I met this girl online, we were chatting every night and out of the blue she stopped showing up on skype and even stood me up when I went to visit her!
Q. About 6 months ago I met a girl online, She lives in Spain and I in Norway. We really hit it off, we have been seeing eachother for about 2-4 hours on skype every night, and eventually we start text other during the whole days also. She also decided ...
A. 11 August 2012: Great news and thanks for sharing it. :-)... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 14 July 2012: Well done! You're a smart girl x ... (read in full...)
Why won't she look me in the eye?
Q. What is under the surface? There is a girl that crossed my path a few months ago. She randomly got my number and started texting me. After awhile I found out she has a girl friend. We've never crossed any lines. No flirting which is odd for...
A. 11 July 2012: I was just trying to think/ explain why the girl won't look the OP in the eye - there are no accusations or judgrments from me. Just trying to answer the question! ... (read in full...)
Why won't she look me in the eye?
Q. What is under the surface? There is a girl that crossed my path a few months ago. She randomly got my number and started texting me. After awhile I found out she has a girl friend. We've never crossed any lines. No flirting which is odd for...
A. 11 July 2012: You and the girl are flirting by way of text messages. You may not consider it flirting but the other girl does, she feels it's wrong and that's why she can't look you in the eye; she's afraid of it escalating. There are feelings between the pair of ... (read in full...)
I met this girl online, we were chatting every night and out of the blue she stopped showing up on skype and even stood me up when I went to visit her!
Q. About 6 months ago I met a girl online, She lives in Spain and I in Norway. We really hit it off, we have been seeing eachother for about 2-4 hours on skype every night, and eventually we start text other during the whole days also. She also decided ...
A. 11 July 2012: OP you said she lied about to you about her last name. That suggests to me that she doesn't want to be looked for or found, I'm afraid. I hope she gets in touch with you but you need to prepare for the possibility of never hearing from her again. If ... (read in full...)
I met this girl online, we were chatting every night and out of the blue she stopped showing up on skype and even stood me up when I went to visit her!
Q. About 6 months ago I met a girl online, She lives in Spain and I in Norway. We really hit it off, we have been seeing eachother for about 2-4 hours on skype every night, and eventually we start text other during the whole days also. She also decided ...
A. 10 July 2012: I think she got cold feet. It's an absolutely horrible, nasty and selfish way for her to behave and I know you must feel awful. I'm so sorry this happened.
Not every girl is like this. Not at all.
The situation makes no sense at all. No one ... (read in full...)
Did my bf take something to improve his sexual performance?
Q. Did my bf take something to improve his sexual performance? I recently had sex with my new bf. I really found this strange or maybe it's normal. After he had intercourse, i was a bit surprised to notice that he remained errected though he has ...
A. 10 July 2012: Sounds suspicious to me. I expect he was trying to impress you but 8 times in one day sounds daunting and downright painful! ... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 9 July 2012: I agree. He's still a creep, and actually admits as much. You should still be cautious when you go back to archery and you should tell management there. You have intelligence and the support of your family on your side. Not everyone is so lucky. ... (read in full...)
Why do couples brag about their relationship?
Q. I have a question that is more general: how do you relate to couples that, you know, are so fond of each other that they can't stop bickering, and saying "I love you" every 30 seconds, making in-jokes that no one understands, and going on about how ...
A. 9 July 2012: I also hate it. It makes me miserable, probably because I'm single and not that happy about it. So I avoid those people. But in honesty, I don't knowi if avoiding it is best, especially it's close friends or relatives. I guess it's better to be ... (read in full...)
Why did I not feel ecstatic? My Bf thinks he cannot satisfy me now after my reaction to first time sex.
Q. Dear cupid,so i just lost my virginity to my boyfriend last week.it was not funny and not in the least bit interesting or ecstatic. it even made me cry. so i let him make love to me a couple of times after that.i observed that i only feel more lov...
A. 8 July 2012: It takes a while of practice and experimenting to find out what makes you feel "ecstasy" (climax). At the moment you're inexperienced, and the first time was almost bound to hurt. Don't just "let him" make love to you; get actively involve... (read in full...)
My friend cheated on her husband, should I tell him?
