Is it too late ? How do I apologise sincerely and convincely? I know I messed up and ruined our trip gether.
Q. i was seeing a very nice guy soon after ending a long term relationship of 13 years. Unfortunately it only lasted a few months because I was not ready for a relationship so soon and he was hurt by me. we planned a trip together and right before...
A. 11 October 2012: Sending him a card to his new home, along with the apology, isn't a bad idea. It's a good opportunity (or maybe excuse) to get in touch with him. But no, I don't think you should send a gift. ... (read in full...)
Is it too late ? How do I apologise sincerely and convincely? I know I messed up and ruined our trip gether.
Q. i was seeing a very nice guy soon after ending a long term relationship of 13 years. Unfortunately it only lasted a few months because I was not ready for a relationship so soon and he was hurt by me. we planned a trip together and right before...
A. 11 October 2012: It's never too late to apologise, and it shows that you're a good person. The thing is, you may not get a response. So of you write to him, let it be with the motive of making a genuine, selfless apology rather than because you want/ expect ... (read in full...)
Should I quit work and return to Uni? In a LTR which may be affected by the decision.
Q. This isn't really a relationship problem but I would be very grateful for any advice offered. Basically I suspended my uni studies last year due to personal problems and I'm torn between going back or not. I'm worried if I do go back the same thing ...
A. 11 October 2012: I personally think you should give uni another shot. You have a job and money now, so it feels comfortable, but the job market isn't that stable. You'll be able to access better paid jobs, and more jobs, with a degree behind you. I know 3 years ... (read in full...)
Why do I shake when near climaxing? I'm embarrassed. Is it normal?
Q. So when and my boyfriend are doing foreplay I obviously get turned up to the point of climaxing and when I know I'm nearing that I get him to stop. I do this because I tend to shake when I do. I'm worried that he'll find it weird which is why I st...
A. 11 October 2012: I think the shaking is normal and probably isn't as noticeable as you think. Relax, your boyfriend wants you to climax! It's nothing to be embarrassed about, in fact it's a good thing that you have no problems climaxing (apart from this). You don't ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends child calls me 'mom'. I feel awkward. Am I overreacting?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been dating a guy for about 6 years now. When he was in highschool he had a child with his then girlfriend who kept the child, and my boyfriend supports the kid, monetary wise and even spends time with this kid..about 2 yea...
A. 11 October 2012: How old is this girl? I can understand it happening naturally with a toddler but she must be older so it's a bit more complicated. Especially since her mum has left to go back to uni. It's complex. I think you should talk about it with your ... (read in full...)
Short term affair with girl from abroad. What are the rules?
Q. Well, im peruvian and a girl came to my house to study abroad, she's living with me and my family. The thing is that i really like her and she also says that she feels the same way. Even though she also have told me that she loves me and I also feel ...
A. 10 October 2012: Hi. I'm not from the USA (UK), but I don't think it's 'good form' or 'playing by the rules' for anyone to be sleeping with one person and making out with others. If she wants to see other people and won't stop even though you're not comfortable with ... (read in full...)
Should I date this guy with no job and who didn't go to college? I like him!
Q. Hey guys,I've been friends with this dude since early this year.(March to be precise).Well, we exchanged numbers and really hit it off.Lately we've been spending lots of time together and i really like him and he feels the same way too.Thing is he ...
A. 10 October 2012: OP it's important that you describe him as hard working. I think that's more important than whether or not he has a good job at the moment. I can see why you'd have reservations about getting involved with a man who isn't so successful but if he has ... (read in full...)
Mum wants me to see her gynaecologist. I want to see a different one. Shouldn't this be my decision?
Q. I'm 18 years old girl and soon I'm going to have my first gynecologist visit. My mother wants to send me to her gynecologist, that she has been visiting almost all her life. I don't want to see her gynecologist, because I don't want a female looking ...
A. 10 October 2012: It's absolutely up to you who you see for this exam. I can understand why your mother has her opinion and preference; she knows and trusts her doctor and wants the best for you. But it's a very personal thing and you're an adult.
As an aside, i... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing in finishing this relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid Here it goes, me of my bf (soon to be ex) were on and off for past 2 years. He never calls and when I do he always says he is bored to talk to me, picks up a fight and wont call or return my calls for a week. Sometimes even without ...
