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writes:I'm 18 years old girl and soon I'm going to have my first gynecologist visit. My mother wants to send me to her gynecologist, that she has been visiting almost all her life. I don't want to see her gynecologist, because I don't want a female looking at me like that. I know that she's a doctor, I know that she sees it every day, I know that it's her job, I know that all. But I want to go to a male gynecologist. I 100 percent positive that I'll feel much more comfortable with a male doctor, as I trust males more than females. If I don't want visit my mum's gyno, she cannot force me, can she? Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 October 2012):
 So long as they take the same insurance it shouldn't be an issue, however I think you shouldn't rule out an entire sex, especially before you've even gone in. I see a woman now, just because she was who was available first. I like her because she doesn't try to make small talk and is very direct. I can also barely feel it when she does it.
It's going to be uncomfortable/awkward, but it won't hurt. It's not just that they've seen it 1000x before, but trust me, looking at a vagina straight on in stirrups like that it doesn't look sexual at all. It doesn't feel that different from looking up someone's nose. They don't notice things like if you've shaved, they just notice if you're healthy or not (also if you clean or not). It's very medical/clinical. They can't see you or the rest of you, they often put up a little sheet on your knees. You can bring a magazine or iPod or something (so long as you take out one earpiece so you can hear him/her).
Make a list of any questions before you go. You're definitely going to forget them as soon as you step foot in the office if you don't write it down.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 October 2012):
 I too hate female gyn's but because I had a bad experience in 1984 when I was pregnant with my son... I've always had men since then so I can respect your preference.
when my then step daughter was ready to go I took her to the same practice but a different doctor...
it should very much be your choice... I agree that once you find a gyn that you love and trust you will understand why your mom wants you to see hers. I assume if she's been hers forever that she delivered you... that's got to feel weird.
you are 18 of course your mom can't force you to see hers.
Is there a doctor in the practice you like that you want to try? if so make the appointment yourself...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 October 2012):
 That should be your call.
Honestly I rather have a woman look at my lady-bit and no matter how much education a guy has he doesn't KNOW as much about the various female problems from FIRST hand experience as a woman might, but maybe that is just me.
And no she can not force you. BUT if she is PAYING and you are on her insurance you will have to find a GYNO that takes HER insurance.
I think you mom suggested THAT GYNO because she knows and trust her. It's NOT like the GYNO will be discussing your lady bits over coffee with your mom later, because you mom knows the GYNO. I went to the same as my mom when I had to go the first time. I TRUSTED my mom to give me good advice on who to see. And now 25 years later I have seen males and females and honestly, I don't think either gender is "better" per say, my preference is just females when it comes to a GYNO.
The first visit is awkward no matter what.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (10 October 2012):
 It's absolutely up to you who you see for this exam. I can understand why your mother has her opinion and preference; she knows and trusts her doctor and wants the best for you. But it's a very personal thing and you're an adult.
As an aside, it really shouldn't matter whether your doctor/ nurse is a woman or a man. I see a nurse for Pap tests, she is a female and absolutely professional and trustworthy.
The important thing though is that you're relaxed and comfortable, especially for the first exam, so it's your choice.
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