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writes: hi i have a problem its my friend she is well seeing this guy who is 28 years old and engaged and well she knows this and she is only 15 yrs old and shes having sex with him and many others ever since she turned 15 she has being having sex with who ever askes her and well its all with older blokes i there 20's and well i think this is wrong she never used to be likr this but all of a sudden she is and well i am worried about her the other day she thought she was pregnant and the bloke shes seeing the 28 yr old told her tohave a pregnancy test and well it came up negitive and well he didnt seem to happy as what i have heard and well i am scared that with my mate having caual sex with ever guy she gets asked by then she will get her self into trouble what should i do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2007): I think your friend definately needs some help, and the psychological kind, she may suffer from a bipolar disorder, depression, or bad family relationships, or had been sexually molested at a young age, this promiscuity at such a young age sort of suggests this.
Maybe you could talk to a school counselor and ask for the name of a family therapist that you could refer her to, or ask your family doctor for the name of someone to refer her to...short of that I don't think there is a whole lot you can do to convince her she is on the wrong path.
IF the two of you share a church, perhaps you could ask your minister or pastor for advice or if they could gently speak to her, I don't know what you think about that, but it might just help her.....Planned Parenthood in the US is supposed to offer these kinds of services, but I don't think they preach morality lessons.
One thing you might bring to her attention is that this kind of sexual behavior greatly increases her risk for getting cervical cancer. If you will google cervical cancer risk factors, you will get some articles that she ought to read....if nothing else, perhaps the possibility of contracting a possible fatal illness like this or HIV, would put a thought into her head.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Hey darlin',
I think that you should take your friend to the nearest Planned Parenthood (if you have one near you), or a free health clinic to talk to some professionals about safe sex. Get her on the pill and with a full pocket of condoms. As a friens, that's probably the best you can do for her.
I think maybe typing up an anonymous letter to her parents might be in order. What your friend is doing is really dangerous and could get her into a lot of trouble in the future. These guys are taking advantage of a 15 year old girl. She could get caught up with some really scummy guys who try to hurt her or... lord knows what. Her parents need to be clued in, so that they can keep a closer watch on their daughter.
Write the letter anonymously and leave it in an envelope in their mailbox. I think your friend needs some more boundaries.
I think you're a great friend for asking this question.
Keep up your concern for her. Sounds like she really needs a friend right now.
xxIndia
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reader, cd206  +, writes (29 January 2007):
 There's very little you can do to stop your mate having sex, save telling her mum which would probably backfire badly on you. I think your priority in this situation has to be persuading her to have safe sex and make sure she's aware of the possible outcomes diseases/pregnancy that could result from unprotected sex. The only other thing you can do is try to talk her out of it and hope she listens.
CD
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