A. 10 October 2012: Yeah I think you did the right thing. Try not to think of it as 2 wasted years (hard, I know) - think what you've learned from it. And well done for standing up for yourself and being strong - some people put up with crap relationships for much ... (read in full...)
Confused by girls behaviour and mixed signals. Does she like me? Am I at fault?
Q. Hi there everybody ME: I have a name but I’m not telling. I am 29 years old and I want to tell my love story, just to help me figure this girl out. I am an engineer so, I don’t except to find the answer here, I expect some statistics ;) I wi...
A. 10 October 2012: I think she likes you physically, no question, 100%. It doesn't seem that she likes you enough as a person to have a relationship (impossible to give a percentage with only your side of the story).
She keeps changing her mind and she's giving v... (read in full...)
Is it ok to send him one last text asking what happenend?
Q. I started dating a guy about a month ago. It seemed like he was very into me. He told me he was excited to have me in his life. He would text me good morning every day and send me texts throughout the day and at night he would text me good night. ...
A. 9 October 2012: Things like this are very odd but they do happen. I've had a guy disappear for no apparent reason, too, and he also seemed very kern. It hurts and it's so confusing.
I don't think you should send another text because I don't think you'll get a re... (read in full...)
I like this guy but he asked me for a threesome. Should I still do on a date with him anyway?
Q. Hi, I need some honest answer! This guy I kinda like... asked me for a threesome..( two guys and me!) Yes, I was hurt by this proposal and really offended. I thought he might like me as well... but I guess it's not. But still I desperate...
A. 13 September 2012: Is your dream guy really a guy that would ask for you for a threesome? Maybe you should rethink your feelings for him and thoughts about what he's really like.
He likes you enough to want to have sex with you but not enough to think of you as g... (read in full...)
What is a 'hormonal rush'?
Q. What is a Hormonal Rush!!???my gf told me she had a hormonal rush on reading my love letters to her.since then i have been trying to figure out what it exactly is!!?...
A. 13 September 2012: I think she means that the letters made her feel emotional. I can't say what emotions specifically though; it probably depends on the content of the letters. So if they were passionate, she may be experiencing passionate emotions, for example. ... (read in full...)
Am I justified in feeling very upset at his refusal to apply the topical medical the Dr ordered to stop me getting more Urinary Tract infections?
Q. I recently got a urinary tract infection (UTI) and was in terrible discomfort and pain for several days. I was treated with a dose of anti-biotics and was told that my partner would also have to apply a topical medicine on his penis so that there ...
A. 9 September 2012: I'm not surprised you feel upset but really you should have followed instructions yourself and not had sex until he used the medicine. If you have to go back to the doctor, maybe take your boyfriend with you so the doctor can explain to you both why ... (read in full...)
Would you consider this as stalker-like behaviour?
Q. Hello all, I am just wanting an opinion on a situation that has arisen on Facebook. I have a "friend" who I met through a mutual interest site. We spoke for a long time, and eventually added each other. I figured this would be fine, sin...
A. 9 September 2012: You could change your privacy settings so that he can limited access to your account. That's what I would do. ... (read in full...)
Ladies only: would you decline to have sex with a man with erectile dysfunction resulting from surgery?
Q. This one is for the Ladies here ONLY!I am asking this for a friend of mines. Thanks Ladies,Say if you was to go out with a guy you met and things became hot and heavy between the 2 of you,then the 2 of you end up at a place that you have picked ...
A. 8 September 2012: I'm assuming the scenario has already happened. I would rather know in advance than have this sprung on me in a hotel room. I really don't know how I would react though, I think it would depend on how much I liked the guy and whether he was c... (read in full...)
Should my boyfriend pay something if he moves into my house?
Q. My bf and i will soon be moving in together - he will be moving into my house. We have already agreed on that we will split the utilities bills and food. However he doesnt think he should pay anything weekly. Obviously i am not looking to make any ...
A. 4 September 2012: Yes he should contribute. Your mortgage payments are not simply paying off the capital, as you know. You are also paying a fair whack of interest to the bank for what you borrowed to 'buy' the home. Your expenses also include insurance (not just ... (read in full...)
Why do women from dating sites lose interest in me so quickly?
