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Why does it bother me, that he likes to have porn pics on his phone. Is it my insecurities?
Q. help how do i stop being so insecure! I am very much in love and trust my boyfriend and vice versa. The thing thats sending me nuts is whats on his phone. Loads of our intimate videos but its the two he has of a model obviously pornographic. He ...
A. 6 February 2007: You can't stop your brain thinking these things. We all think them. Being women it seems we're indisposed to go a bit nutty overthinking these things. You just have to keep pushing them back out of your head. Easy? No, easier with practise? Most ... (read in full...)
Why is it so easy for him yet hard for me??
Q. My ex boyfriend let me down, he would break up with me constantly, and would just leave me wondering where he was and what he was doing. I chose to wait till I was married before getting intimate but he says that I didn't give him the things he ...
A. 5 February 2007: I think us women always like to think we'll be the one to change a man. You did good though. You could have given in to his demands about how he needed sex. Although guys and girls like sex it's not as vital a need as he was making out. Don't beat ... (read in full...)
Just had a baby one month ago and our sex life is the pits! What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have a baby together...My problem is that I am a very sexual person and likes to have sex quite often. I know that he likes to too or at least I think so but we pretty much have a none existent sex ...
A. 5 February 2007: You're having a hard time right now! Not only are you totally healed after the childbirth experience but you're both exhausted from looking after a newborn. Lots of couples sex lives suffer at this time because you just have too much going on. I ... (read in full...)
I do not like his 'manboobs' and I wonder...am I obsessing about it too much?
Q. When i first saw my boyfriend, I noticed what people call "man boobs". now don't get me wrong. They aren't huge or anything but i did notice. And i can't get past it ..like i don't care or anything but when i go to think of doing stuff with him i ...
A. 5 February 2007: Hmm, this is a difficult one. I guess the only way you can stop doing this is to think how you'd feel if you knew he was constantly focusing on one of your bad points.
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What does it mean when your bf only has sex with you, doggy-style?
Q. What does it mean when your bf only has sex with you doggy-style? I love my bf so much, and we have been discussing future plans that might lead to marriage! He is the best sex that I have ever had...EVER! And he sure pleases me in everything ...
A. 5 February 2007: Guys tend to get more satisfaction from the doggy style since it allows them to get deeper into you but obviously it can get kind of boring if you're a girl, especially if you don't get as much out of it as him. Other positions that will give him a ... (read in full...)
Why does it bother me, that he likes to have porn pics on his phone. Is it my insecurities?
Q. help how do i stop being so insecure! I am very much in love and trust my boyfriend and vice versa. The thing thats sending me nuts is whats on his phone. Loads of our intimate videos but its the two he has of a model obviously pornographic. He ...
A. 5 February 2007: He's told you he doesn't. Porn is all about fantasies. You can never be as "perfect" as the porn girl unless you buy your own personal airbrusher. Real girls just aren't like that. He loves you for yourself. Try not to worry. Your boyfriend sounds ... (read in full...)
i just wanna fall in love with him because apparently its such a "nice feeling." Why do I think this way?
Q. heya im 16 and i have been with my bf for over a month now and the relationship is going really well. the thing is i REALLY want to fall in love with him. thats just what i keep thinking "am i falling inlove with him, i hope i am". and "i just wan...
A. 5 February 2007: You can't force yourself to fall in love with someone and by trying to, you're probably making it even harder for it to happen. Relax and enjoy your relationship. Being in love is a nice feeling but not one you can force.
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I'm terrified beyond belief. My career is just taking off and I find out..I'm pregnant! Advice is needed!
Q. Hey folks. Thanks so much to everyone who's been so helpful whenever i've needed advice. I really do take on board what you say. I am 22 this coming May, i've been seeing someone for nearly 5 months who i love and is like my best friend but who i...
A. 5 February 2007: Nobody who posts here can tell you that you definitely won't regret it because nobody knows you like you know yourself. You're very lucky to have such a supportive family who are willing to help if you do decide to have the baby and really ... (read in full...)
We just are friends that sleep together but I think he's getting feelings for me. Advice?
Q. I'm kind of seeing this guy- it started out as us just sleeping with each other and then we became friends who sleep with each other but recently,the way he has been treating me suggests he feels more for me but when we have discussed it of course ...
A. 5 February 2007: He says he likes things the way they are so he's being honest. He doesn't want a relationship with you. It's all about the sex which is fine if that's all you want to but I get the idea from your posting that you want more in which case maybe you're ... (read in full...)
We spend so much time together that conversations get boring! What can we do?
Q. i have been with my current boyfriend for 2 and a half years. i love him to pieces, but because i spend all my time with him, (which i love!) we never have anything to talk about apart from work (which gets boring after a while). can anybody help?...