Q. I have a "friend" who has admitted to me that she has cheated on her husband before they got married last Sept. Though I do enjoy her company, I'm not close with her. I was rather shocked that she would tell me something like this because my fiancee ...
A. 7 July 2012: How odd. No, it's not your place to tell her husband but it seems as if that's what she wants. Or for your fiancé to tell him. She's put you in a horrible position. I wonder why you say that she told you to see if you would tell her husband... (read in full...)
Seriously considering having an affair.
Q. I'll get straight to the point. I am very seriously considering having an affair. My husband has turned into a complete dead fish in the bedroom. He used to be very excited about me, he used to love to touch me, kiss me, lick me, sleep with me. He ...
A. 7 July 2012: Yesterday you wrote a post in which you said you did not want to act on your desires, to sleep with someone else, and today you are seriously considering it? I know you're in a difficult situation but please think about this very carefully before ... (read in full...)
I have a question about birth control.
Q. Oh, someone please help me! Nobody has answered my question, not even Google. This is about birth control, I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this question, but it's the only place I feel comfortable turning to. Okay so, I got ...
A. 7 July 2012: Go back and speak to your doctor. You could have a depot injection or implant and I think they stop periods completely (not sure though). The best person to speak to is definitely your own GP. Go there on Monday. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's father just learned I have Aspergers and now he doesn't want her dating me
Q. Hi, everyone. In a bit of a bother. A month ago I entered a relationship with the most amazing girl. It's become pretty obvious with friends and some family that this could get really serious, and was going extremely well until something happen...
A. 3 July 2012: Her father sounds like an ignorant git. Presumably the heart condition isn't hereditary? Your doctor should be able to tell you whether or not it is. And have you been reevaluated for Aspergers since you were 8? There have been a lot of advances in ... (read in full...)
He told me in front of his friends he could do better than me and that our relationship is over.
Q. I need some advice. I am aware I need to leave this relationship but I need input on how and whether it's really something I should do. I hae a 2 1/2 year old son who considers my boyfriend his "dad" bc he's been there since he was 2 weeks old. Last ...
A. 1 July 2012: I agree with Auntie Bim Bim. You don't deserve this rubbish, he doesn't deserve you and your son certainly doesn't deserve to be in this situation with an unhappy mother and unstable 'parents'. Move on. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
He shouts in his sleep, should I tell him what I hear?
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend often has angry dreams at night. Her figits which I why I wake up, then he breathes deeper and faster and then starts shouting and swearing. sometimes its at his dad (his parents are divorced a long time ago) and sometim...
A. 27 June 2012: You don't need to mention that he's aggressive but that it wakes you up and you're a bit concerned. You could start out with encouraging him to keep a regular sleep patten so he doesn't get sleep deprived: that tends to make parasomnias worse/ more ... (read in full...)
He shouts in his sleep, should I tell him what I hear?
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend often has angry dreams at night. Her figits which I why I wake up, then he breathes deeper and faster and then starts shouting and swearing. sometimes its at his dad (his parents are divorced a long time ago) and sometim...
A. 27 June 2012: OP, please check out this web page:
http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/ask-the-expert/sleep-and-parasomnias... (read in full...)
My mom breastfeeds my brother in public and I hate it!
Q. I hate it when my mom breastfeeds my baby brother in public. What should I do? She has done it several times. Why the hell would she wanna do it in public? She's crazy. It embarrasses the hell out of me. It's also disgusting. Is there a way I ca...
A. 26 June 2012: [Mod note: really long link from an on line shop removed. Google "breast feeding aprons" in popular online shops for help.] Check out the link for breast feeding aprons. They are a way for women to feed their babies in public and still keep it a bi... (read in full...)
He shouts in his sleep, should I tell him what I hear?
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend often has angry dreams at night. Her figits which I why I wake up, then he breathes deeper and faster and then starts shouting and swearing. sometimes its at his dad (his parents are divorced a long time ago) and sometim...
A. 26 June 2012: Ok what you're describing is called a parasomnia. A disorder of sleep. I would advise your boyfriend to go and see his GP (with you, since you're the one that witnesses what happens) and ask for a referral to a sleep specialist (again, you should ... (read in full...)
