My married lover skipped town!
Q. I was involved with a married man for 3 yrs.He always said he does not want to be committed to me.I did not believe him because his actions spoke volumes.He wanted to see me all the time. He became very possessive of me and was extremely jealous of ...
A. 15 November 2010: To answer your question no I dont think he ever loved you, and if you are scared of him you need to talk to somebody, I udnerstand you would probably prefer not to let family members know how you have been taken in and manipulated for the past three ... (read in full...)
I agreed that my boyfriend can have a stripper at his birthday party, now I regret my decision!
Q. Should I allow this? My boyfriend turns 18 in 2 weeks' time, and he's having a party at a local pub. all sounds great, all his friends and family will be there. HOWEVER, there's one small hitch, I'v just got an e-mail from one of his friends ...
A. 15 November 2010: Now that you have got this off your chest you have already answered your question, "just play along, and swallow back any silly issues" and sit with his mum if it makes you feel any better.... (read in full...)
Should I wait to see if he'll leave his girlfriend
Q. I know this 30 year old guy for a few years he used to come in my shop. Had not seen him for a few months when he started coming in my shop again. after a few times coming in my shop, I told him I had divorced from my husband. The next thing he did ...
A. 14 November 2010: He is only being good with your kids because he can see a big prize at the end of it .... a sexual full on relationship with a woman who owns a shop, its a new take on the old story of marrying the boss's daughter ...
Why pin your hopes on a man... (read in full...)
How can a girl's breasts grow bigger without pills?
Q. my gf has big boobs ( which i like alot!!!) and she says she wants them to get them to a bigger size and i'm for it but how can they grow naturally without taking said pills or exercise devices that claim to increase breast size ...
A. 7 November 2010: The size of a woman's boobs is determined by her DNA. There are no pills or exercises to increase their size.
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My 10 year old doesn't want to meet her long lost father!
Q. I had my daughter when I was 15 years old. I'm now 25 and she is a beautiful ten year old who is now in the sixth grade (she skipped a grade because she's a smart cookie!). Her father, unfortunately, decided not to be part of her life (or mine, f...
A. 7 November 2010: You daughter doesnt want to meet him, I think in the circumstances you need to respect this, so tell him the truth, that she isnt interested in meeting him at this stage in her life. Leave the door open, explain to him she isnt ready but if he ... (read in full...)
How can I save money!
Q. Hi i'm a college student, currently not working. i'm a bad spender when it comes to money, it's like having water in pocket. i need help with saving money, can someone pls give me some ideas on how to save money...
A. 7 November 2010: Try mary Hunt's debt proof living, her savings plans and get out of debt blog has lots of great ideas
http://www.debtproofliving.com/Default.aspx... (read in full...)
Please help me. My life has become a battle of obsession and survival
Q. hello all i am sorry its bit long but pleaseeee read this for god heaven's sake..i am going through a lot of heartache at present. my LDR ex girlfriend(18) left me a year ago and i am still pining over the loss.sometimes i think she was young to...
A. 7 November 2010: She is 18, making her 15 when the LDR began, its a scientific fact girls mature in the realm of love and relationships faster than boys .... I hate to tell you this but she probably simply outgrew you.
Its lovely to hear the articles availabl... (read in full...)
My pms is ruining my relationship
Q. My pms is ruining my relationship. Men, what can we women do to make it easier on you? We do not realize we are mean, and rude and irrational until after the fact. Help me because I am ruining my relationship and I do not think he can take much ...
A. 7 November 2010: The first port of call should be your doctor,explain to him your problems and if your PMS is so bad your relationship is on the brink of disolving your GP should be able to help you manage it better, whether through changes in diet and lifestyle or ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend threatens to hurt my family if I leave him
Q. my boyfriend hits me and i've tried so many times to leave him but he threatens me...he says that he's gonna do something bad to my family...i'm so desperate..please hep me...i can't stand him anymore..give me a solution please...what should i do to ...
