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Archived questions from: September, 2017 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I feel excluded by boyfriend's decision to visit alone...

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2561 days ago

30 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost six years--on and off--but consistently now for the past three years. I suspect that he’s a bit emotionally unavailable because of his compartmentalization tendencies and the fact that he’s told me he’s ...

After a week of dating he wants to have sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2598 days ago

30 September 2017 (F) - i met this guy a year ago and he wanted me to be his girlfriend but i refused ... we were not in a relationship then but now after that one year he came back and i again refused so after four months i started having feelings for him and i talked t...

I am tired of feeling unsatisfied and sexually frustrated!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2572 days ago

29 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend of over 1 year now will not satisfy me sexually. I feel like my needs do not matter to him! When I say I still haven't cum yet. Hes like "well what do you want me to do?" Then I tell him to finger me or something. He usually falls ...

Why am I the one suffering when all I tried to do was help my family?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2598 days ago

29 September 2017 (F) - I am in some real need of help here. Or maybe just a little support. Its a long story but here goes... ok so after 25 years my husband left me, my kids were 18 and 23. My daughter moved in with her then boyfriend. My son,who was my best friend i...

I deserve better than to be ghosted by someone that I thought cared about me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2597 days ago

29 September 2017 (F) - We were close friends (according to him) but our feelings for each other complicated things. He shied away from having a relationship. He told me he was scared to be a rebound, because his last relationship was a rebound and ended miserably. I was ...

Am I lacking backbone?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2594 days ago

29 September 2017 (M) - Hi there, I wonder if you can help me a little further. I am fundamentally unable to deal with mood swings from my wife. They are rare and for the majority of the time we’re absolutely fine. Then suddenly, out of the blue she will descend into wha...

We want different things in life ... should I just let it go?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2598 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. I’m 20 and he’s 22 so we’re still pretty young and we don’t plan on getting married or having kids any time soon. Especially since we’ve only been together for 2 years. But we have com...

I am exhausted and my boyfriend is no help.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2591 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - I know I'm right but someone please knock some sense into me. I'm in a relationship, we don't live together but I spend a lot of time at his house. Work everyday and come home to him sitting on the couch everyday watching tv and has done nothing ...

My boyfriend and I argue constantly but I love him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2600 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years. Things were great in the beginning but more recently we seem to argue about everything. Things are lovely when we're getting on but we seem to argue most days and he goes silent and will ...

What should I do as I see my husband is not using his own proportion in his family? Should I support him to keep independent and works extremely hard like this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2597 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - I need honest opinion. My husband is the youngest and only son in his family. Got 2 older sisters. We are asian. We just married for a couple months ago. I found out recently that his sister has a glamourous lifestyle eventhough she keep borrow ...

Should I stand firm or offer reconcilliation?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2599 days ago

28 September 2017 (M) - Hello aunts, My question here is simple. I fought with my wife last night. The reason was that she started complaining and saying she wishes she didn't have to pay rent (we pay half-and-half currently) so that then she could buy more things. ...

How else do I show my long distance cheating girlfriend that I love her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2597 days ago

28 September 2017 (F) - I am in a complicated relationship with my girlfriend. We both have a distance between us which has affected our relationship . I found out a few weeks ago that she had been sleeping with her ex gf which made me very upset. She opplpgised to me and ...

Fiances mother is refusing to come to our wedding unless we change our plans

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2601 days ago

27 September 2017 (F) - firstly, thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm having problems with my fiancées mother. Backstory: me and him met in school, at15, we've been together ever since. We got engaged may 2016 in Fiji we had originally planned a two wee...

Why am I stuck with the girl that doesn't want to give but wants me to do all the work?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2602 days ago

27 September 2017 (M) - I been in relationship for 4 years. She was virgin before we met. I have high sex drive , she doesn’t. I tried to accommodate this by doing stuff in shower and not bothering her. Sometimes I ask her to go down, and she won’t put in effort, when she...

My boyfriend's mother came over and rearranged our bedroom, I can't find anything!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2601 days ago

27 September 2017 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now and we live together. He is 22 and I’m 20. Let me start off by saying, I think family is super important and I would never want to come between my boyfriend and his family. But it bothers ...

