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Archived questions from: November, 2019 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I sent an email to a whole group instead of just the teacher.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

30 November 2019 (F) - Hi Helping people. My issue is with school. A few weeks ago I asked to move a class a little earlier than usual as weren't going to have anything else on. I and some others wanted to finish early that day. 5 classmates thought we were going to...

I'm in a messy relationship with no romance.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

30 November 2019 (F) - I've been with my bf for 4 years. We have one child together and he is 5. Around the time I got pregnant, we were having issues and broke up. Shortly after, he got a new gf and they were together for about about a year and a half, all thru my pregn...

Married in haste, husband wont work or take care of family.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

30 November 2019 (F) - I have been married for a little over a year. I feel like my marriage was a mistake because I my husband and I dated for two months because we married. We now have a baby together and things have just gotten worse for me. I have children from a ...

I think this girl was just using me!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

29 November 2019 (M) - at work, a female joined and she seem quite friendly and we got to know each other. she wasn’t with the company for long as she was going back to college. when I messaged her to ask what course she was doing and if she might come back to work in the ...

I don't want my MIL in the delivery room!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

29 November 2019 (F) - I've been with my husband for over a decade, we've been married for 7 years and have one child so far and one on the way. Over the years, my mother in law has made several disrespectful comments about my mom and some of my other family members. She ...

I cant stand up to my wife when it comes to money.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

29 November 2019 (M) - I don't know how to stand up to my wife when it comes to money. She literally spends a fortune on things and activities we just don't need to do and no matter how much I try to put money away for a rainy day, we always end up with nothing at the end ...

What do I do to get people to stop trying to ruin the new life I'm trying to build?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

28 November 2019 (F) - I'm 40 years old and just got out of prison after 10 years almost two years ago. I went straight into a halfway house where I followed the rules, went to AA (my drug of choice is alcohol although I've done other things before prison), got a job a ...

Does anybody have any advice for handling negativity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

26 November 2019 (M) - Does anybody have any advice for handling negativity? I have lost a lot of achieved last few years which has led me to become a little quiet. I am trying to build myself up however I cannot accept negativity anymore. If anybody criticises me I can...

Does a woman just have to suck it up when their husbands refuse to grow?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1646 days ago

26 November 2019 (F) - I have been married for twenty years and at the time of marrying my husband he was never one to express his feelings much. At the time I had a couple of young children and we also went on to have more . Life was extremely busy and this met both our ...

My boyfriend seemed understanding that I developed two crushes, and that I want closure from one of them.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

26 November 2019 (F) - This summer I had a full-time internship that took up most of my time during the week and I had long, early hours. My boyfriend of 5 years and I couldn't see each other as often as we wanted since I lived at a dorm, he lived pretty far away, and I ...

My ex sent me a fb friend request, I do think about her a lot, and how I could have treated her better.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1825 days ago

25 November 2019 (M) - 1 year ago my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me 3 months after she moved far away for school. The main reasons she broke up with me, I think, were A) she decided she wanted to stay permanently and didn't want to take me away from my family, B) ...

My boyfriend keeps making comments that make me feel bad about myself.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1825 days ago

25 November 2019 (F) - I've been dating a man for the last 3 months that has never been in a relationship before. He's 27 and has dated but never committed. We met through mutual friends and had a bit of a rough start in some areas but he was always receptive to listening ...

Older guy us making a move on me but wants to keep it quiet.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

25 November 2019 (F) - I have a friend (he's 20 years older). A couple of years ago, we had a talk about our feelings. He told me that he was interested in me but couldn't be with me because he had a girlfriend. We stayed in touch (close friends but nothing more) until ...

My GF is not a virgin but want have sex with me until we marry.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

25 November 2019 (M) - I am dating a girl who is 40 years old , it’s almost two months . We have great chemistry but I have one issue. She don’t want to have sex until we marry. She is not virgin ( someone raped her ) I don’t think she has to refuse sex If she is not ...

My wife wont wear a bra when people are over.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1310 days ago

24 November 2019 (M) - Not sure how I should feel about my wife and her feeling nudity is only a problem if your looking at it sexually .. I find it disrespectful if someone is over and she doesn’t have a bra on or is t fully clothed .. am I over reacting?...

I can't tell if its love or lust.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1828 days ago

24 November 2019 (F) - I am a 25-year-old young pretty and successful female, for the last five years I can wholeheartedly say I think I’m in love with one of my friends. It all started one night at a mutual friends birthday party we got really drunk and made out. Ever ...

Our friendship has got to the point I don't want to be her Maid of Honour.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1830 days ago

23 November 2019 (F) - So I’ve been friends with this girl all my life. We lived quite close when we was younger so we spent all of our childhood together. We was inseparable best friends, however as time went on we drifted. We still spoke and still do now, just not as ...

