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*heLadiesMan
writes:So Im caught in the crossfire with two girls, check it out here's the situation. Ive been with this one female going on four years, i devirginized her, showed her what she know's, and everything. Only thing is over the years i put her through hell, and i know im not right for it but i was going through my teen to adult phase, and i would scare, threatin, and even cheat on her. Well we've been on and off, and over the year's ive stopped caring of the thought of her being with another fella, she used to break up with me and i would be miserable, id feel like it was the end of the world, well needless to say we grew up to be two different people she absolutely loves the club life, loves to party, loves attention, but i KNOW she loves me, well the last time she broke up with me, i didnt care, i swallowed it, because i got tired of her anyways, so i started talking to some new girl, really cool, she was beautiful too, well long story short, i tried to juggle both females at once, i was living with my new girlfriend, and chilling with my old one during the day.. well it got to the point they knew of each other and didnt like each other, my new girlfriend was depressed and started doing alot of prescription drugs.. and my old girlfriend is just there, i know i care about her way more than my new girl, just because she's been there for me and has emberessed herself for me.. well so i finally my new chick broke up with me because of me being unfaithful, and i broke up with my old girl just because she was annoying me.. Well im moving, to get away from my old girl because i dont want to get back with her right now, but i do want to be with her in the future.. when she' stops clubbing and when im ready to be commited.. but i dont want to talk to her in the process because she only makes me mad, if she mentions her lifestyle to me, and the "new girl" i speak about i talked to her a couple of times recently on the phone she started txtn me out of no where we talked on the phone for 6 hours one night, and didnt speak after that, i tried callin but she dont answer, i think she is trying to stay clear of me, but she still is attracted to me or something like that.. Well i just want advise on how i could not talk to my old girl and still be able to have her in my future.. and i also want to know how i can still sex the other girl, you know with her trying to keep distance and all from me..
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (17 January 2010):
I think you'll be respected once you start respecting women...rather than how you can put one on the backburner then manipulate and emotionally abuse the other one.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (17 January 2010):
 I have already said what I think you should do:
"why don't you just get on a bus and out of their faces so that they can both move on and build futures for themselves that dont include you"?
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reader, TheLadiesMan +, writes (17 January 2010):
TheLadiesMan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo can i get some advise or are yall going to keep disrespecting me, im not asking what i should put on her collar, if it was to much to ask focus on the how can i have a promising future with the love of my life.. Ill focus on getting the other female in bed!
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (17 January 2010):
whoooot whooooot older sistah, way to go
you are speaking my language!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (17 January 2010):
Are you for real???
The old girlfriend annoys you and makes you mad, but you want a future with her? You want her to settle down and be committed, yet you're the one that wants to juggle two girls and string one along for sex?
Seriously, cut ties with both of them. If you truly even slightly liked or cared about any of these girls you wouldn't treat either one of this this way and they certainly don't need your drama. Quit trying to crap on other peoples' lifes because yours sucks and find something and someone that actually makes you happy and that you can also make happy. Seriously, you shouldn't love the drama and it sounds like you do. If you loved that other girl you wouldn't be playing games and try to continue to lay the new one.
BTW, conversate is not a word; it's converse.
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reader, TheLadiesMan +, writes (17 January 2010):
TheLadiesMan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnow we're talking. So what do i do? how should i keep in touch with her, i want to talk to her, it's just that she just has the need to always bring up all the attention she gets, and im not afriad to admit that im jelous. But i am.. and she know's i kinda feel like it's payback for all the havoc ive caused only difference is, i dont want to put up with it.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (17 January 2010):
You call yourself "The Ladies Man" what sort of picture do you think that gives of you.
Fornicate away, no skin off anybody else's nose, but to think your girlfriend will be waiting for you with open arms when she has finished her clubbing and you have finished your fornicating go for it.
Don't worry about the feelings of the girl you only want for the fornification either, I mean to say, you shouldn't them get in the way of your wants either.
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reader, TheLadiesMan +, writes (17 January 2010):
TheLadiesMan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's not that, I love my old gf, im just annoyed by her right now, and i prefer not to conversate with her till she finishes going through the clubbing phase, and the other girl, i just want to fornicate with. Am i wrong for that? I mean we created art together in the bed. I just want some logical advise from someone whose in my position, i dont want to be critisized! I appreciate your input though, it was needed from a females perspective.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (17 January 2010):
You cant do what you are asking, not without compromising either one or the other or both of them. Whats wrong with you that you seem to have no thought or care for the feelings of either of these girls. They are living breathing human beings but you seem to have reduced them to playthings.
You dont seem to be adding much to their lives, detracting more like, why don't you just get on a bus and out of their faces so that they can both move on and build futures for themselves that dont include you?
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