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writes:I have previously asked for advice on this situation, but now it has become even more complicated. I am 8 weeks pregnant with my ex boyfriends child. Me and him had been together for two years and it was a roller coaster, off and on again relationship. We had broken up last October, but when he came home for leave in December (he's in the army) one thing led to another just like it always does, and I ended up pregnant. Then several weeks ago I had found out that he was dating a new girl whom he claims he "loves very much." I was so hurt and angry when I found out because not only did he lie to me, but he had cheated on her which made me feel awful. My previous question had been should I tell her, because I knew he would not. Eventually one of my best friends became so angry that she wrote her a message and explained everything to her. Now she knows and is hurt and upset as well. But now I am feeling so guilty and I am wondering if I should write her an apology letter? I do not want her to think I did this on purpose or that I am trying to get him back out of jealousy. The bitter, angry side of me wants so badly to tell her what a manipulative, lying, jerk he is so she doesn't have to waste her time, but then again, I don't want to come off as jealous. I want to tell her that I want nothing from him, not even child support. I really just do not want this guy in my life or in my child's life. Should I write her? And if so, what do I say?
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reader, chita22  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 The only person that should be writing a sorry letter is him to both of u. I understand u want her to know your side u could send her a letter explaning your side but u have nothing to aplogize for u did nothing wrong. If u knew about her that's a different storie, but to be honest w/u I wouldn't deal w/her that's his job and + your friend already told her everything so she pretty much knows anyways. Don't ever tell him u don't want child support u did not make this baby on your own.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 You didnt know she was his girlfriend when you and he had sex, why write her a letter. If you want to write to somebody to say sorry, write it to yourself ....
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