He is married and will not stop contacting me for sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2601 days ago

26 September 2017 (F) - I dated this guy that stringed me along for 7 months - through therapy and maturity I realized it was my fault for "wanting to prove him wrong" when he said "I'm afraid of commitment" - I don't want anything serious- him being a ghost for a month ...

Tough love or does my dad mean it when he says it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2601 days ago

26 September 2017 (M) - I have a job which I'm not enjoying and parents who flip out at me, I suffer with depression and find that when I'm backed into a corner, I lose my anger and have to defend myself, ive been in trouble with the law, had partners who have cheated on ...

My partner never makes time for me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2604 days ago

26 September 2017 (F) - Hi just wondering if this is normal I've been with my partner now for 4 years we have 2 children aged 1 and 2 we live together but he never makes any effort to spend any time with us if he needs to go anywhere he asks his mate first rather than me ...

He says he loves me but I feel jealous of the way he treated another woman he liked

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2582 days ago

26 September 2017 (?) - My boyfriend lost his job last year and since I have been with him he has been trying to secure work. I'm not with him for money at all and love him for who he is. By his own admittance he had a good job and he liked a particular woman, she didn't ...

Can smells and tastes affect a perfect blissful courtship?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2601 days ago

25 September 2017 (M) - Im blessed with a beautiful and very loving, caring partner who im sure would do anything for me and I would for her as well. So when I have this seemingly silly problem, I do not know how to overcome. Her odors. She uses deo but it wears off either ...

I know I could have an amazing life with mistress but don't want to hurt my wife and children

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2583 days ago

25 September 2017 (M) - Hi. I am really confused and need advice. Here goes with a bit of background and my position. I am an almost 49 year old man and have been married for almost 25 years.we have 3 Kids.one of which has now left home. My wife gave up work 17 years ag...

My boyfriend has a new friend & he seems to care more about their relationship than ours.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2582 days ago

25 September 2017 (F) - I've been in a relationship for five years, and cheating has never been something I was concerned about. But about six months ago my boyfriend made a new friend through a club at colleg, and they became close friends real quickly. They talk all the ...

He says he will never marry me because of my past!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2604 days ago

24 September 2017 (F) - Hello, My question is...is there any hope for a future with my ex-boyfriend? We dated for six months and he always suffered from retrograde jealousy for me. During this time I foolishly, casually mentioned my exes, not fully grasping what to...

I found some unsettling texts between my boyfriend and our mutual friend. should I be worried?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2603 days ago

23 September 2017 (F) - We have been hanging round with another couple for about a year now. My boyfriend is a very outgoing, flirtatious person naturally but something has been bothering me. Our two friends, Michelle and Danny, well Danny does not have a mobile so ...

He was still receiving photos from his ex!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - So I found out that my boyfriend of 9 months still received pictures from his ex. He knew that it bothers me everytime she send texts, call or send selfie pictures. However, I do understand that my bf has no control of what his ex is sending him. ...

Can we get what we once had back, or are we destined to be 'just friends?'

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - Hi. I was in a short relationship with a guy for around eight months. During this time we developed very strong feelings and connection. Subsequently we split up around six months back, due to differences in the area of affection. His love language ...

My wife's sexual past has become a sticking point for me

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2606 days ago

22 September 2017 (M) - OK this might be a bit long winded but here we go. So I have been happilyish married for nearly ten years now. I met my wife in 2003 while on my OE in London and we got together and started dating and then eventually the "how many people have you ...

What is going on? Are these just excuses?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2605 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - After still feeling neglected, I told my bf exactly why I was feeling down. In the last couple of weeks I have noticed that I was initiating the messages, which is ok, but I feel like I'm pestering esp being the only one initiating Messaging was ...

I desperately want to reconcile with my ex husband. He had sex with me after he had broken up with his girlfriend but hasn't contacted me since

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2602 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - This is a long story and I apologize but I really need some advice from some neutral parties here. I am wanting to reconcile with my ex-husband. We were married for 4 years. He was and still is the love of my life but he left me for another ...

