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writes:I had the most caring man ever. He lived and breathed me and always put me before himself. He always tried to give me the universe but I messed him over and now that he's gone I realize he was the best man that ever happened to me. He asked me to marry him but I shuned him. I want him back but this time for keeps? I'm ready to marry him. Where do I start? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 March 2011):
From a male point of view, I think you're too late. To shun a man and mess him around when he puts his heart on the line that much is too far for nearly all men. I wouldn't take someone who did that to me back, and I don't think someone as kind as your ex will either.
I'm also not sure why you really want him back. I'm not sure whether it's a love thing, or whether in fact you want him back because you're alone and feeling a little desperate.
I think you'd do better for yourself to move on from him. I don't see him coming back, and even if he did I think it would fail because it's not really built upon love at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): What's up? You all alone now? Is that what's causing you to whine?? You meet what sounds like the perfect man and you ditched him because you thought you could do better. Now you've failed you're looking back. The best thing you can do for him is leave him alone and let him find a real woman who will appreciate and love him as he deserves. He doesn't need a selfish woman like you in his life.
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reader, Luv_doc +, writes (20 March 2011):
Let me guess... You thought you could do better and rejected him? Only to find out that the grass wasn't greener? What has changed since you messed him over to make you change your mind? Don't mess with his head. He deserves someone who loves him enough to not mess him around. And I'm sure deep down you realise that he isn't the one for you or you wouldn't have rejected him. LD xxx
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (20 March 2011):
 It very depends how long ago this was, and what you mean by "messing him over" It also depends on what he has done since. If he has moved on and found somebody else it would be best if you left it alone.If it was fairly recently then you are going to have to eat some humble pie and show him that you are sorry, and prepared for the long haul.However, you do say you want him back, that would indicate he didnt stick around. He might not be prepared to give you a second chance, and if that is the case you just have to accept you made a big blunder.
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