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writes: Ive been with my g/f for 3 months now(but we've known each other for about a year)and we've only had sex a couple of times(4 in total). It'll be wks in between each time. She keeps coming up with reasons not to, the most common of which is her time of the month. Its now her time of the month every 3 wks. Is this just a line, i mean do girls have periods every 3 wks normally? I cant help but feel shes not being truthful with me. Im also pretty sure that the first couple of times we did it she faked it......i cant be sure about this of course but its what my instincts tell me. She shows no interest in sex, i mean im always the one who asks can we do it and arranges for us to do it(we have to do it in my house coz we're both still living at home). Im trying not to be pushy about this but it is an issue, i need her to want to do it as much as me.......or at least show some interest. What do you think? Thanks.
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reader, santino +, writes (30 January 2007):
santino is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell "annonymous" female reader(s) relax, coz i have tried to talk to her about this and she just got upset and made out like i was using her for sex. You cant ask someone to talk to you about something and then get upset when they do and give them attitude. You cant have it both ways. If i was using her for sex i dont think id still be around. I dont think with my dick but sex is a part of a relationship, you cant remove the sex. Like I said I have tried to talk to "her" but she wont talk to me about this. I mean if there was something else going on in her life, or somthing from her past that made sex a difficult experience for her, then i think she should tell me because then i could understand but she wont talk to me so at the moment the way its coming across is that she doesnt want to do it. So relax with the "all men are bastards" crap because its not the case here. I really want to understand whats going on with her but she wont talk to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2007): sure, some girls' natural cycles are that long. the so-called 'average' is one cycle every 28 days (with the bleeding lasting for 4-7 of those days), but some are shorter (cycle in 21 days, with the same length period, so comparatively fewer non-period days) and some are longer.
But from your post, it sounds like you think something more is going on. Why don't you just talk to her? The thing is, you can't do it in such an accusatory way - your post sounds like you're challenging her for lying to you or something. What you want to do is express to her that it's important to you that she find your sex life as fulfilling as you do, and that you'd like to know what you could do that might help there. Is she nervous about pregnancy? Does she have religious guilt issues? Intimacy issues? Fear of her parents' finding out? Is it just not very fun for her? Try to talk to her about this, and remember that whatever the answer is - even if she says it's just not that fun for her - that doesn't say anything about you, or necessarily anything about the future sex life you guys might have. it just gives you a starting point for seeing where to go. Just be kind to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): Dear "santino" I have a question for you, does your girlfriend know about this issue you have? have you spoken to her about it? because it seems that shes the one you should be asking about this. And if it is such a big issue, then maybe shes not the one for you....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): figure out when she's on her peiod and then ask when she is definitely off it. if she won't have sex then, talk to her.
It's great of you not wanting to be pushy bt it's something you may need to talk about in your relationship... things obviously aren't working in that department.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Some unlucky girls do have periods every three weeks. The average is every 28 days which suggests that many girls must hae period lasting less than 28 days. Talk to her. Maybe there's something putting her off sex that you don't know about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): May be you should stop thinking with your dick and realise that women have periods on average every 3weeks or so, you say shes not being honest with you, do you call this being honest with her? If you want to know whats going on grow up and ask her, either way there is a problem and from the sounds of it ITS YOU!
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