A. 6 November 2010: Tell a male relative immediately, your father, adult brothers or male cousins, you need to let somebody know what is going on, and then go to the police or relavent body in Albania. And also tell your mother.
By not telling anybody you are leav... (read in full...)
Everyone says I should fight to get my ex back
Q. Ok , I am not with my ex and he is with someone else. i love him and miss him. Everyone is telling me that I should fight to get him back. I have spoken to him and told him how much I love him. i even asked him if he loves me he says that he won...
A. 6 November 2010: I think he is trying very gently to let you know the relationship is over. When he said he is not friends with his ex's because it causes problems in his relationship he was giving you a big hint.
When he said he wouldnt say if he has feelings... (read in full...)
My friend shouted out that I liked him and now he always gives me weird looks
Q. ok so i really like this boy that always gets on the same bus as me .nd i told my best friend that i thought he was fit then a few days later we were on the bus and he got on .and my friend shouted oh look theres that boy you like and heard he ...
A. 6 November 2010: ohhh I too remember the same sort of embaressment. I have to say I like tennistars suggestion of telling him your friend has a dormant case of Tourettes.
However, it will blow over, and will be forgotten by everybody but you .... in the meantime... (read in full...)
I'm pretty, why don't I have a boyfriend when ugly fat girls have one?
Q. All of my friends continue to tell me to ask outthe guy I've liked for 6 years. They continue to say I'm pretty and the refer to me as the 'hot one.' I do believe I'm pretty, but, these over weight, ugly, and mean girls have boyfriends, yet I have n...
A. 6 November 2010: Ugliness, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. What you see as ugly and overweight the boyfriends might see as voluptous or ruebenesque.
If the guy you have liked for the past six years doesnt have a girlfriend, why not ask him out. Ma... (read in full...)
I feel he is getting an easy ride ...
Q. My partner has been living with me full time for a year now and he pays me £400 a month for his keep. My living expenses probably amount to about £1,500 a month and I am now feeling that he is getting an easy ride with what he gives me. Apar...
A. 6 November 2010: why cant he do his own washing and ironing?
is there a reason he cannot use public transport instead of your car?
If you have to chase him up to pay the 400 what guarantees will be put in place to ensure he pays his contribution into the shared a... (read in full...)
Dad thinks he's a lackluster boyfriend because he dosen't put me on a pedestal. Is he?
Q. Hello all. I've been with my guy almost 2 years, and things have been pretty smooth. No arguments, though some disagreements. He's my 1st guy, I'm his 4th girl. "Jack" is a nice guy to everyone he meets. Guys or girls, he would give them the sh...
A. 6 November 2010: I have read your question carefully, I think your Dad is right, you SHOULD be treated a little more "special" than your boyfriends regular friends, you yourself say "He treats me more like a good friend he sleeps with" and that he makes no attmept ... (read in full...)
This is driving me nuts... I'm heartbroken he cheated and we've not even met yet!
Q. whats happening???? I met a guy on the net 2 years ago and we have become very close, get on wicked its unreal and we have a great connection... he says he loves me and wants to marry me... we havent even met each other yet!!! he occasionally spi...
A. 31 October 2010: Why were you sitting around waiting to meet him? What a waste of a precious life ... sitting around waiting to meet somebody ... at last, after two years of sitting around waiting you have recieved something special, the opportunity to turn your ... (read in full...)
How can I ever be her special guy when she was a prostitute who slept with 300-400 men?
Q. Hi All - this is a follow up question from one of my previous ones - How do I cope with my girlfirends past - those that read my last message will remember that she used to be a bargirl in both the Philippines and Singapore and has admitted to ...
A. 31 October 2010: A lot of men are just so fixated on sex, they have a misguided belief that women are just hanging for it, and that the bigger the better, regardless. So wrong, this is so wrong. Who do you think a woman would be more likely to be in love with, a ... (read in full...)
