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writes:There is this guy that I know.Ive known him for about a year or so now.I have a huge problem with the way he is always correcting my grammar.Sometimes I will say went when I should have said gone.I say hamburger meat instead of ground beef.Sometimes I run words together such as "why wouldnt you" sounding like "why woundtchu".He constantly is correcting me,and it is driving me insane.Im starting to get really upset about it,and it makes me feel self conscious.Im not sure why he even hangs around me if it bothers him that much.I feel like hes trying to mold me into his idea of perfecttion.Im from a small town in PA,and ive grown up talking the way I talk.I know the proper and improper way to say things,and dont need to be told.I just talk the way other people talked as I was growing up.How can I get it through to him that I dont want to be told? I kind of joke around trying to tell him but laugh at the same time,and it just doesnt work because he still does it.I dont want to make him feel bad,I just want him to understand that it bothers me.I feel like he is putting me down when he does this. Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (30 January 2010):
 Short and sweet.. just say "whatever!!" then continue talking the same way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): I take offense to that whole comment about being almost 30 and not wanting to sound articulate.There is a time and a place for "perfect" grammar.To me,that does not include during casual conversation.In my question,I clearly wasnt talking about this happening during business conversations.If I had horrible grammar,then yes,I would want to better myself.I speak,and people understand what im saying.Most people wouldnt walk away after a conversation with me thinking "wow,her grammar is awful".I dont have bad grammar to begin with.Not perfect,but im not a perfectionist so I dont allow it to bother me.What bothers me is when somebody picks apart everything that I say.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 hey, he doesnt seem to care how you feel about him contantly correcting you.
Just tell him, like this, "joe, I know I have mentioned this several times before, but if you correct my speech one more time I am going to have to stop talking to you, or in front of you, and the best way for me to do that Joe, is for me to not mix with you dontchuknow
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): Next time he does it to you just tell him exactly what you've wrote on here. He probably doesn't really realise how hurtful it is to correct someone constantly.
He met you like it, its not his place to change you.
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