A. 5 February 2007: If you don't spend every waking moment together it doesnt mean you love him any less. If you look around at the couples who have lasted for years and years you'll probably find that the reason for this is because they take time apart to be ... (read in full...)
He dumped me saying he wanted to date no one..but he went on a date last night with another girl! Should I tell her what he's like?
Q. i split with my bf of 2 months.... 2 weeks ago, because he said he wasnt ready for a relationship with any1 at the moment! i have now found out he went on a date with sum1 last night! do you think he was lying to me about our split, or do yo think ...
A. 5 February 2007: Don't say anything to the new girl. You'll just sound pathetic and bitter. To be honest it sounds like he lied to you about the reasons for your split but even if he didnt and plans to treat the new girl in exactly the same way it's not for you to ... (read in full...)
My bf has been secretly visiting 'swing' clubs and cheating on me! What should I do?
Q. Hi i recently found out my boyfriend of 4 years has been frequenting swinging clubs for the past few months and having casual sex. Im heartbroken, but I feel like an idiot as i thought he loved me. When i confronted him he said it was a once off...
A. 5 February 2007: Relationships are nothing unless you trust each other and are able to forgive. If you can't then you don't have a relationship but bear in mind that everyone makes mistakes and that you could probably forgive him if you set your mind to it, you just ... (read in full...)
She's been down so I am giving her space until she wants to talk...am I doing the right thing?
Q. My girlfriend has been feeling down for about a week and a half. I try to talk to her about it but she doesn't want to talk. She's fine around my friends and sometimes pulls out of the mood and is happy for a little bit when no one is around. I ...
A. 5 February 2007: Absolutely! She knows you're there for her and that you care enough about her to give her the space she needs. Top marks for boyfriend skills!
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I am having these dreams about my bf's friends! What does this all mean?
Q. i,ve been with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years now, we have been through alot together like last december i had an ectopic pregnancy he was great through it he really looked after me. But recently i have been having these dreams about ...
A. 5 February 2007: You've had a difficult time and your brain is offloading all your pain through dreams. If you love your boyfriend, are 100% happy with him and don;t intend to cheat on him then just try not to take these dreams too seriously and overthink them and ... (read in full...)
He was unavailable to take my call...and I'm being suspicious! Am I being silly or what?
Q. hi been with my b/f for over 2 years..we spent the whole day together yesterday and he took me home at night. I got there at about 9:40. I did ask him to call me later to say nite...1:15 am or so came, i decided to call and say night..a lot of ...
A. 5 February 2007: To be brutally honest I think you're being silly. He's given you a perfectly legitimate excuse that you have no reason not to believe. He's also not given you another reason not to trust him. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt until you have real ... (read in full...)
I ended it...because he flirts with others a lot and I find this hard to trust him. Did I do the right thing?
Q. I've been with a guy a bit older than me (15 years) for the past four months. He's the doorman at a social club where I work on the bar. I've really fallen in love with him, but he's a terrible flirt and I've found this hard to cope with. He also ...
A. 5 February 2007: Some people are natural flirts but in your own words you couldnt trust him which suggests you it wasn't a strong relationship. If you don't have trust you have nothing at all. It'll be hard getting over him, especially as you work together but try ... (read in full...)
Should I continue my affair??
Q. I have been maried 15 years. Over the last 5 years my wifes sex drive has been in decline whilst mine has increased. We now have sex very rarely . I practiclly have to beg for sex but she wont give in. I recently made contact with an old friend a...
A. 5 February 2007: Having noted all the things you added I stick by my original gut instinct of your poor wife. None of the things you describe are her fault yet you're blaming her for them regardless. Nobody is going to be sympathetic to you for having an affair. If ... (read in full...)
Is width and depth of vagina proportional to brest size of the female?
Q. Is width and depth of vagina proportional to brest size of the female? Intention behind this question is: I am from a society where I cant have sex with partner before marriage. So how can i know sexual compatibility (like too tight/wide etc?)...
A. 5 February 2007: The vagina is elastic. That's how it stretches enough for any shape penis and even for a baby to come out of it. Breast size has nothing to do with it. Look for a person based on their personality, not their looks.
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How can I tell if my virgin boyfriend is ready?
Q. Hi. I'm a 15 year old girl. My boyfriend is 17. I've known him since I was 2 months old, and we fell in love when we were just little kids. We've been going steady for about 2 months now, and I feel that I'm completely ready to lose my virginity to ...
A. 5 February 2007: I'd imagine your boyfriend is put off by your age and wanting to wait until you're 16. This is sensible because if anyone finds out he's having sex with you before you reach the age of consent he could be charged with rape, whether it's consensual ... (read in full...)
