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Archived questions from: October, 2013 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

Could it be smegma or semen? Or is it evidence of cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4071 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - this is a serious question if a man has a white powdery ring around his foreskin head does that mean he cheated and had sex? is that smegma? He is uncircumsized ....when he pulled back the skin I saw white clumpy stuff under the skin looks like ...

He needs time to think about it? What can I do? I am left wondering and waiting if he's planning to break up with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4074 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I am hoping that my boyfriend and i eventually make-up. At the moment he is really angry with me because of something i should have not said to him in the heat of an argument. I have sent him 3 apologies, via texting. After i asked him if he wante...

An Angry Boyfriend? What to do with him when he is like this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4074 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I feel like lately things have escalated way out of control. So the other day he and I decided to see each other for a couple of hours before he starts work. While I was waiting for him to arrive, we spoke on the phone and got into a small disagr...

I called my girlfriend fat. I was joking but she's upset. How do I make it up to her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4075 days ago

31 October 2013 (M) - I have got a problem which needs your help. I met my girlfriend in Singapore two years ago and living with her in her small apartment there provided to her by school where she teaches. I do odd job there and grateful to her for that. She is an ...

No experience with players. How do you know if a guy is one?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4075 days ago

31 October 2013 (F) - I need advice on dating. So, I haven't gone on dates for over 12 years. My ex-fiance and I were together 11 years and we did not even dated we were collage buddies. We have been separated for over a year now. I recently signed up for online ...

My boyfriend said "I love you" so quickly! How long does it take for them to know they're in love?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4075 days ago

30 October 2013 (F) - I'm 18 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. He told me he loved me for the first time very early in our relationship (2 weeks) and it kinda freaked me out how early he said that. For a while I just wouldn't say it back ...

Is this marriage bad enough to justify my leaving?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4071 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - Long story, but here goes. I am a 21 year old Indian woman who had an arranged marriage to the (34-y/o)man of my dreams. Or so I thought. To give some background,I am an attractive woman who was very used to getting lots of male attention. Some...

Are we headed for a future break-up? I don't want to lose him

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

29 October 2013 (F) - I'm needing some serious advice/help with my boyfriend of 3 years. We're the same age, don't live together, and spend weekends/any times we can find in our work schedules together. Over the last few months things have gotten really rocky. We've ...

Should I visit my old workplace again and try again? Or should I forget her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4077 days ago

29 October 2013 (M) - I was working at a company for about 8 months. There was a girl there who came from where I am originally from. When I started working there we had a long chat and she said she would love to talk more and really enjoyed it, but needed to get back...

Does being cheated on make you more likely to cheat?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

28 October 2013 (M) - What do you think? My girlfriend's last boyfriend cheated on her. Would that make her more likely? Since her experience with her ex, she is very jealous with me. That is understandable. I wonder if that makes it more likely for her to cheat. ...

Am I worrying too much about my boyfriend's ex and their continued contact?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4078 days ago

26 October 2013 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend about 4 months now. I knew before we starting dating that he was still friends with his ex and they talked often. She cheated on him and hurt him a lot, and I guess left him for another guy eventually becau...

Broke up... feeling sad. Thoughts? Advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4081 days ago

25 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend, of 3 years, and I broke up Sunday night. We're both the same age and don't live together, but spent weekends together and any days during the week if we found time. We were a serious couple and had talked about children and settling ...

Help dealing with paranoia... its hurting my relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4082 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - Hi Everyone, I'm a very paranoid person and I've started to recognise that it's now getting to a point where it's out of control. I can be fine one minute and the next be flipping out with my fiancé talking to some girl at work. I think because th...

Messages on his phone were at a minimum disrespectful, possibly much worse

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4081 days ago

24 October 2013 (F) - I noticed my boyfriend of over 3 years was really touchy about me using his phone yesterday. He didn't seem to want me around it. I decided to take a look at his messages while he gave me the phone to use to look up something. I discovered text ...

It's like he's stringing the baby-momma along

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4082 days ago

23 October 2013 (F) - hey I am 21 years old who is dating a 40 years old man we been together for over 2years when we really got serious I found out he got a girl pregnant who is pretty young also I asked him about it and he lied, saying he didn't get anyone pregnant...

Is there anything I can do to show my b/f that I'm sorry for my past behavior?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4084 days ago

23 October 2013 (F) - Hello all. I am a first time poster here. I need some general advice about what to do! I love my boyfriend very much. We have been together just shy of a year and he treats me wonderfully. He is a true gentleman and always treats me like a queen....

When a guy says he wont get married as it's just a piece of paper and ring, then says maybe in 5 years, will he ever get married to me or am I fighting a losing battle?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4082 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - This is for the guys on here if you don't mind helping. When a guy says he wont get married as its just a piece of paper and ring, then says maybe in 5 years, will he ever get married to me or am I fighting a loosing battle? I love him so m...