I've had anxiety as we had a threesome and his condom fell off!
Q. hi. my girl and i recently had our first threesome with another guy , and the rule for the other guy was to wear a condom. well, while he was in the middle of things, his condom came off. now, im ok with the fact that we did the threesome, but not ...
A. 25 June 2012: Hmm I can't honestly think of anything that's going to help except time. But I've added another reason to my list of 'why not to have a threesome'. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has pictures of his ex's on his laptop and wont get rid of them!
Q. My bf keeps pics on his laptop of his exes. I could understand them being put away in a box or on a hard drive. It makes me feel like they are there to gain easy access to them and makes me feel second best. I have spoke to him and tried to explain. ...
A. 25 June 2012: I agree with SVC. Unless they are explicit and/ or he had the photos as screensavers or a background montage, I don't think it's a big deal at all. These women meant something to him at different points in his life and he doesn't want to erase the ... (read in full...)
I know the relationship is over, but not knowing what I did wrong is killing me!
Q. I m a gay guy in Toronto, who is still quite discreet in my relationships. I m not totally out. Sometime in February, a guy contacted me and we met at a coffee shop for our first meeting. We chatted for a long time and then decided to meet ...
A. 25 June 2012: p.s. I think he overreacted if that's all that happened. If he's so sensitive you'd have been likely to inadvertently put your foot in it sooner or later! Maybe you're best off out of it. ... (read in full...)
I know the relationship is over, but not knowing what I did wrong is killing me!
Q. I m a gay guy in Toronto, who is still quite discreet in my relationships. I m not totally out. Sometime in February, a guy contacted me and we met at a coffee shop for our first meeting. We chatted for a long time and then decided to meet ...
A. 25 June 2012: You hurt his feelings by calling him 'average'. There's no need to be blunt if some is average and think they are beautiful. You don't really need to say anything at all - unless they go on and on about it. He did reply and tell you what had gone ... (read in full...)
What do my cousin's actions mean?
Q. hai,well i had a cousin she is about 18years and few months before , she always used to stay with me and spend time with me we used to laugh , we text each other she always hates other boys in front of me , but in some day when i touch her she ...
A. 25 June 2012: It might be of legal age but it's wrong. Morally and biologically. Google 'children of consanguineous parents' and see what comes up. I work in healthcare and have seen so many disabled babies born of marriage between first cousins ... There is a ... (read in full...)
How do I let go of a sex only relationship of 4 years?
Q. hi I have been involved with this man for four years with no committment and he sees other women.There is no respet and the relationship is not going anywhere, just sex. How do I let go of the relationship without constantly going back....
A. 25 June 2012: Tell him it's over and not to contact you again and then delete his number from your phone.. Look for someone who wants a relationship or just stay single for a while. Respect yourself. ... (read in full...)
Is her number in his phone to test me or is he still talking to her?
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost three years. there has always been some trust issues mostly from my side. About two weeks ago i found out by snooping in his email trash that he was talking some serious shit to a girl at his work. I only got to ...
A. 24 June 2012: I'm afraid I agree - I think he is hiding something. Actually you've already found out what he was hiding, at least part of it.
Stay strong. Be around family and friends and take care x ... (read in full...)
I have a higher sex drive than he does. Its driving me crazy
Q. Ughhh! I know a lot of women struggle with this, but it is really frustrating me as of late. I wouldn't say I have an "abnormally high" sex drive, but it just seems that I always want sex more than him. I wouldn't say I had any bad/trau...
A. 23 June 2012: So he's wearing a condom, you use the gel and he still withdraws before he ejaculates? He IS anxious! Have you thought about/ discussed the oral contraceptive pill? Maybe you could go to a family planning clinic or doctor together so that he can ... (read in full...)
I have a higher sex drive than he does. Its driving me crazy
Q. Ughhh! I know a lot of women struggle with this, but it is really frustrating me as of late. I wouldn't say I have an "abnormally high" sex drive, but it just seems that I always want sex more than him. I wouldn't say I had any bad/trau...