Q. I started using a dating site about two months ago now without very much success. This is mainly because everyone I begin talking to would eventually lose complete interest in me. It never starts out this way however, I'd first hit it off very well ...
A. 3 September 2012: It is hard to maintain a text conversation with someone you don't know, even if you initially connect well. Pinging messages back and forth is the same; both can get a little boring and awkward. I think that perhaps you should sugguest exchanging ... (read in full...)
Which man likes me the most and why?
Q. Guy 1 I've known this guy for over two years. The second time I met him I asked him out for a drink. He then smiled, looked at me and said that he'd love to but shortly after that I started going out with someone else who is now my fiance so I d...
A. 3 September 2012: Why do you care so much about who fancies you? You have a fiancé which means you're engaged to be married. Why all this flirting around? ... (read in full...)
18 year old living with us is too friendly. Do I tell her brother?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm in a living with my boyfriend for the past 4 years now,and everything was going great,he has a good job so do I..but now the problem has arised cuz of a third person which unfortunately I brought into the picture.. My best guy fr...
A. 2 September 2012: No you are not overreacting at all. She is taking the piss. She should not be bringing strange/ random guys into your home. They could steal things from your house! The fact that she's making noise is one bad enough, but you can't just have ... (read in full...)
Should I send a text saying, I miss you so much, I don't want someone else, I want to be with you .
Q. hello i went on a date with a woman 5 weeks ago, she said it was lovley and i was a lovley man xxx . i wanted to give her a kiss at end of date, but did not want to risk it . i told this a few days later and she said she was not interested. but we ...
A. 2 September 2012: No, she is not interested in you romantically. She really isn't. She is being friendly. I am sure she knows you like her, and she could do something about it if she wanted to but she's happy with friendship. I think you should look elsewhere, go on ... (read in full...)
We were fooling around but stayed in our underwear, I am worried I could still get pregnant.
Q. My guy and I were hooking up last night in our underwear. He was wearing boxer briefs and I was wearing lace underwear that had a sheet of fabric between the lace. I was worried that since I think he precame and though I didn't remove my underwear ...
A. 1 September 2012: No, you can't be pregnant from this. Even if you were pregnant, you could still 'feel fine' the next morning. But I'm sure you're not!
You should google some sex education sites, learn about the birds and the bees.
Expect that a man may ejacul... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wanted to take a break and now it's been over 2 weeks. How do I know if it's over or if she will come back?
Q. I need help interpreting an email from my GF I am currently on a break with. Some background: My girlfriend of 2+ plus initiated a break about two weeks ago. Since we live together I've been staying at my mother's house while she finds a new apar...
A. 30 August 2012: I read Stacy63088 response and have to agree that it's not just a break. Probably she still has feelings and of course she misses you but she's making it clear that she's moving on. Sadly. It sounds like a painful time for both of you to be honest. ... (read in full...)
Should I sponsor the guy I like at work for his charity event or will this make me look too keen?
Q. There is a guy I really like at work; we chat, he says hello, offers to get me drinks etc and is generally nice to me. I have told a few people I think he's cool but I dont know if he knows. I can't work out whether he's being polite or whether he ...
A. 29 August 2012: Yes you're over analysing it! Sponsor him! I'll ber it is for a good cause anyway so it's not money wasted however it works out. I doesn't necessarily mean anything (in case you're worried about rumour mongers) - today I sponsored a colleague for ... (read in full...)
Want to be skinny
Q. i want to get skinny im uk size 8 or 10 but feel really fat i hate my body and need some confidence i have always been a bit chubby and always upset at my body i want to be petit i hate being curvy i find it so unatracctive and fat help me get ...
A. 29 August 2012: Size 8-10 is in no way chubby or curvy. It depends on how tall you are, but unless you're very, very short then size 8-10 is healthy. I'm worried that you've got body dysmorphia to be honest. ... (read in full...)
I'm staring at the dissolution of my marriage...
Q. Hey guys its been a while since I last posted. I thought everything would come along well with my wife and I but I'm sadly mistaken. She has really turned against me. It all started just after she left for her 9 week holiday. She started saying...
A. 29 August 2012: In all honesty you should cancel her visa and your marriage. Get out of this toxic situation. You two are not good for one another.
I'm sorry, that's very blunt but your post is quite shocking. ... (read in full...)
Had a great date last night but now this... shall I just forget it?
