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writes:Ok so I got rejected by a friend of couple years after I had developed strong feelings for her. I have accepted that we can just be friends or less but nothing more.And because I feel uncomfortable around her I started to ignore her, avoid her and pay less attention to her talks. But sometimes she tries to get my attention. Like when I complete someone in the group she asks me how is mine? or how do I look.When I speak without looking into her eyes, she asks me to look at her and speak. If sometimes asks me to sit near her too when I'm afar. But I know nothing is going to happen. Why is she doing that?Should I start ignoring her more? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): She misses your attention, but I doubt she misses you. Fishing for "compliments" is a classic giveaway. Some women think that if a man is reserved, his shyness is an invitation to trample all over him. If she should ask why you are ignoring her, tell her point blank: "Why should I be interested in you if you're not interested in me? And if you aren't interested in me, then why do you care about my attention?" Sometimes the honesty jolts them out of the childish games. You have already done the mature thing by admitting your feelings for her. Now it's her turn to be an adult. I would keep ignoring her, but I wouldn't be afraid of her. You were brave to be honest about your feelings and I am sure are still brave. Don't be afraid of her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): My exbof did the same crap to me. Don't fall for it cause alls it is is she misses your chase and feels rejected. Don't let her fool you. Alls she wants is control again and if you give into her again alls she'll do is crap all over you again. Mark my words you got your control back and that's eating her up so you keep it and send her on her merry way. Gamers like her come and go so don't waste anymore of your time on that one. It's plenty fish in the sea and she aint your fish. Save yourself and time for a stable girl who aint flippy floppy and if you give her a go stay guarded and careful.Lots of good luck!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): She is not playing mind games. If anything you are by so blatantly ignoring her. She isn't a mind reader. If you ignore her you will lose her completely. So, if you value her friendship at all and want to have her in your life in some level at all, then man up and have a conversation with the girl. Let her know why you are doing what you are doing and let her know that you need space and time. If you take that space and time too far, she will be gone. And if you decide that it is just too painful to have her in your life at all, then actually tell her that. Be honest and upfront, anything less then that is less than what she, the girl you care for so much, deserves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): She's still wasting your time. Put a stop to it for good. Ignore her. She's still hasn't matured. Carry on with your life. Find you a mature girl who isn't stuck in games.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 She is doing that because she wants to be friends but you are being ignorant. Keep it up and she will start treating you in the same way .... and then you will be back here wah wah wah she wont look me in the eyes, she wont ask me how my family are and so forth.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (16 February 2011):
Like the walking dude told you. If she's your friend why would you ignore her? It's insane.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): For all anyone knows she may have changed her mind and wants to go out with you but wants you to ask her. Ask her out for coffee or something simple where it's just the two of you for a short period of time doing something together. Enjoy your time, keep things light, look her straight in the eye and say something nice that only pertains to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): If she's your friend then don't just ignore her. Of course she is going to try and get your attention if you're acting like that. Speak to her about it. It's a little immature to just ignore her in person like that.
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