Both of us are afraid to say "I love you"...What should we do?
Q. If your in love with a boy and that boy is in love with you and he is afraid to tell you and your afraid to what should we do?...
A. 5 February 2007: If you're afraid to say it you're not really feeling it
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How can I ask her out on 2nd date?
Q. I really want to take this girl somewhere different for 2nd date. She never seems to make an effort to talk but if I do she goes on forever. How can i ask her out on 2nd date?...
A. 5 February 2007: Just ask her. Sounds to me like she's shy but that she really likes you!
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Now we have started seeing each other its all about sex!!
Q. Ok. So i've been seeing this guy for nearly two months now. But before that he was my best friend for like 4years. Before we started seeing each other we were on the phone all the time talking about normal teenage stuff. Anyway, now when he calls me ...
A. 5 February 2007: You don't put up with this. You're obviously not comfortable about having sex and giving him oral so don't. A real friend wouldn't force you to do this and be disappointed when you didnt.
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I fancy a guy 20-years older than me. I can't stop thinking about him!
Q. Hi I am a woman of 33 who works in a bar part-time. I have been divorced after an 8 year marriage for a few months now. My ex-husband turned out to be gay. So these past few months have been about re-discovering myself. I am ready for a relationship ...
A. 5 February 2007: At your age it's totally okay to fancy someone older. I read the title of this post and assumed it'd be a teen in love with a thirty something but you're both mature adults so why not give each other a chance?
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I have a crush on my cousin...
Q. I have a crush on my cousin. He's 3 years older than me but I don't care. He is very sweet and lovely to be with. I don't know what I should do. Can anyone help me?...
A. 5 February 2007: You know what chick? The reason age gaps matter so much at your age is becase you both want different things out of the relationship. Give it some time. He's your cousin which means he'll always be close by and by the time you're 17 and he's 20 the ... (read in full...)
Why get wedding day nerves??
Q. dear cupid, Why do people get nervous on there wedding day? it confuses me because before the wedding they the couple are all excited and then on the day they are nervous, why??...
A. 5 February 2007: For so many reasons. For some the nerves are logistical. What if there's a problem with the flowers? the food? Other people are nervous because it means the end of their freedom to be a single person etc. The day makes it so much more final. It's ... (read in full...)
How far could we go???
Q. Me and my boyfriend are only teenagers and would like to know how far we could go, we have agreed not to have sex until 14 which is a couple of months?...
A. 5 February 2007: I'm sure that people telling you not to have sex is just going to make you want it more. Just a few things to consider. If anyone finds out you're sleeping together your boyfriend could be charged and sent to jail for rape, regardless of whether ... (read in full...)
Finally got the courage to dump my boyfriend and now hes emotionally blackmailing me. What should I do?
Q. I finally got the courage to dump my boyfriend and now hes emotionally blackmailing me. I dont love him anymore and I have feelings for someone else so i told him i didnt want to be with him. Its the only solution i can come to. He has now said to ...
A. 4 February 2007: You need to tell him that you're not responsible for his life and that if he kills himself it won't be your fault. Honestly it wouldn't be. Someone who is desperate enough to kill themselves doesn't do it over one reason. It's because they feel they ... (read in full...)
Feel disgusted that I have kissed two guys when drunk and have hurt my bf! What canI do?
Q. I have been very stupid twice.. I have been with boyfriend for 5years, xmas 2004 i was too drunk and kissed a friend, because i was drunk and we'd always been flirty i thought i loved him! we thought we had something special- when really we didnt at ...
A. 4 February 2007: The fact that you can't even remember kissing the second boy is quite worrying. It suggests that you're developing a bit of a problem with drinking. We all have occassional wild nights but when you can't remember things the next day it starts to get ... (read in full...)
Guy at work admits he likes me but won't me as he doesn't date co-workers. What can I do?
Q. I have been going out with some guys from work once a week for a month or two now, a big group of us go, but I have two particular friends who I always thought were gay, who I'm closer to than the rest. The first is most definitely gay, however ...
A. 4 February 2007: It's not a problem to be in a couple with someone you work with. The problem comes when you break up and still have to see them every day. Maybe you're mature enough to deal with that eventuality but it doesn't sound like he is.
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I got angry and told him to leave me alone! Now I'm regretful and want to say how sorry I am...what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend and I broke up almost 3 months ago now, we were together 8 months, we talked about the future a lot but then we seemed to suddenly not be able to communicate anymore. ive found these 3 months so difficult because i cant understand why i ...
A. 4 February 2007: I think it's been three months now and that contacting him even to say sorry will mess with his head, making him wonder if you want him back. I say that if you find yourself in a position where you meet him randomly it might ease your conscience to ... (read in full...)