A. 23 June 2012: It's difficult to tell whether it's really his sex drive that's the problem or his anxieties about pregnancy, so if you eliminate the pregnancy issue you might be able to work it out. What contraceptives have you already tried with him? If you... (read in full...)
Is her number in his phone to test me or is he still talking to her?
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost three years. there has always been some trust issues mostly from my side. About two weeks ago i found out by snooping in his email trash that he was talking some serious shit to a girl at his work. I only got to ...
A. 22 June 2012: The evidence is stacked up against your boyfriend. You found the emails. You found the phone number. I don't know what he means by "well show me" - how can you be expected to trust him? And if you think he planted the phone number there to test ... (read in full...)
How do I tell the man I love the awful truth about my past?
Q. When I was 12, I found out that I was the unfortunate result of my mother's adultery. My "dad" was disappointed and extremely disturbed by it. Growing up I had always felt different and I was never given the love I felt my 2 half sisters were and it ...
A. 21 June 2012: It was a really huge step for you to tell your story. Hopefully in time you'll feel ready to talk about it more in a safe environment with a therapist who you trust. You don't need to blurt it all out in your first session unless you want to - you ... (read in full...)
How do I tell the man I love the awful truth about my past?
Q. When I was 12, I found out that I was the unfortunate result of my mother's adultery. My "dad" was disappointed and extremely disturbed by it. Growing up I had always felt different and I was never given the love I felt my 2 half sisters were and it ...
A. 21 June 2012: You have nothing to feel ashamed about. What happened in your childhood is not your fault. No one can condemn you for covering up the past because no one has been in your shoes. It may not be possible to 'mend' things with your boyfriend as there's ... (read in full...)
I never doubted being in love until my mom said that I just cared deeply for my friend.
Q. My girlfriend and I were doing great, and going on over 8 months. However, my parents found out about us and now we have to be even more careful about hiding it. When my mom and I were talking about it, she said she doubted that I was 'in love' and ...
A. 20 June 2012: No I don't think your Mum is right. Maybe this is just what she wishes were true. You know how you feel better than anyone else. Good luck and take care :)... (read in full...)
Should women also carry condoms?
Q. Usually guys will have one or two hidden in their wallets just in case they get lucky. However, should women do the same? What are your thoughts?...
A. 20 June 2012: It's an individual thing but there's no reason why a woman shouldn't carry a condom or two on her just in case. I used to do it when I was younger. Just keep it somewhere discreet - I once went on a date with someone and the condom fell out of my ... (read in full...)
Is this a good text to send my ex?
Q. Is this a good text to send my ex? We ended on alright terms due to external reasons (though reasons that could be worked through in my opinion) and he seemed DESPERATE to stay friends, however 2 weeks down the line we had an argument basicall...
A. 20 June 2012: It's a good text, open and honest and not angry.
It's hard to stay friends when you still have feelings for someone and I think it's right that you have a bit of space.
Good luck and I hope things work out well for you. ... (read in full...)
With a mobile is there a chance that your number may be set to private without you realising?
Q. I don't know whether people would know the answer to this one or not, but with a mobile is there a chance that your number may be set to private without you realising? Because this number has called me a few times and i reckon it's the guy who i ...
A. 19 June 2012: It may be that he's calling you not from his mobile but from somewhere else like his parents or from his place of work ( a bit of a long shot but it's possible - maybe he has no credit on his phone?). If I phone from where I work (a hospital) it ... (read in full...)
I saw noticed my girl check out another guy, should I be worried?
Q. I saw noticed my girl check out another guy, should i be worried? Ok lets put it into perspective, yes iv checked out other girls, but not infront of her, difference is i dont 'want' or 'feel' the need to be with these other girls, i just lo...
A. 19 June 2012: You saw her notice another guy, went all huffy and silent, sped off and now it sounds like you're not answering her calls. Is that right? That's a huge overreaction if you don't mind me saying. And it's not really fair on her. Girls and boys... (read in full...)
I have to go to College but we want a baby together. What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been best friends since middle school. I am 17 and about to start my senior year of high school. We want a baby but I have to go to college. What do I do?!?!?!...
