other thing I would like to know is are you still living under your parent's roof? That would be unusual in the West at your age. However it might be normal where you are.
If you are really certain this person is for you and you for him then I would say love conquers all. You have to cut reliance on your folks and follow your heart. However you must give your parents a chance to explain fully what their reservations are about this person.
In the West it is 2016 and adults make their own decisions about their lives. I understand that in some cultures things haven't got that far particularly for women.
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