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writes:i have hit a big decision! i am currently in a relationship and have been for the past 4 months. i love my girlfriend with all my heart and have never once in my life before been disloyal to a partner. recently, an old friend of mine got back in touch with me, we used to have a bit of a thing for each other and i cared about her alot! the thing is, i still do. we have arranged for her to come and visit me for the week but now i dont know whether this is a good idea or not. i would love so much to see her but i am very afraid of what might happen. i know she still has a thing for me and has done ever since we first met. the truth is, i think i do for her aswell.the thing is, if i tell her i have a girlfriend, it will definitly put her off coming to stay for the week and i wont see her but if i dont tell her, then i know we will end up in bed together. i've messed up big time, please, somebody help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (31 January 2007):
YOU SHOULD HAVE TOLD HER YOU HAVE A GIRLFREIND. You know what the problem is, you would jump into bed with this woman and you know you would. Which means you DONT CARE about how much you would hurt your girlfiend. Doesnt the fact that you would break her heart matter to you. You digust me. Tell her you have a girlfriend. OR leave your girlfriend. One girl or the other. You shouldt have both.
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (29 January 2007):
 The advice given by Shandy Pop & CD is spot on! Don't do it! If you go through with this then you obviously don't love your girlfriend. If you can't stop yourself doing it then tell your girlfriend before! Don't be a cheat; it will catch up with you. Remember your core principles and values. I'm sure you'll do the right thing. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): You haven't messed anything up YET!! You are being honest in thinking that you will end up in bed together. When was this get together arranged? You have to tell this other girl that you now have a girlfriend, i am sure she will understand. It is ok having these reunions if you don't have a gf but you do and you owe it to yours to be loyal and trustworthy. What if this other girl comes along, you do sleep together, she goes back to her life and yours is left in tatters. No, turn your back now. Don't go looking for trouble - it will come looking for you. Please tell this other girl the situation and ask her not to come. You don't need this hassle in your life right now. On another note: How would you feel if that was your gf having a male friend, you wouldn't like it. Don't spoilt it, stop it now!!!!!
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): You haven't messed anything up YET!! You are being honest in thinking that you will end up in bed together. When was this get together arranged? You have to tell this other girl that you now have a girlfriend, i am sure she will understand. It is ok having these reunions if you don't have a gf but you do and you owe it to yours to be loyal and trustworthy. What if this other girl comes along, you do sleep together, she goes back to her life and yours is left in tatters. No, turn your back now. Don't go looking for trouble - it will come looking for you. Please tell this other girl the situation and ask her not to come. You don't need this hassle in your life right now. On another note: How would you feel if that was your gf having a male friend, you wouldn't like it. Don't spoilt it, stop it now!!!!!
Take care.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (29 January 2007):
 You haven't messed up because there is still time to sort it out. Can I be honest? It sounds to me like your relationship with your girlfriend is worth something whereas what you have with the other girl is just sexual tension. You know it's not a good idea for her to come visit you if you really care about your girlfriend. Sort it out while you still have time to.
CD
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