I've left my dishonourable husband but my parents don't trust the new man

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

22 November 2019 (F) - Hello.. i have asked questions before this and this is my life update. Im currently still legally married with my husband but i went back to my parents home last month. I keep ranting about my husband before and everybody here told me just divorc...

My wife doesn't want to reconcile so why does she care if I'm drinking or not?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

22 November 2019 (M) - My wife has moved out of our home because I drink alcohol. Since she moved, she had several times if I am drinking. She, does not want to reconcile. So, why does she keep asking if I am drinking when we talk by phone? Thank you for your answers....

I'm in shock my boyfriend lied about sending private messages to my friend.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

21 November 2019 (F) - My bf basically sent a message to someone he didn’t know was my friend saying “I think you’re beautiful and I think you should know lol” She sent me the screenshot. I called him very calm and said Hey, do you message girls on insta? He said no, ...

I want to take things slow but he thinks I am just stringing him along.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

21 November 2019 (F) - I've been dating this guy for 6 months, at first everything seemed great and he seemed like a gentleman, now I'm just having a hard time understanding his intentions. I'm not the type of girl who goes and sleeps around with any guy I date. I like t...

I'm having weird sexual dreams about my inlaws.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

21 November 2019 (F) - I’m 30 married for 9 years to a great husband with a good family. My father died when I was 2 and went thru an extremely traumatizing, sexually and physically abusive child hood. Now that I really trust my in laws and am pretty happy, I find ...

The guy I am interested in lives with a homeless woman who does drugs and they used to have sex.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

20 November 2019 (F) - I recently made contact with a guy from my high school from years ago. We talked for about a week, mostly through text, and made plans to meet up over the holidays, when he dropped a bombshell, and I need help sorting through it. Basically, he told ...

I've been married three months and I am totally miserable!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

20 November 2019 (F) - Firstly, thanks for taking the time to read and respond.. I’m miserable, totally. Been married 3 months although we dated for 8 years. My husband sleeps on the floor when we fight. At first he claimed to have a bad back and generally prefer...

We have such an attraction to each other but things don't seem to go anywhere

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1834 days ago

20 November 2019 (F) - It's not actually a problem, so much as it is a little confusion. I have a guy that I've known for years. We dated for a while but it never really went anywhere since we were young and I was in school. However, we've always had a strong attracti...

Can please someone tell me if I'm being manipulated or am I just controlling and delusional.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

19 November 2019 (F) - (Please read my previous post) So I wrote this post a little while ago: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-trust-my-boyfriend-around-his-female.html After blocking that girl, he promised me that he wouldn't talk to her again, and that he w...

Why does my boyfriend seem obsessed with a woman he hasn't seen for a few years?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 1673 days ago

18 November 2019 (F) - Hello, so I have been working with my boyfriend on and off helping him out in some of his work projects and he pays me, so he gave me his work laptop, not personal and I was working from there, so I remember I needed to search for a word meaning on ...

My teenage son is hitting on my wife.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1830 days ago

17 November 2019 (M) - Afternoon all.. so I remarried 15 years ago and my older son is now 19 and I think he’s been hitting on my wife and I’m not sure what to say ...

Roommate took in a person who is way overstaying her welcome

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1836 days ago

17 November 2019 (F) - I moved out of the dorms last year because of shitty roommates and in with a gay guy I thought was a friend. E and I work full-time and attend school part-time. Other than him quitting jobs suddenly (he at least gets another one) and refusing to do ...

I've realised my partner is a lazy lowlife scrounger who doesn't bath frequently enough.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1837 days ago

16 November 2019 (F) - Hey everyone what do you when you realise your partner is a lazy lowlife scrounger when I first met my partner he had a job his own flat and looked after himself that was 6 years ago fast forward to now he is a selfish scruffy low life who thinks of ...

I think my partner has lost interest in me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1838 days ago

15 November 2019 (F) - Myself and my partner have been together for 6 years and had our first child 5 months ago. It’s definitely the hardest thing we’ve ever done, but also the most amazing thing. However, I’m starting to feel really alone and fed up as he is working 12 ...

Does my boss fancy me or is she now being nice before she fires me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1838 days ago

15 November 2019 (M) - I recently started working for an insurance company and at first my boss was a complete arsehole to me, but now three months later she’s being nice as pie and even flirty with me. I’ve even got the distinct feeling she fancies me. I’m so ...