Have a guy and a baby but want to have 'fun' with another fellow. Any advice?
Q. im in love with my bf we been 2getha 3years and av a baby i meet someone and i like him i dont wanna relationship with him just fun am i wrong my bf has cheated on me 3 times ...
A. 4 February 2007: You're not the most important person in your life anymore. Your baby is. You need to do what's right for it not for yourself.... (read in full...)
Planning to invite this older guy (26) I like to my 17th b'day party...will he feel out of place with my friends?
Q. I'm 17 next week and having a party to celebrate it on friday! I am planing to have many friends their but they are all 16-19... there will be about 25 of them.... thing is im seriously upside down in love with a 26 year old man and i wanna invite ...
A. 4 February 2007: I would feel awkward personally but feel free to ask him. Just don't be crushed if he doesn't turn up.
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How long does it take for a partner to 'find themselves'??
Q. Hello, When in a relationship the one half says they need to find themselves, how long does it take , and how do you find yourself? Do you ever find yourself, then from there find or reconnect with the person that you loved, and the person that ...
A. 4 February 2007: You take lots of time and lots of space and you learn to enjoy being in your own company. That's usually it.
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Should I continue my affair??
Q. I have been maried 15 years. Over the last 5 years my wifes sex drive has been in decline whilst mine has increased. We now have sex very rarely . I practiclly have to beg for sex but she wont give in. I recently made contact with an old friend a...
A. 4 February 2007: You know the answer to this. Regardless of your feelings towards your wife your first priority has to be the happiness of your children.
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I have lost everything...please help!!
Q. Dear friends, My name is Seb and i'm 18. i have been bi curious now since i was 11, which is a long time but i have never done anything homosexual until recently. It has caused a huge amount of problems for me. Firstly, i cant deny my feelings...
A. 4 February 2007: It's fine to be bicurious and it's fine to mess about with guys but what is never fine is to go after guys that belong to your friends. This applies to you whether you're straight, gay or bi. If you want to keep Sam's friendship break things off ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for a partner to 'find themselves'??
Q. Hello, When in a relationship the one half says they need to find themselves, how long does it take , and how do you find yourself? Do you ever find yourself, then from there find or reconnect with the person that you loved, and the person that ...
A. 4 February 2007: How long is a piece of string? Your partner just needs some time alone. Give it to them and they will come back to you.
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Need tips on how to get over my ex...
Q. I dated this girl for about 2 months until she said she wanted to break up with me. I was so depressed I didnt really know how to handle it so I called her a B**** which I apologized for. Bad move on my part but even know we have been apart for 3 ...
A. 4 February 2007: You can ask her and see if she's changed her mind but if she hasn't it's just something you have to accept. Unfortunately the person who wants out of the relationship always gets their own way, however much the other person wants to carry on.
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What's this guy up to... he said he left town because the cops were after him then he went quiet
Q. I've been talking to this guy who i like and he says that he likes me also.He calls me daily,which makes me feel special because I know that he is thinking of me.Well 2 days ago he left me a message telling me that he might not call me because ...
A. 4 February 2007: Sounds like he's trouble. I'd forget him. There are plenty of guys out there who aren't being chased by the police.
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I have a crush on my cousin...
Q. I have a crush on my cousin. He's 3 years older than me but I don't care. He is very sweet and lovely to be with. I don't know what I should do. Can anyone help me?...
A. 4 February 2007: It's not illegal to date your cousin and it's not illegal to date someone three years older than you but at your age three years is a big age gap. He probably sees you as a child. Also imagine breaking up with him which would probably happen because ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for my relationship with this lesbian lady or should I move on?
Q. I am friends with this lesbian and our friendship is great. We have everything in common and love eachothers company. After spending time together it came to a point that we had sex. This relationship lasted for about a month (she seemed happy) but ...
A. 4 February 2007: Sorry but she's already told you she only wants a relationship with a woman so unless she changes her mind she's not up for a relationship.
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How do I make the kissing move?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are going to the cinema soon and I really want to kiss her, because i love her and ive never kissed anyone before. I'm just wondering what I should do because I cant just move over all of a sudden and kiss her so what can I ...
A. 4 February 2007: Yes you can! How do you think the rest of the kisses in the world happen? You just lean over and do it. If you feel uncomfortable wait for the end of the night or something or start out just by kissing her cheek to gauge her reaction.
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My fiancee is in another country and wants a nudey pic... Should I send it?
Q. i have been in this relationship for thre years but my fiance is in another counrty now and he want a picture of me naked.What should i do cause i dont have a cam and i am afraid to send him a picture.Should I send it or not?...
A. 4 February 2007: If you don't want to send him one don't!
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