Q. So i went on a date last night with a lovely girl. We met on a dating site and i went to pick her up and met her parents so they knew i wasn't going to kill her and dump her body in a ditch somewhere. She was telling me that she had some pretty ...
A. 29 August 2012: If she's had some awful boyfriends then maybe she's not used to a nice guy when he comes along. I think you should wait to hear from her and hopefully just enjoy the second date. I agree with the other poster that it's not realistic for someone to ... (read in full...)
Our family tree would be a circle since we are distantly related. Is it too weird?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly 9 months. We have known each other for years and its getting pretty serious. We just found out yesterday that we are 6th cousins 3 times removed, from our understanding. Anyway, our grandfathers are 2nd ...
A. 29 August 2012: I am dead set against first cousins marrying (for medical reasons) but I really don't think you should worry about this at all. It's not 'icky' or medically wrong. ... (read in full...)
How can I know if a woman is sexually interested?
Q. hi all, how can we understand that a woman is sexually interested on a man. as frequent guests we used to touch or sometimes stand closer etc. but I tend to feel that this woman has an attraction on me. but this is an intuition. are there indirect...
A. 29 August 2012: I don' agree that "if there is any doubt, there's no interest". Some woman maybe. I don't make it blatant until I'm sure a guy likes me, and even then I'm pretty shy!! ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy but he still has his dating profile up and says he is single!
Q. Okay so this is gone and past and i am completely over it but i was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years.. i moved in with him and gave everything to this guy and was honest and true to him and he had another girl for 1 year and a half of it and ...
A. 29 August 2012: Three months in and a 100% relationship means that you are well within your rights to ask him to take down his profile. It's not an unreasonable request. I gave my ex this choice at the start and he was a bit reluctant but I said that it was the ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy but he still has his dating profile up and says he is single!
Q. Okay so this is gone and past and i am completely over it but i was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years.. i moved in with him and gave everything to this guy and was honest and true to him and he had another girl for 1 year and a half of it and ...
A. 28 August 2012: I agree, it totally depends on how long you've been seeing this new guy and whether or not you've both agreed that it's going somewhere.
You're absolutely right to be asking this question. Just difficult to answer it not knowing these two thin... (read in full...)
Cheating b/f gave me genital herpes, is there anything natural I can take?
Q. Hi I really need some advice as I am in bits and don't know what to do I recently caught my boyfriend of nearly 2 years cheating on me so I went to a gum clinic to get myself tested for any stis and I found out I have genital herpes I feel so ...
A. 26 August 2012: A GUM clnic is the same as an STI clinic.
There is a lot of information available online about how to prevent outbreaks, and there are some natural supplements and things that you could take.
I know it seems like the end of the world findin... (read in full...)
How do I avoid becoming pregnant by my husband who won't allow me to use birth control?
Q. My husband of 6 years won't pull out during sex. We are catholic so he refuses for me to use any birth control. I do not want to get pregnant. Please give me advice...
A. 26 August 2012: Do you already have children? Have you discussed whether or not you want children/ more children with him?
The only thing you and he can do to avoid pregnancy is not have sex. Abstain.
Do you want to sneak about behind his back for contace... (read in full...)
Dating but somewhere contact has dwindled. I've fallen for him and need advice. Please help!
Q. A long story short, I met this guy and were in the initial stages of dating him for about a month and a half. From my point of view, and those closest to me whom know about the whole ordeal thought that the so called "relationship" was going in a ...
A. 26 August 2012: It's difficult. I'm also very shy (and insecure) and I know I would have walked away in this situation for self protection...But I think you two are dancing around each other a bit. He sort of invited you to his gig but it wasn't a proper invite. I ... (read in full...)
Dating but somewhere contact has dwindled. I've fallen for him and need advice. Please help!
Q. A long story short, I met this guy and were in the initial stages of dating him for about a month and a half. From my point of view, and those closest to me whom know about the whole ordeal thought that the so called "relationship" was going in a ...
A. 25 August 2012: I don't think he's being inconsiderate in not contacting you. You said that you pulled back a bit, but he clearly has no idea why! As far as he's concerned, he stopped hearing from you and then he initiated contact (not you!). He's not a mind ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is a professional liar and cheat. How do I tell both new ladies about each other, without leading back to me?
