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writes:i was seeing a very nice guy soon after ending a long term relationship of 13 years. Unfortunately it only lasted a few months because I was not ready for a relationship so soon and he was hurt by me. we planned a trip together and right before the trip i threw a big fit that i didn't want to go because i still miss my ex and want to be with him. he was very mature about it and calmed me down and said we'll go and hangout as friends and just have a nice time.We went on the trip together and there i was talking to him about my ex boyfriend all the time. i was crying a lot and he read some messages i was sending to my ex while on a trip with him. he felt hurt and disrespected but was still there for me as a friend and tried to help me out emotionally even though it was not fair to him. Our trip was ruined because of me. i said sorry to him by the end of the trip and told him i had no right and thanks for understanding but since after the trip we text here and there but he does not want to see me again not even as a friend. two months have passed i feel bad i didn't apologize properly or made proper amends soon after the trip because he was really good guy and i want to keep him as a friend. is it too late to let him know or acknowledge i was wrong. what should i do to be friends again or say thanks for being there in my bad time?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 October 2012):
 A note with a housewarming gift and a huge apology would be nice.
IF he paid for your part of the trip I would also reimburse him for his expense to let him know how sincere you are.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (11 October 2012):
 Sending him a card to his new home, along with the apology, isn't a bad idea. It's a good opportunity (or maybe excuse) to get in touch with him. But no, I don't think you should send a gift.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 October 2012):
 I agree 100% with Auntie Daisy_Daisy.
Yes, you can send him something and a not with a proper apology, but do it because you feel he deserves this apology, not because you want something in return.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2012): He is moving to a new place this week is it a bad idea to send him a note along with a present for the new place?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (11 October 2012):
It's never too late to apologise, and it shows that you're a good person. The thing is, you may not get a response. So of you write to him, let it be with the motive of making a genuine, selfless apology rather than because you want/ expect something to come of it (his friendship back). Good luck.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (11 October 2012):
 I think you can write a nice letter to let him know how sorry you are and like the others said, explaining that the timing was just bad and you weren't ready for a relationship, but jumped in with him because you liked him so much. Sounds like a bad situation, he sounds like he would have been a great guy. I'm not sure you'll be able to fix this.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 October 2012):
 Whoa, you went on a trip with a guy and spent all the time
cryng and pining about the ex ? In his face ? Frankly , I think you have been lucky and you've met with a gentleman and a really good sport. . Had it been me at his place, sorry but I would have packed your suitcase myself, deposited you on the sidewalk, and called you a cab within the first 10 minutes.
No, it is never too late to apologize, if you are really sorry. And I think he deserves it. Send him a nice e-mail, aknowledge that you were wrong, tell him how much you appreciate the way you handled the situation, and let him now that if has it in his heart to forgive your behaviour as a moment in which you weren't quite yourself , you 'd be happy to stay friends.
Then, though, the ball is in his court. I hope he realizes that it was mostly a matter of bad timing, and can get over it- but if he does not, do not insist and do not argue. Take it as an useful lesson learned about what NOT to do when you are rebounding.
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