Red flag or not? He has an inordinate number of 20-30 yo beautiful girls as friends on FB

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4074 days ago

22 October 2013 (F) - Is this a red flag or nothing at all? I found a college friend on Facebook. He's 57 and I'm 52. Looks as if by his profile he's a nice normal guy. Loves animals. Not a million pictures of himself. Nor a million 'friends'. Posts insight...

It's a terrible mess, can't stay, can't leave my husband

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4084 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - Please help. I'm a 39 year old woman, been with my husband for 11 years, one of them married. We have two beautiful children. My relationship with my husband began breaking down about three years ago. Too many details as always but essentally...

He has lost all faith in me after I snooped, how can I put things right?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4084 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I have been in a lovely relationship with a guy in his 40s. His wife left 3 years ago after they mutually separated after 20 years due to growing apart. She came home pregnant and moved out shortly after with her new partner. My boyfriend has a ...

Is this something that can be salvaged or should I throw in the towel now and save myself time and heartache?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4083 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I'm really unsure if me and my boyfriend have a future together. After nearly a year together I discovered texts on my boyfriends phone begging his ex to get back with him from around the time we got together. I snooped on his phone, don't ask...

I love men, but don't at the same time. Can anyone help with these feelings I feel?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4085 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I dont know if im a lesbian or not. Or bisexual. I'm totally lost. I like a man right now, but he treats me so crappy. I have been with women before as a teenager, and dated them, even cried over one. But I thought it was for sure a phase and...

Do you think he's found out about my hook-up? I don't want to text him because I don't want to annoy him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4082 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I went on a date with this guy and It went well, his definitely my type. We've texted each other and are always flirty and he said we definitely have to hangout again. However there was a party I went to and one thing lead to another I hooked u...

What kind of costumes or looks would you recommend? Because the manager's demands seem unreasonable.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4084 days ago

21 October 2013 (F) - I'm a restaurant server and our manager just sent out a ridiculous memo. We have to wear costumes for the week of Halloween or we do not get our tips. I feel this is unethical and illegal. I also learned that if we order through the catalog ...

I think my boyfriend is going mad because he's convinced I'm cheating on him!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4077 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - Hi my boyfriends thinks im cheating on him i would never do that ! he keeps on recording me and then he says he can hear me with men, i think he is going mad because i no i have never done anythink and he is sure i am i dont no how to make him ...

He said the message on his phone was a trap to see if I was snooping

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4085 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - Hi im in a relationship with an aries, I saw on his phone msgs to another woman saying he had feelings for her apparently she was in spain, I asked him about this as I was packing to leave, things got heated n he said he didnt want me to leave, we ...

Why would he have a condom?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4085 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - So my boyfriend of 11 months and I live together friday he had to go a thing for work for health insurance or something him and his cobworker car pooled together she's a girl but she's from Africa . Any way he had to go to another city which is ...

Why did he meet me then if he was going to break up by text?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4086 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - I met a guy three weeks ago. he came to my table and asked for my number. he decided to give me his number and after that I texted him and started talking. after that we liked echother verymuch and started talking as much as we can. he was leaving ...

Then I met this guy.. He is a friend. But am I being led up the garden path here?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4086 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - I'm hoping some lovely aunts/uncles can advise me / voice your opinions and tell me if I'm being an idiot. I came out of an emotionally and slightly physical relationship at the start of the year, it was pretty horrendous and took me a while to...

She was once his Gf and he's in contact with her. Will I ruin my relationship if I don't stop acting this way?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4086 days ago

20 October 2013 (F) - Hi I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now. My boyfriend is friends with most of his ex girlfriends, I am actually okay with this except for just one of the ex girlfriends...his serious relationship that lasted like over 2 years...

Was the feeling I was being disrespected real or imagined? Was backing out of the arrangements the right action?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4085 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - Thanks in advance to the great people who offer help here.I had made a standing commitment to spend time with a friend this evening and called this morning to confirm.She said that was fine but she would also call another friend to join us. I was ...

She has recently broken up with her BF. She is a co-worker. Should I ask her out on a date?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4086 days ago

19 October 2013 (M) - Kind of a weird one here. I work with this girl who I have liked for a while, 5 months ago we got drunk and kissed at a party and it didn't go so well in terms of trying to develop a relationship. I came across too serious and dramatic. So we didn't...

He messaging a girl on Facebook, just like we did when we first got together! Do I have a right to be upset by this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4083 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in a relationship that is distance for about two thirds of the year. We've been together for about a year and a half and the distance is ending in a couple of weeks. We talk on the phone most nights and Skype each other once a ...