How to deal with a girl who is always bored
Q. I have a girlfriend that is always bored. before i met her i was never going anywhere or doing anything. she likes to do things bt get upset when she ask me what i want to do but i always say i dont know. what should i do?...
A. 31 October 2010: Google your town or city, find out what the attractions are, especially those that are a little quirky ... make a plan to visit one each month.
Pack lunch and go sit in a park somewhere over the weekend, watch the people walking by or feed the... (read in full...)
Mistress is threating to tell my wife about us
Q. I feel like I'm about to lose the best thing that ever happened for me behind ignorance. I know everyone's probably going to say I deserve it and I probably due but no one's perfect. I told my mistress that we needed to sto and she's threatening to ...
A. 31 October 2010: I agree with C Grant, the only way to deal with this is to suck it up and tell your wife. Much better she learn from you than from your mistress.
And then what happens next is very much up to your wife, she may decide she doesn't want to spend th... (read in full...)
Do I leave my abusive spouse for someone who is kind and my sister used to like?
Q. I been married for 1 1/2 yrs. but been together for 4 yrs. I love him unconditionally thats why i never left him even though he chokes me and slaps me. I do the same to him too and i'm usually the one to do it first thats why i cut him some slack. I ...
A. 31 October 2010: Never, ever leave anybody some somebody else. If you are going to leave your husband leave him because he is abusive. If you have to leave your husband what is wrong with trying it on your own for a while? Why do you have to have a man in your ... (read in full...)
What should I say to his girlfriend?
Q. Okay..so I have this guy friend (he has a 3 year relationship with a girl...until now) and we've been good friends for about 2 years now. And I must admit that i like him more than a friend should. Within those years of being friends, we somehow ...
A. 31 October 2010: Your kissing, flirting, texts and so on all were stepping stones to this place you now find yourself. You admit you like him more than a friend. Well now you have been found out.
None of the above is acceptable if he is in a relation... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is flirting with his ex girlfriend... what do I do here?
Q. hi this is my first time using this and it's probably because I want to hear other people's opinion on this and might help me. okay so here it goes. I've caught him (boyfriend) before during valentines day, he gave his ex girlfriend the same cake ...
A. 30 October 2010: Hard though it may be for you to do, I think you should just walk ... you have already told him you are not comfortable with his relationship with his ex ... he didnt seem to care then, and it doesnt look like he cares now.
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Do I tell my friend I like her boyfriend?
Q. Ok, so heres the deal. I'm pretty sure I am falling for one of my speech and debate team mates. I am a jr. in high school hes a senior. My car is broken down so after practices hes giving me a ride home (twice a week). There is only one problem, he ...
A. 29 October 2010: Funny questions ... and I don't mean funny odd!
How do you stop yourself "accidentally" stealing him? C'mon, you have to admit this is a damned silly question!
Sweetheart, this is not B & B, you and your friend are characters in a sit com tha... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have sexual chemistry but not like the guy as a person?
Q. Is it possible to not like someone as a person but still be really attracted to them? I ask this as a guy friend of mine, who lets just say has a reputation AND a girlfriend of nearly a year, is to be honest a bit of a sleaze when it comes to women. ...
A. 29 October 2010: It is possible, I dont know if any scientific studies have been done on sleezes to see if they have extra amounts of pheromones or not ... but it is a chemical reaction.
http:... (read in full...)
He is abusive and accuses me of cheating constantly. How do I stay away??
Q. Me and my husband been together for almost 2 years we have a baby of 1 year . I love him alot and always have respected him. Since I was pregnant he has always accused me of cheating on him even when I was carrying his son. I have never gave him ...
A. 29 October 2010: You need to protect yourself and your child. I agree that you need to leave him and dont give him any indication where you are going, I also agree you need to warn the landlord that this is what you are doing so that he is prepared if your husband ... (read in full...)
B/f and I have argued every day since June!
