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writes: Hai. My name is Theona, i'm a 16years old. I like very hot, charming and a bit silly guys. My problem with this guys is that my relationships with them it always end up as a big mistake! That scares me alot, im afraid i will never have a good guy in the future. As it has always been my dream to get married to a handsome yet good guy. But now i doubt. Im i ever going to find the right guy for me? HELP Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): Dont go looking for mr. Right. When the time is right he will come to u. Good luck
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 It does not have to be either-or.
Sure, " good " is more important than " handsome " so that should be the first box you tick.
Then again, who decided that all the plain guys must have a heart of gold, and all the good looking ones must be jerks ?? I've met quite a lot of people who are not that attractive, and also not that nice !
The idea would be to find a good person who also fits reasonably your aesthetic criteria. You'll have less choices, a smaller selection range - so ? It's quality that counts, not quantity. If you are patient and discriminating, and you don't get panicky in times when " OmyGod all my friends have got someone and I don't ", you can get someone who has a good personality and is physically attractive to you.
Let's not forget that no relationship lasts if it's only based on physical attraction- and that it lasts even less if there is NO physical attraction .
Maybe that's why Oscar Wilde wrote " Only superficial people DON'T judge from appearance "....
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reader, stashrocks  +, writes (3 April 2011):
well i can honestly say that i had the exact same problem as you. i always wanted the hot charming kind of guy, but every single boy i dated turned out to be a huge mistake. so my advise to you is to stop looking so hard for the hot, charming and a bit silly guys and start concentrating on yourself. your so young hun and you dont need boys in life bringing you down. trust me darling if you stop looking so hard the right guy will come to you. i know that for a fact because i once was like you a thought that i would never find the right guy for me. when i stopped looking he found me and i am know 20 years old and engaged to the most amazing guy and have a baby on the way. so hunny you dont have to worry about finding him cause he will find you. your young. stop worrying about boys and just have fun with your life cause your only young once and u have your whole life to think about boys, hope that helps take care Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): You might not really be looking for Mr. Right. If I looked through your exes, would they give the impression of being anything like him?
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (3 April 2011):
 Maybe you are trying too hard to find the guy who will fit your list. Why not forget about Mr Right for a few years, and just date and have some fun, enjoy these years before you think about settling down and families and the like. By going out with lots of different guys you will be able to determine what you DONT want in a guy which will make it a lot easier to decide what you really DO WANT. Its too soon to be worrying about it now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): You're young. Stop worrying about getting married and have fun.
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reader, honestman  +, writes (3 April 2011):
Theona,I think you should not look for neither Mr. Right nor Prince Charming. Every single human being on this planet has deep flaws, and most of them can't get fixed.Mr. Right is an invention from Disney to fool little girls into thinking they can grow up to become princesses and marry Prince Charming and live happy forever after.You should seek in other person compatibility. Can you imagine yourself getting old with that person? Do you think you can build a good future with that guy?Getting a partner is like gambling. Sometimes you get really got catches, and some other one you just get bad cards. You need sometimes to realize that it is very unlikely to find a better person than the partner you currently have. What I try to say is, TAKE RISKS [but also, use protection from STDs]. I'm very sure you are going to find something NEAR what you want. If you have high expectations, you'll probably get disappointed. If you set your expectations too low, you'll get a jerk. You CAN get a handsome and good guy. My girlfriend has one in her life. They are out there, you just need to find them!
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