Q. I am an ex of boyfriend who is professional liar and cheater... I left him after 18 months, but then I was shocked to accidently find secret accounts, dating site membership. Membership to secret email...(he left his IPAD open accidently in bathroom...
A. 24 August 2012: Are you hacking into your ex's email accounts with his passwords? That's wrong, no matter what he's done.
I think you should forget about him and move on. ... (read in full...)
Counseling is helping and I don't know where to turn.
Q. There is no easy way to get into this so I will get steaight to the point. I have always had a disfunctional family. (Dad beat my mom etc every day she was always in hospital he was an alcholic just a bit of background on that) the thing is I was ...
A. 24 August 2012: Bless you, you're stronger than you realise. If you ever feel like it, you can direct message me. I've been through similar and still not over it but learning how to cope and move on. I'm here if you ever need support or just to vent your feelings. ... (read in full...)
Why would my ex block me
Q. Why did my ex I am soo in love with blocked me on twitter so my ex add me on twitter I. Was talking to she said why do u want me to be there for ur kid if u have one I said u was always there for me then she said I dk I have work and school we been ...
A. 23 August 2012: You harassed her by phone so she changed her number. She then blocked you on twitter. She is sending strong "leave me alone" messages so leave her alone. It's hard to do if you like/ love her, but respect her decision and try to move forwards ... (read in full...)
Counseling is helping and I don't know where to turn.
Q. There is no easy way to get into this so I will get steaight to the point. I have always had a disfunctional family. (Dad beat my mom etc every day she was always in hospital he was an alcholic just a bit of background on that) the thing is I was ...
A. 23 August 2012: Hi, so sorry to read all this. Have you told your therapist about your brother? About the whole situation? I completely understand that you are not in a position to tell your family, but ideally you should feel comfortable enough to talk about it ... (read in full...)
I am a cheater but is that really so bad?
Q. I am cheating on my GF. should i stop. i cant help it i like the excitement of chasing new women and when i see a beautiful woman im curious how it feels to be with her. but i like having something guaranteed at home. but people make it seem like a ...
A. 22 August 2012: You are only thinking of your needs and your happiness. Try to relate to how others feel - i.e. your girlfriend. You are not treating her well. Put yourself in her position, imagine how you would feel if she acted the way you are acting. Would you ... (read in full...)
Too soon to share past sexual history? It scared me. Do ALL guys do this during online relationships?
Q. Is this a red flag?...I just started talking to someone I met online, and things were going great until he starts asking me about what is the most wildest and crazy thing I have done sexually. I didn't want to answer that because I feel that it ...
A. 21 August 2012: I think you can only go by your instincts, and you felt scared and turned off by his revelations and him asking you to reveal things. I don't blame you.
There are a lot of trolls online, and people looking for sex or sexting. I can't help but... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to have a threesome with him and his brother.
Q. Um...my friend(who I really like) wants to try and have a threesome with him, me, and his brother. I agreed but now nervous. I really like him but I don't want him to think I'm just the type whose up from anything. He told me, he wouldn't mind going ...
A. 21 August 2012: Not ready to go out with you but ready to have sex with you and his brother?! No way. Tell him you changed your mind, you're not comfortable with it. I know you say you like him, but really what's to like about someone who would come up with such a ... (read in full...)
Too soon to share past sexual history? It scared me. Do ALL guys do this during online relationships?
Q. Is this a red flag?...I just started talking to someone I met online, and things were going great until he starts asking me about what is the most wildest and crazy thing I have done sexually. I didn't want to answer that because I feel that it ...
A. 21 August 2012: Also, discussions about sexual past are for when you are face to face and considering a relationship or already in one. Though personally I am wary about discussing those thing even then - it can lead to jealousy and resentment. Certainly not to be ... (read in full...)
Too soon to share past sexual history? It scared me. Do ALL guys do this during online relationships?
Q. Is this a red flag?...I just started talking to someone I met online, and things were going great until he starts asking me about what is the most wildest and crazy thing I have done sexually. I didn't want to answer that because I feel that it ...
A. 21 August 2012: Well I don't think it's acceptable and I don't tolerate it. Discussions like that are the red flag that the guy isn't after a relationship, just sex. It's not nice but at least he's making his intentions clear right from the start so you have a ... (read in full...)
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