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writes:This question is more for the female Aunts but i am always open to hear from the men as well.Ladies (and guys) do you still believe in the 3 day rule?I met a real pretty lady last night and she texted me her number before having to go home.I dont wanna seem clingy and contact her so fast...but i really liked her company.Would you think a guy is clingy if he contacted you in less than 24 hrs? Guys, if it was you, how long before you contact her.Its been a while that i meet someone i like so bare with me.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 November 2019):
 The 3 days rule is not valid anymore in our times of texting, apps and social media.
If you wait 3 days before contacting her , she will think your interest is lukewarm and you are probably just wasting her time.
Contact her at once, - but don't be clingy THEN. Leave the ball in her court, if she is interested she'll let you know- if she isn't- oh well. That's life. Next !
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2019): Three days after she gave you her number? That's enough time to forget you! Anytime before bedtime or after work hours! I would base it on the initial-chemistry at the time we met to the time we parted. Next day!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (14 November 2019):
 Hopefully you will have contacted the lady by now and my response will be superfluous. However, I will just say, if I had given my number to a guy and he didn't contact me for 3 days, I would suspect he wasn't that keen.
You snooze, you lose. Be polite, be lighthearted, don't bombard her with messages but do SOMETHING. I would go along the lines of something like "Heh, it was lovely to meet you. Are you free over the week-end for a coffee?"
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2019): I'm 30F. Oh my goodness, contact her as soon as possible! Like that evening or the very next morning. If I'm interested in a man, I would hope that he sets up the next date as soon as possible. The 3 day rule is dumb. After 3 days, I would assume that I'm just a backup plan.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 November 2019):
 The 3 day rule is stupid. And here is why. In this day and age EVERYONE has a cellphone and can send and receive messages and calls 24/7 (more or less). "Ignoring" someone for 3 days only shows that you are not that interested. Even if you are.
So no, contact her ASAP and tell her you enjoyed her company and ask if she is interested in a date.
That way you will know IF she is also interested (or not) and you can go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2019): I'm a guy in my late 30s, and I'll say that you should just text her, something light, think of something more fun than "hey how are you?", try to bring up a topic that you both may have shared.
There is no 3 day rule man, especially at our age; we're busy working and occupied with shit; you gotta just go with your heart, if you like her, then text her, the rest will unveil. Follow with whatever she responded.
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reader, roadman123 +, writes (14 November 2019):
roadman123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni love all your answers auntie's thanks much
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2019): I would just send her a text now. You will only seem clingy if you then start bombarding her with messages saying 'why haven't you replied' 'i love you' etc... A simple message saying 'hey I'd like to see you again' is fine.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (14 November 2019):
What would I do? I’d get on with it and contact her as soon as possible. Strike while the iron is still hot. Do you want to be some random guy she meets on a night out and then forgets all about because, as usual, nothing came of it? The 3-day rule is nonsense.
Simply sending a message is not clingy. It’s just a sensible way to explore the potential of moving things forward. It’s not clingy to say that you enjoyed her company. It’s not clingy to say that if she’d like to meet up again some time, you’d be keen to do that and that if she’d be up for sorting something to let you know. Then if you don’t want to be clingy, leave it be. If she replies, great. If she doesn’t, you’ve lost nothing for having tried.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2019): I don't know if people still observe "rules" like that but I would say that it's no way to start an adult relationship. If you like her, text her. Keep it simple and do what you want to do. If you waited three days to text me I'd assume you hadn't thought of me for three days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2019): Hi
If I had texted my number to a man and then didn't hear from him for three days, I would lose interest and respect for him, especially if I thought he was abiding to some stupid dating rule, which meant he didn't have the confidence to just get in touch when HE wanted to.
Get in touch now would be my advice. It's nice when you like someone and they show interest back. Ditch the 'rules'. Good luck.
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