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writes:My girl's a liar and a cheat but she's so good sexually that I can't ditch her. She lets me do ANYTHING. Tempting? How am I supposed to go out and meet other girl that compare to THAT? Comparatively, every girl I meet is so boring sexually.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (3 March 2010):
 Well if you don't have intimacy anymore, why bother staying with her if the sex is the only reason? My point is, if sex is what's keeping you from leaving her, don't you think it's a bit unfair that she can sleep around with multiple partners and you are expected to just be with her? I mean, why be in a relationship when you know there is more action going on behind the scenes? No wonder she is willing to do anything, it's because she wants sex from anyone and everyone!
My advice to you is to downgrade this to a friends with benefits type deal. Staying with someone in a relationship JUST for sex when you know the other person is sleeping around has NO benefits what so ever. You are tied down to this person with no emotional value, and to top it all off, she thinks she has free reign to sleep around with whoever. Not a great definition of a relationship and pretty much a waste of time and commitment. Plus if you were friends with benefits, you could find other people too that might be just as good AND willing to commit.
Bottom line? No. Great sex isn't worth being cheated and lied to. Relationships exist purely for the sake of companionship and, to some extent, loyalty. This 'relationship' has neither, so what's the point? Kind of defeats the likeliness of getting even BETTER sex by being committed to someone who isn't even committed to you. Both lifestyles however tend to be a little heavy on the threat of STD's and pregnancy, so protect yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe used to have all that "intimacy" and what not, but it died with the first deceit.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 I understand what you are feeling. She is submissive in bed but not satisfied with you. I feel that she's more experienced than you are and you just go with the flow. Perhaps she was used to men who lead sexually and would expect you to know what she wants. She is impatient and wants instant gratification. A girl who loves you would tell you what she wants. I would disagree that girls are generally boring. We all have a great sexual desires waiting for man to tap into. If you look outside for a girl with this negative mindset, you would be doing exactly what you girlfriend's doing, and miss out on other great aspects in a relationship, such as intimacy, fun, and companionship. You know that sex alone cannot feed your soul.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (2 March 2010):
 It seems to me you find the sexual benefits more appealing than anything else. Its your choice, go find somebody who doesnt lie and cheat, but who might not "let you do anything" or stick with what you have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): Wait 'til she catches a lifelong disease when she gets a little too wild, one day, or spreads it to you.., you won't miss a thing after that. You might just find a girl that pleases you just as much, sexually, AND satisfies you in every other way, to be with. Trust me, there ARE plenty of girls that are great sexually, with no downside of being a cheater. Even if all you're looking for is someone to have the same great sex with, lose this chick and save your dick, and a loyal girl with the same abilities to pleasure you and the same interests as you will be waiting for you.
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reader, Hard_decision +, writes (2 March 2010):
I guess you have to ask yourself this - Do you want to be in a long term loving relationship with someone who will be faithful and bring happiness to your life.. or do you want to have great sex with a girl who cheats and lies to you... ps if shes cheating you are at a very high risk of catching something..is the sex worth catching a STD or HIV? Some people are boring in bed and are happy just doing simple things and others are more adventurous and like to experiment, if your open with a girl and put forward things you want to try with her then most girls would agree to atleast try it.. I dunno it sounds your more worried about a great sex life then a happy future with someone you love and who will love you in return and not cheat on you.
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reader, DMJ2890 +, writes (2 March 2010):
good sex is never enough for a good relationship, yes it is fun and desirable for everyone, but vaginas dont talk, they dont comfort you and they dont make a relationship work. As much as people think that their sexual partner is the greatest, it may just be that its the best you have seen yet. Many women are adventurous sexually and they dont cheat or lie. my advice to you is if you are looking for marriage material...ditch the lying and cheating and look for someone whos great in bed AND has a great heart
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (2 March 2010):
So if she's a cheat and she sleeps with other guys she prob let's them do anything as well. Sounds disgusting to me. Your just a guy she's having sex with she's not your girlfriend
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (2 March 2010):
Obviously the only thing that's important to you is the sex. You don't seem to care too much that you're with a person that most people wouldn't want to be near (a cheater and liar) but you don't want to leave her because you think she's good in bed.
Looks to me like that's a personal problem. And if you're okay being with someone like that just for sex then really isn't that what you deserve? You wouldn't want to hurt a girl for being a much better person than your girlfriend because you find her boring in bed. I think you should figure out what you want and use your girlfriend as a FWB, because obviously you and she are not relationship material at the moment.
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