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writes:Please be as brutally honest as your thoughts might be. If you saw an 18yr old girl walking down the street holding hands with a grey haired 49yr old man what would you think?Thank you for your time xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (18 April 2011):
Speaking as a 55 yesr old with for six years and legally married for four to a professional ballet dancer (female!)who is now 28, I'd say he should shave his head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the response everyone. I guess it's because it will clearly evoke some response as it's unusual to see.
Thankyou:)
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 After responding to your post yesterday, I remembered that a long time ago, a friend said she knew an older man who wanted to meet me - or maybe I said I wanted to meet him, I don't recall. I was 21 or 22 at the time, he was a divorced 50 year old. I think what we had in common was that we both liked books.
Anyway, I did meet him for lunch and we had a very interesting conversation. However, it was his idea not to meet again as the age difference was too great. I was a bit disappointed, but later realized he was right. I lived at home with my parents at the time and didn't want to say what his age was (I thought they'd probably raise a stink) so said he was 40.........oh well, I guess we live and learn! : - )
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 April 2011):
 I'd probably elbow my husband and say "You wish!" and then we'd both have a good laugh and giggle about it off and on the rest of the day.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (18 April 2011):
 What a daddy's girl!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 I'd think - poor kid. Missing out so much. Maybe she feels she is not good enough for someone in her age range.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (18 April 2011):
 I would think - "Lucky old bastard!" Then I might wonder if it's a money thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): I would think it was a very affectionate father and daughter. Or even grandfather and grandaughter if the age gap looked huge. Then if i saw they were too close for that, i might wonder if he was having a fling with a friends daughter. Id probably wonder why he wasnt with someone his own age. At which point something shiny in a shop window would catch my eye and i would forget about them. If the grey haired man is your partner and his hair bothers you. Take him to a good hairdressing salon and have it cut and coloured. It will make a huge difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): If I was walking down the street and saw an 18 yr old with an 49 yr old, the first thing came to my mind is WOW!She's getting all of his money but that's all good because he's getting younger stuff but what about your future? Me myself I would never date someone that much older that me.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): I really don,t think it matters who your with as long as your happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): I'd probably assume it was a father and daughter. If I intuited otherwise, I wouldn't be scandalized, but I'd wonder more about the guy rather than the woman. I've seen these couples with huge age gaps before and I always wonder what the man gets out of it besides the sex and perhaps the ego stroke of being with a much younger woman. I wonder if he ever gets tired of it or evenly lonely since there's such a huge experience gap.
I tried the same sort of relationship in my early 20s and I felt paranoid about being more visible. It also failed in part because of my naivete and the fact that we had such different perspectives on life. I was trying to start mine and he was essentially looking to close shop on his.
If you're concerned about how you appear in public with the person you're seeing, it's not a good sign....in any relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): I would think "father with close relationship to his daughter". THen I might stare, and if it persisted, might think..."nope./..wonder how much he's paying her".Sorry, but that's the truth.I believe in love at any age. Do what's legal, but 18's a bit young, mate.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (18 April 2011):
Hmmm......well, except for the holding hands bit, I would be inclined to think she might be his daughter.
That is a large age difference. However, I think that when both people are a little more mature - say if the woman was 25 (or better still, 30) and the man 50, is not so bad - so long as both are happy together and cognizant of the differences in outlook, lifestyle, experience, etc. Keep in mind that if you are together long-term the differences would become more pronounced. I mean, if you're 35, he'd be 70.......now, I'm not saying that some men in their 70's aren't still in good health, physically and mentally, energetic with numerous interests and activities........but then, I guess we've also seen men (and women!) who in their forties, say, appear much older - has a lot to do with lifestyle, whether one smokes/drinks, is sedentary, in good health, etc.
Hope this answers your question!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 well you know, my first thoughts would be OMG he looks old enough to be her father, and then my brain would kick in, maybe he is her father, maybe he is a really good friend, he could even be her older brother.
And then my thoughts woulg take in what else I was seeing, body language etc, and if it looked like they were romantically inclined I would think about how if they end up together and have children she is going to have her work cut out for her, caring for kids and possible having to wipe the old man's bum for him at the same time.
Thank heavens for disposable nappies!
I hope that was brutal enough.
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reader, Inbetweener +, writes (18 April 2011):
I'd think you're hardcore for following your heart and not caving in to society's expectations of a relationship :)
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