I don't know how to let my co-workers know that I appreciate their kindness

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1838 days ago

15 November 2019 (M) - Dear Cupid, I have trouble socialising with others.I recently joined a new company and everyone there has been very welcoming to me. I am not able to reciprocate as I am really awkward around others. I tend to mind my own business and not disturb ...

I feel like my friend is doing everything he can to hurt me and I don't know why

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1838 days ago

14 November 2019 (M) - Has anybody ever had a lifelong friend who just refuses to be normal. I used to think this friend is going through a bad time in life so I tried to support and accept a careless friendship. However now it’s been some time and I feel like this friend ...

Should I send a text for closure, should I feel jealous my friend works with my crush?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1840 days ago

13 November 2019 (F) - ive liked the same person for quite a while now and sometimes my feelings towards him go away then they come back again , I wish I didn't have feelings for him but you cant help it , we got along really well at first then due to the way I acted it ...

How soon is too soon to call?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1840 days ago

12 November 2019 (M) - This question is more for the female Aunts but i am always open to hear from the men as well. Ladies (and guys) do you still believe in the 3 day rule? I met a real pretty lady last night and she texted me her number before having to go home. I d...

Should I give up on my alcoholic boyfriend?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1841 days ago

12 November 2019 (F) - Hi. Iv been living with my boyfriend for 2 years.he is an alcoholic.he said he will never give uo drinking. Drinking is more important than me. He has met my family but doesnt want anything to actually do with them. saying they are lovely etc but ...

Should I fade my manipulative friend out?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1841 days ago

12 November 2019 (F) - I have been "best friends" with a woman for over 25 years. I started to notice when the bill came at dinner, or anywhere we were, she'll begin to complain about how broke she is and I'd end up either paying the entire bill or some of her ...

If I decide to quit a church associated group, how do I do that?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1843 days ago

10 November 2019 (M) - I joined the Knights of Columbus a few years ago, and I regret it. I still believe in my Catholic Faith and I still want to attend the Catholic mass every Sunday. I just no longer wish to belong to the Knights of Columbus. When I joined,...

My ex is a jealous, negative-minded selfish idiot in the relationship area, should I take him back?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1843 days ago

9 November 2019 (F) - I have a tricky situation that will probably receive mixed reactions based on whether you're a dog-lover or not. Basically - I broke up with my partner a few months back. We fought at first but eventually learnt to be civil. We don't have any k...

My husband's use of porn has really hurt me

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1841 days ago

9 November 2019 (F) - I am 49 year old woman, my husband is 53. He had his prostrate removed 3 years ago and we have still manage to have sex with the aid of a pump. he as looked at porn for years and I told him I think he wants the women on the screen he said he does ...

Will I be able to stay away from my abusive ex when he turns on the charm?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1843 days ago

7 November 2019 (F) - I am gutted that my relationship that I clung onto has turned out to be nothing more than an abusive relationship. Someone warned me at the beginning but I couldn't take it in. It's taken an episode of near strangling for me to face facts. All...

My partner gave me the silent treatment even though he knows I have anxiety. How can I stop feeling hurt and move forward?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1844 days ago

6 November 2019 (F) - My partner and I had an argument yesterday morning and the rest of the day he gave me the silent treatment. I figured after a cooling off period of several hours he might be ready to talk. I sent him one text, then another, and another. Each one ...

My partner has slept in the spare room for the past 2 years but always wants sex. What gives?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1848 days ago

4 November 2019 (F) - Hi I’ve been in my current relationship for nearly 8 years now the last 2 years he has slept in the spare room with no explanation as to why I went away for the weekend with some friends from work and he slept in our bed which I found quite strange ...

I feel isolated and am having trouble making friends. Is it a cultural thing?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1847 days ago

4 November 2019 (F) - Hi I am living in the USA for some years now. I am a student and my family lives overseas. I am feeling very awkward socializing here. I like to talk with my classmates and share school relate experiences and just make friendly talks.. but it seems...

Should I return the call of my estranged aunt?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1850 days ago

3 November 2019 (F) - Hi All, I've been estranged from my father's family for over twelve years. It's a very long story but in short, after he and my grandmother died, there was a lot of anger, resentment and accusations. Because he and my mom were separated at the...

My husband is extremely self focused and highly sensitive

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1851 days ago

3 November 2019 (F) - How do I help my husband whose overly sensitive (and this is an understatement!) when he gets stressed communicating with people? When he thinks that others do not react to his jokes or look away when he’s answering the question THEY asked or pr...

How can we keep living like this? We're broken up but still living together

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1852 days ago

1 November 2019 (F) - For the past 8years I've lived with my then boyfirend away from home however we split up 3months ago but neither of us can afford to move out. I'm tied into a job contract and ha to work 3months notice and my family live a 4hour drive away so for me ...