Q. my boyfriend is my best friend,soul mate everythin i ever wanted. when we 1st got together he showed me so much love and care. he always wanted to txt me, see me,be around me. and moaned tht i never gave much bak. i didnt realise untill i read our ...
A. 28 October 2010: Moaning every day. That can't be much fun, for either of you! What YOU choose to do is up to you, but you have said you were a bitch, you moan, you have been arguing every day since June ... you want that? You are the fly in the ointment in this ... (read in full...)
How can I ever be her special guy when she was a prostitute who slept with 300-400 men?
Q. Hi All - this is a follow up question from one of my previous ones - How do I cope with my girlfirends past - those that read my last message will remember that she used to be a bargirl in both the Philippines and Singapore and has admitted to ...
A. 28 October 2010: You say you beleive she should take responsibility for her actions, what do you think she should do?
A public confession?
A letter to the newspaper?
Stand up in front of your church's congregation and beg forgiveness?
What is it you want h... (read in full...)
My friends always say the teacher is staring at me
Q. hey :) I know I have asked this before, but I got no help :( thank you to the people who did comment though, I just need more help please I don't know what to do im really sorry its so long, but please I need your advice .... I'm a littl...
A. 28 October 2010: If you honestly beleive this man is acting inappropriately you need to speak with an adult female your trust, another teacher, a consellor, your mother, an aunt etc.
If you are too scared to talk to him, or he makes you feel uncomfortable speak to... (read in full...)
B/f and I have argued every day since June!
Q. my boyfriend is my best friend,soul mate everythin i ever wanted. when we 1st got together he showed me so much love and care. he always wanted to txt me, see me,be around me. and moaned tht i never gave much bak. i didnt realise untill i read our ...
A. 28 October 2010: I think he means it, I think he is trying to tell you its time to acknowledge that you didnt treat him well, and I think its time for you to decide if you want a relationship with him or not, and if you do, its time to start treating him with a ... (read in full...)
I'm so nervous about my children growing up and having sex too young, then ending up pregnant!
Q. my children are not old enough yet but one day they will be and this subject really makes me nervous. teen pregnancy. iv read a few just in the past few weeks on this site and that was enough for me to want to go get a couple of chastity belts and ...
A. 28 October 2010: I support having lots of books around, I support families being able to talk to each other, I support sex education in a friendly non threatening environment, perhaps it could be delivered by the school nurse?
I support condoms dispensers being av... (read in full...)
My girlfriend tried to cheat on me in the past and now its hard for me to trust her.
Q. My girlfriend is on a space break with me for a week. It happened because i dont trust her with other guys and i am always scared that she will cheat on me or dump me for someone else. She flirted with my best friend and he asked her out to take her ...
A. 28 October 2010: what do you mean she tried to cheat?
From your letter you appear to be overly insecure .. did you think ASKING rather than telling her not to talk to a certain person might have worked quicker, and if the man in question is your best friend, ... (read in full...)
Should I start a long-distance relationship with this guy, or stay with my boyfriend who will never leave me?
Q. I have been dating a guy for nearly 4 years. At the beginning we were deeply in love with eachother and we had so much in common and we would talk for hours and hours and we never fought and were so happy with eachother. Two years into the relatio...
A. 28 October 2010: Why on earth would you even consider staying with somebody you dont love any more. Have you no idea how unfair that is to your boyfriend?
Let him go so that he can find a girl who WILL love him.
... (read in full...)
I dumped g/f 10 months ago and want her back!
Q. I dumped my girlfriend 10 months ago and everyday I regret it. I treated her bad. Now she's hanging around another guy who treats her like a queen and she acting in a way that she didn't act with me. It torments me to watch anothe guy make her ...
A. 28 October 2010: Sour grapes much?
At your age you should know better, you are now 10 months too late.
Tough luck!... (read in full...)
We have huge arguments about my husband's best friend!
