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writes:Dear Cupid,I have trouble socialising with others.I recently joined a new company and everyone there has been very welcoming to me. I am not able to reciprocate as I am really awkward around others. I tend to mind my own business and not disturb others but now I feel like my inability and reluctance to engage with them is coming off in the wrong way. I feel bad about it because I really appreciate these people for doing whatever they can to make my comfortable but am unable to show that gratitude.what should I do about this?
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (17 November 2019):
 How about making a cake or some cookies taking them in for morning tea and simple say just a little something for making me feel so welcome
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2019): You seem to express yourself well in your post. My recommendation is that you read your post aloud to yourself for inspiration; and then prepare a short speech about the length of your post. I don't know about anybody else; but I see much gratitude packed into just those few kind words.
Ask your manager or supervisor if you may express your gratitude at the next staff meeting. You'd like to let everyone know how welcome you feel; and would like to share those feelings with the staff.
By doing so, you will also get some practice at speaking openly; and it will show sincerity and appreciation in spite of your difficulty in saying-so in a less formal way. It's truly the thought that counts.
On a daily-basis, show courtesy and kindness towards all your colleagues. Actions speak louder than words. You are capable of kind behavior, are you not?
Unless you are severely inept in your verbal-communication skills, you should be able to perform an action you will likely be required to do under your usual job-description. Most businesses I know require you to communicate and interact with your colleagues and/or clients. Somehow you got through an interview and landed the job.
In addition to this, you can also drop an individual "thank you" note on the desk of each of those people who have gone beyond the call. You can buy them at any retailer who sells greeting cards and stationary.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 November 2019):
 A thank you note is a great way to show your appreciation for all the good things your colleague has done to make the workplace a comfortable and fun place to work.
You can add something as simple as:
I just wanted to say thanks a lot for making the workplace a fun place to be.
To my dear colleagues: I count myself lucky to work in an office with such caring employees. Thanks for being some of the most interesting people I've ever worked with. You all are the best.
Of course you can word it however you feel comfortable with. These are just some examples.
Also if you start with ONE person at the time to socialize with, or smaller groups instead of them all at once it might make it easier for you.
And lastly, doing little kind things for them goes a long way. If one of them were home sick, or in the hospital, get them a little plant/card/cute mug or just leave a little post it note saying glad you feel better.
Sometimes it's just easier to WRITE things instead of saying them.
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