Got the MM and it hasn't exactly been "happily ever after"

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - this is very long winded so anybody who has the patience to read and answer...thankyou in advance! 5 years ago i started an affair with a married man. at first it was just fun then it got deeper and everybody started getting hurt. eventually...

Why does it have to be complicated when we had a great time on our date?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

19 October 2013 (?) - Okay so I went on a date with this guy I met him at a coffee shop and he looked really good. We had a nice time talking and laughing. Before we had met he came on really strong when we were texting each other. He would text me telling me how b...

The hair therapy girl is sexually provocative and hitting on my husband.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - I love my husband so much, today we for hair therapy this pretty provocative girl comes n hate that my hubby got amused by her beaty i felt bad insecure n ugly plus im over weight. The girl so tall slim n high heels pretty hair n body i was so dammm ...

I got out of an abusive relationship. But now with my new guy my mother and brother hate him. How do I handle this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - I got out of a toxic relationship not too long ago - we had been together for 5 years with two kids and he used to bash me up and threaten to kill me. Everyone knew the extent of how severe the abuse was. I have recently started seeing a guy who...

Keep getting hurt in relationships. Are relationships really worth all the hurt?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

19 October 2013 (F) - Do you think some people are better off not in relationships and instead dedicating their life to other things? The reason that I ask this question is because of men. I am beginning to think that my life may be better if I don't have relationshi...

Am I overreacting? My boyfriend wants to add his boss' girlfriend on facebook.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - I need some advice so I don't turn this into an argument between my bf and I. We've been together for 3 years. We're both in our early 30's. We don't live together but do spend weekends together and any days during the week if we can find time ...

My son is asking questions about his absent father, what should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4086 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - My son, who is 5 years old, has started asking about his dad, and wants to see him. Thing is when the relationship ended, it ended really really badly. He hasn't seen his son for a long time, when he left he made the decision to walk out on me A...

New girlfriend is friends with recent lovers. Feels bad to me.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4083 days ago

18 October 2013 (M) - New relationship-about 5 weeks. We are both in our 40s. Recently, she went out with an ex-BF who she briefly dated, but didn't work out, but continued sleeping with, most recently a few weeks before she and I met. She told me after the fact t...

He ended it, he text again.. Can anyone tell me what is happening here?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4088 days ago

18 October 2013 (F) - I met this guy 6 weeks ago while I was on a hen. Im from Ireland hes from London. We totally clicked!! Anyway, long story short we spoke everyday for 4 weeks and then he came to stay with me for a weekend. It was amazing, until the Saturday night I ...

Is this classed as cheating..has he learned his lesson?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4075 days ago

18 October 2013 (M) - Hi I need some peoples advice on a situation because I feel myself going crazy! I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years, all was going great up until summer of last year... I noticed he started acting really strange at the end of s...

He choses making music over making out with me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4089 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have had this talk previously; basically it comes down to his obsession with music. He has an obsessive hobby with making beats and music and it used to be much worse. He actually dropped out of school because he was so mentally ...

My mind is on overload and I am going crazy!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4089 days ago

17 October 2013 (F) - Hello aunts and uncle's I really need some advice here and fast before I go nuts. I have been with my BF for 7 months now and I am so in love with him, and he tells me he feels the same. we moved in together and everything is going great excep...

My Bf has not told his parents that we live together. His mother wants to visit him. How do I get through this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4090 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - Hi!! I'm kind of stuck at the moment. I'm chinese born and raised here. My boyfriend and I are the same religion Hindus. He's from the states as well but born in London. His parents are also in the USA. So my question is. My boyfriend and Iive ...

I feel like I'm afraid of love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4090 days ago

16 October 2013 (F) - i am 20 years old. A virgin, (no one knows,because i dont really tell anyone) to be honest i've had one boyfriend which lasted for about a month and i ended things through texts. I feel like i'm afraid of love? could that be possible? i met...

I'm devastated over this breakup and over being used!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4090 days ago

15 October 2013 (M) - I’m so heartbroken right now…I need advice on how to get over this woman. I wound up being in a love triangle which has driven me into therapy but I need some additional advice, criticism, feedback…whatever it is…I just need to hear it. I met this ...

Men, porn and lies… feeling let down right now!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4078 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - Recently I found out my boyfriend still had a collection of porn and naked celeb photos - he told me he had deleted any porn and only looked at my pics. He is a good guy so I feel so sad he has lied to me. Why would he do that? He said doesn't need ...

He says his sub character came out and started chatting to his son's girlfriend! Does he have mental issues?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4090 days ago

15 October 2013 (F) - ive come accross something that i dont understand, maybe someone who is good and understands phsycology might be able to put some undertsanding to this type of beahviour. Will try and be as brief as i can, im left completley confused so here it ...