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writes:Okay, so im 17, and im not sure if im gay or straight.I think i am still curious about my sexuality, and i think im just experimenting.Anyway, i dont want to be gay, id rather be asexual than be gay.I know i cant choose what sexuality i am, but im not really interested in either sex, okay, i find males attractive, but i wouldnt want a relationship with one, i dont find girls attractive, but id want a relationship with one.How can i tell this guy who i met on the internet that i am no longer interested in him, i dont want to break his heart, but i dont want to know him anymore, we have been talking for a few months, and i havent really enjoyed talking with him, and i dont want a male relationship.How can i tell him this without breaking his heart, and i dont want him to get nasty with me and start ruining my reputation ... ?Please reply, i need to tell him asap.
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reader, ShoulderToLeanOn +, writes (3 April 2011):
 Hi Firstly i think if you don't want to have a relationship with the person you have been chatting with then i think you should just say that you are not looking for a relationship, he may understand if you explain how you are feeling, and if he doesn't even partial understand then it seems like he would be a problem if you did want to have a relationship. If it only been chat then there shouldn't be any problem with him know you don't want it to go any further. Secondly i think you need to spend some time away from relationships with either sex just to think about things and get everything at least a little better sorted in your own mind first because being attracted to guys could just be that you can see that they are good looking not necessarily that you like them and alternatively wanting a relationship with a girl may just be that you want others to see you as straight and that you are hiding so i think finding out what you really feel and think is the best way to go in both cases. Take it from someone with experience in the area of "am i Gay,Bi,Straight" and "were will i turn if i am either of those three" hope this long answer was even a little helpful even if it was unwanted hope you sort out what you want and hope however you deal with the guy goes well
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): You don't sound ready for any relationship, and that is what you should tell the guy you met online.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 If he is online, and you have never met face to face you just need to be really firm and strong. Something along the lines of "I have really enjoyed talking with you over the past few months, but I am not sure a relationship is what I need right now.
IF he starts asking for explainations just say you have changed your mind. If he gets nasty for heaven's sake tell an adult you trust. If you dont have an adult you trust, go for the one who loves you regardless, yes, your mum, her toes might curl but she will go in to bat for you.
Good luck.
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