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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): You try whipped cream, chocolate syrup... steak? I think it's all about attitude. If you tell him how hot it will make you and how excited you will be to do things to him, I would be shocked if he wasn't into it. If that doesn't work, you need to sit down with him and find out why he won't go down south. It may be that he finds it gross or sometimes it can be a feminine hygeine problem (you may not think you have one, but just make sure you don't). Personally, I am big fan of going downtown because I know how much women enjoy it, so I wish you luck in converting him.
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reader, CarrieMagdelene  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 Good question. Sometimes it can feel like you're the giver, and never the reciever, can't it. :( Sorry to hear about your delimna. I can only offer advice, no personal experience, because my boyfriend actually went down first and it was a few days before I could get up the courage to do it myself. Honestly...I was really afraid of it. Not of his body, no, of course not. I was afraid of not doing it right, or what if I freaked out and got panicky. Or what if the taste of his ejaculate was so bad I spit it out? One day we were kissing and I had this big rush of bravery come over me and I asked if I could do it. He was game, of course, and as soon as it was infront of me, it's like 'sink or swim, do or die, sink or swim, do or die, sink--' and I jumped on it. Not literally, you know what I mean, hopefully. But the point is, if you talk about it a few days before hand, talk about the feelings and anxiety the both of you have, it might perhaps get the idea more situated in his head and open his mind to a new pethora of ideas. Perhaps he doesn't think you want it. Try bringing it up casually to him and explain that you're interested in it. Ask his opinion of it and if he has any ideas for a solution, maybe. Again, I never really asked, or was told it was even going to happen by my significant other, so I can't be of too much help. Just thought I'd throw in my two cents! -Carrie
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (1 February 2007):
 Some people think it's "dirty." Not me. I've even heard of girls not wanting it because they thought it was "dirty." Maybe he's inexperienced and not sure as to what to do. Show him the way to the promised land. . . or give him a book to read that spells it out for him. . . or get him a video that features the procedure. . . or come by house and leave your boyfriend at home. LOL.
Good luck!
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (31 January 2007):
Try giving him oral and see if he gives it to you in return. After a couple of weeks of him not returning the favour then talk about it with him. Why not raise the topic of oral sex just in general. And see what he has to say about it. Your missing out. So just ask him if he would mind doing it for you. I know its always hard asking for something like that outright.But if youve given it to him its only fair.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (31 January 2007):
 Guys say they don't like that but to be perfectly honest with you I don't much enjoy going down on guys either. Why not tell him that you're sick of it being a one way street and that until he starts showing you the same consideration, no more blow jobs.
CD
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