Q. Hi there, I would love to get opinions. I am recently married to a wonderful man, and we are very happy except one thing - we have huge arguments about his best friend. I dont want to get into too much detail about his friend,but I think i have t...
A. 28 October 2010: hah! get a large piece of cardboard and roughly cut out a man shape. Each time your husband choses his friend over plans you and he have, get the substitute out from behind the wardrobe.
I dont agree with turbine that you should behave badly ar... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to move on when he's being so lovely towards me?
Q. Hello Dearcupids! I need help concerning an ex boyfriend. He finished with me in April this year, claiming he wasnt ready for a relationship. It was a fair enough reason, although I have to admit that the relationship wasn't that great due to the...
A. 27 October 2010: awww, isnt he a sweet one, so nice and caring.
Actually, he finished with you because he wasn't ready for committment, and the fact he is still being "so lovely" towards you is that although he doesnt want committment he still wants you. So he ke... (read in full...)
Should I wait to see if he'll leave his girlfriend
Q. I know this 30 year old guy for a few years he used to come in my shop. Had not seen him for a few months when he started coming in my shop again. after a few times coming in my shop, I told him I had divorced from my husband. The next thing he did ...
A. 27 October 2010: okayyyy
so his current girl is lazy and immature
what of the other two, the mothers of his other two children, lazy and immature as well I assume, or maybe they both had two heads or something.
Why are you are making excuses for this excuse of a... (read in full...)
His family is keeping me from my love!
Q. i am incredibly in love with my boyfriend, no matter how young i am, i still love him, he's asian, so his parents are a little stricter when it comes to his education. They have recently been making sure we dont see eachother as much, taking away ...
A. 26 October 2010: His parent's house, thier rules. If they, like I would, find the image of a young girl on or in his bed with him freaked a little, I can totally understand and their being Asian has nothing to do with it!
As for telling people if they are not ... (read in full...)
I upset him now he wont talk to me
Q. My bf is currently not talking to me, I upset him last week and since then hes not been talking to me. I have tried to get a face to face meeting to apologise but he wont hear of it, so as a last attempt to save our relationship im going to write ...
A. 26 October 2010: Its a bit hard because we dont know what you did to 'upset' him. It might have been something illegal or really devastating for him, like sleeping with all his male relatives and friends the same night, including his decrepid old grandpa, or ... (read in full...)
I know he's a cheater but I'm always going to love him
Q. ok so i've been sleeping with the father of my child on and off after knowing that he has been sleeping with someone else. Sometimes i have to drag the truth out of him because i feel as if i need to know if he's sleeping with someone else. So ...
A. 26 October 2010: You need to change the message you are sending yourself, instead of saying Im gona always love em! Say, he is the father of my child and I will respect him for that but I do not have to accept his lieing or his cheating.
... (read in full...)
Should I wait to see if he'll leave his girlfriend
Q. I know this 30 year old guy for a few years he used to come in my shop. Had not seen him for a few months when he started coming in my shop again. after a few times coming in my shop, I told him I had divorced from my husband. The next thing he did ...
A. 25 October 2010: wooooo, what a plum to fall in his lap, a single woman not coping newly divorced
His story about if he leaves his g/f he wont see his baby is just him paving the way to an affair with you with no expectation of him leaving her .... you are a mo... (read in full...)
Should I tell my girlfriend that I was attacked? I don't want to upset her while she is away, so can it wait until she returns?
Q. My girlfriend is away on a business trip and i recently got attacked when i was in the city and sustained 27 stiches on my head, she will be back in a weeks time, i am feeling much better, should i keep this incident unknown to her until she ...
A. 25 October 2010: Yes, she should be told, and yes, she will be concerned, but imagine her feelings if you dont tell her and she finds out from somebody else ...... (read in full...)
I have been called a "wasp" - what does that mean?
Q. if someones calls you a wasp what does that mean?...
A. 25 October 2010: I understood WASP to mean the same as Tisha, but thought it was more a US term than UK ...
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