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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi there! This is more for my best friend from school who has recently been dumped by her bf. She seems to be doing better, but I'm still worried. She had been dating this guy since the beginning of the school year in September, so she really liked him. I'm still with my first boyfriend (which has been going great) and she was the one I learned from, but now she's making me scared of when the time comes and me and my bf break up. Anyways, I've run out of reasurring things to tell her, and it seems like she's just blocking other thoughts and just thinking about what happened. She also hasn't been eating much. Just yesterday she only had a yogurt for brunch. I am scared that she will get an eating disorder and so on, having to go to the hospital because of it. What I want to know is, what can I do to help her?
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reader, -x0xKiSSmeDeadLyx0x-  +, writes (29 January 2007):
BreakuPs..being dump!Olalala!
I cried, chased after them and make fooled of myself.
How many times they left me and fooled me .How many times I was been hurt but I just kept falling in Love hehez.
I remember I even cried for a week,I keep calling, I did everything just to get him back.
The pain was so strong I coudn't felt anything even if my teacher screamed at me or my moms gets mad.
Every break ups for me is like if it's the end of the world.
But beleived me you'll get over it.
1.What you should is to keep her COMPANY!
2.Let her feel being LOVED and SPECIAL.
3.Encourage her to do something a HOBBY or SPORT that will keep her from thinking about him.
4.Have fun.Party hard and meet People.
then she will just realized she's not already thinking about him.
BUT my greatest secret of getting over them is the my eager of REVENGE.
If they get me tired getting them back, I do everything just to prove them it's their lose!
This is crazy but it's true.
Make yourself PRETTY,Show him your HAPPY, IGNORE him make him JEALOUS!
Then that's it you don't realized your in love again hahaha!
that's always happen to me! I find another guy to make him jealous and he's just the next to hurt me again nyahahaha!
that's just LOVED!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): Hello Dear,
You are a good friend to keep an eye on your friend. It sounds to me like she is mildly depressed. You can find out if her grades have suffered or if she is sleeing too much or too little. If she has had these problems as well, as your Mom to speak with her Mom and make sure she's aware that her daughter may need help to get through this. In the meanwhile, reassure your friend that everyone has breakups, they suck for everyone, and we all meet someone better for us eventually. Try to get her to focus on things other than the breakup like outing and mutual likes that you have and bring some of her favorite snacks that you can share - gotta love chocolate!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Breaking up is what you make of it. Don't get me wrong, it's not a nice experience, but you have a choice, whether to wallow in it and let it overtake you or to make a clear decision that it's ok to be sad but not to let it ruin your life. So don't worry about breaking up with your boyfriend, just remember that a good attitude will make it better if it does happen. At your age relationships are so transient and nobody will be single for long. Keep an eye on your friend's eating. If we're talking about one day she might just not have been hungry but if it continues try talking to an adult you trust about it. She will bounce back, she just hasn't decided to yet.
CD
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