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anonymous
writes:really want a holiday this summer but boyfriend has no money and i don't think i should be expected to pay. how can i convince him to go away with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): You can always go on your own. I had a similar situation with my ex; he, however, did everything possible to avoid getting a job as he wanted to do something in academia and according everything else was beneath him- he wouldn't life a finger unless he thought it was up to his intellectual standards.....anyway, I'm not saying your boyf is like that. I am just finishing my PhD and I don't have the money for a holiday, and I don't want my fiance paying for me. I will soon get a job and when I have money we will go. But it's not worth getting into debt for a holiday, that is really not a sensible thing to do. I went a good language course in Italy and I really enjoyed going on my own. I learnt loads and met lots of interesting people. Have a think about doing that. But don't make your boyf feel bad if he is working but still can't afford to go. Getting a new job doesn't just happen by magic either, so just try and bide your time, or head off for a break on your own.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (18 January 2010):
 how can he go halves when he has no money? Either go alone or wait until he is back on his feet financially.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 January 2010):
He is at the moment, but give him time. I lost my job a little while back, so I know it hurts a lot. He needs to get his money in order first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni was willing to go halfs. we've been togther two years and haven't been abroad together. he's thinking about getting a new job so he can get more money but he's not doing a lot about it. ive got him application forms etc but it seems he's stcuk in a rut
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (18 January 2010):
 YOU are the one wanting to go on holiday! You can't expect someone else to pay for it! And if you're boyfriend doesn't have they money then.. he simply doesn't have the money. Nothing you can do about it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 January 2010):
Sorry sweetie, but if he has no money, he can't go.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (17 January 2010):
If you dont want to pay, and your boyfriend has no money, what are you expecting from this site. A magic wand, details on how to rob a bank, are you expecting us to advise he get a credit card and into debt when he can't pay?
Do you believe you are being realistic?
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