A. 19 June 2012: Go to college first, without question. Why not do some babysitting, either on your own or with your boyfriend - it might help keep those clucky feelings at bay and be a reminder that looking after a baby is hard work. ... (read in full...)
He's not contributing financially in our live-in relationship...what should I do?
Q. hi, so i have a question..., i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years in a few months. we started out great, so loving, caring, and anything i wanted to do i got, but now its not like that, he doesn't give me a kiss hello when i see him, we sit on ...
A. 18 June 2012: I completely agree with Aunty Bim Bim. It seems like an adult describing a relationship with their thoughtless teenager, not a loving and reciprocal adult relationship. Do you still love him? Really? Are you happy?
At the very least, you two need... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend what I really think about her wedding dress?
Q. A good friend of mine is marrying my cousin...I have known her for 29 years and I am in the wedding party which is taking place in Cuba. I recently just returned from a destination wedding myself so I have a good idea as to what works and what d...
A. 18 June 2012: No, don't bite your tongue. But it doesn't have to be a big drama, either. Do you think she'll take it badly if you give her advise? Is that why you're in a quandary about this? If it was me, I'd appreciate all the help and advise I could get.
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Should I tell my wife that I cheated on her once?
Q. I need advice on an age old question. To tell or not to tell. I cheated on my wife one time. After 1 year of marriage. I felt horrible and vowed to never do it again. Promised myself I'd make up for it by being an amazing husband. And I have been....
A. 18 June 2012: You don't want to hear words of condemnation so I'm biting my tongue.
If you tell her then it will be a weight off your mind. You can stop feeling guilty every day (if she forgives you - big if). She will feel like shit and as you say she will pro... (read in full...)
Why won't she give me her number?
Q. I tried to get this girls number off of myyearbook.com, here's how the conversation went: Me: You have really pretty hair :) Her: Aha,thank youuu Me: You're welcome :) Her: :) Me: Can I have your number? Her: No Me: Ok. Why w...
A. 18 June 2012: Many people have replied and you're still asking...! Read the replies again.
You approached it wrong by going too fast. A couple of messages and then asking for her number is too fast. You could've struck up a bit of conversation first, had a bi... (read in full...)
Why won't she give me her number?
Q. I tried to get this girls number off of myyearbook.com, here's how the conversation went: Me: You have really pretty hair :) Her: Aha,thank youuu Me: You're welcome :) Her: :) Me: Can I have your number? Her: No Me: Ok. Why w...
A. 18 June 2012: Many people have replied and you're still asking...! Read the replies again.
You approached it wrong by going too fast. A couple of messages and then asking for her number is too fast. You could've struck up a bit of conversation first, had a bi... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex for 2 years and then I had sex with an ugly girl, why would I do this?
Q. So I'm in my 20s and I haven't had sex in 2 years. Then this girl I haven't talked to in awhile wants to have sex with me. She's fat, smelly and has an ugly face and yet I still had sex with her. I did not enjoy it, I just sat there letting her do ...
A. 17 June 2012: For God's sake. Could you be any more rude about this girl? She didn't force you to do anything. I don't feel sorry for you, I feel sorry for her. I very much doubt that she got any enjoyment out of the encounter either, with you just sitting there ... (read in full...)
Would you let this person back into your life slowly?
Q. Lets say you love someone and they are the love of your life they disappear for 9 months nothing involving you but rather cause they were messing up their own life and they had to leave cause they were doing stupid things and they didn't want you to ...
A. 17 June 2012: I would only let him back in to my life if I knew that he'd addressed the heavy drinking, if I knew exactly what lead to him being imprisoned and whether or not I felt it likely that he'd do the same again. People don't go to prison for nothing - I ... (read in full...)
Why won't she give me her number?
Q. I tried to get this girls number off of myyearbook.com, here's how the conversation went: Me: You have really pretty hair :) Her: Aha,thank youuu Me: You're welcome :) Her: :) Me: Can I have your number? Her: No Me: Ok. Why w...
A. 17 June 2012: You asked for her number much too quickly and she was wise not to give you her number (nothing personal - she should not be handing her number out to anyone she doesn't know). Yes, this is confusing given what she wrote on her profile. Maybe she'll ... (read in full...)
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