Need help/ideas/advice I have a controlling guy friend... He is a friend forreal.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

22 September 2017 (F) - I have a contolling guy friend...i mean controlling in ways that i dont believe are healthy at all... Prob the worst hardest controlling techniques ever... And yes to me very odd and differant because he is my friend... in that sense i feel its ...

I am unhappy at home, and flirting with my ex boyfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - I am married for nearly 4 years and lived together for 5 years . Since having my son last year , everything has changed . We both very good with looking after our son but My partner seems to be on the phone so much , which has been locked fo...

We were such good friends, now she wont even talk to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - Slightly off topic of love and relationships but wondering if someone can shine some light over a situation with a close friend. I'm broken, torn, lost and really struggling to come to terms with the loss of my best friend, for the simple reaso...

I want more, he leads me on but in the end wants just sex. It's he just a player?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - Hello! I have been friends with this guy since sophomore year of college and I graduated last year. He's 25 so yeah we are still young, but I feel like we have a good vibe going with one another. We used to hang out and talk about everything and ...

She's going into an arranged marriage, unhappy with the man. Please help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - I am an Indian. In our culture arrange marriage system is prevalent. Recently my best friend got engaged to someone. Her parents found that guy for her. Its been an year but not a day passed when she didn't complain about him. She always tells me ...

She's asked me for advice-Can I be honest and tell her she's in a bad relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, I need some advice on should I say what I think or... be polite and lie. I have 2 cousins who are like sisters to me. One of them is having problems with her papers. She's been living in a foreign country for the past 7 y...

I'm Open-Minded but His Porn Habit & Denials are Alienating Me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

21 September 2017 (F) - my husband who is 10 years older than me is watching porn on a daily basis and playing virtual reality porn games,I know because he,s not very clever at deleting his history.He shows no interest in me even though I go out of my way to look nice and ...

How do I get this woman out of my life without hurting feelings or jeopardising the other relationship with the mutual friend?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

20 September 2017 (F) - I was on here a year or two back about a friend I have had for a while who was always putting me down, trying to be smart and reminding me in her jokey way of any 'blunders' I may have made in years gone by. She is friends with another mutual f...

Are we sexually incompatible? I need help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

19 September 2017 (F) - my fiancé and I have been together for a year and a half and we have been struggling sexually. when we first got together he told me he wanted to wait until marriage to have sex I was perfectly Fine with that as we both were practicing christianity ...

Heart says carry on, head says we are now toxic! Advice needed!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

19 September 2017 (F) - Hi. So my 8 year relationship seems to be at its end and I've been given an ultimatum. We split up or we stay together and try to make it work. Some background, we are a young couple, we have been together from a young age and have been through ...

Why do people bad mouth their significant others?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2607 days ago

19 September 2017 (F) - Why do guys complain about their gf/wives but then not leave? I have a coworker that always complains about his wife - I never bring her up but somehow he will say something about her nagging or sound so dis interested in any event that they ...

We've had rough times but seem to want only us! But his marijuana use is a problem for me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2611 days ago

19 September 2017 (F) - Hi, everyone. Hope everyone is doing well. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. And we seem to love each other so much. And i sat seem becuz we say we love each other to the max but we do many things to hurt each other. And find it ...

I'm 28, watched my father die, and now watching my mother die. How to deal with anger?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

18 September 2017 (F) - I am 28 years old. My parents have been divorced since I was a child. Both of my parents have had poor health for as long as I can remember -- extreme obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, heart issues, and so on. As I grew up, I watched my fat...

I want to marry this woman and find it hard to let her go! Please help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2608 days ago

18 September 2017 (?) - Help help help. In a previous column I told everyone about how my x dumped me after 3 1/2 years by text. I also found that she had a dating profile. We talked on the phone. She says she feels like a horrible person for what she did and we had long ...

I'm worried my boyfriend is stealing from me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2611 days ago

18 September 2017 (F) - Hi, I really need some advice - I've been in a very happy relationship for over six months now. My boyfriend is very loving and caring, and we've never even had an argument - we just seem very in tune with one another. But something odd happ...

My girlfriend has poor dental hygiene!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

18 September 2017 (M) - My girlfriend has poor dental hygiene. Her teeth are yellowish and her breath smells bad.I love her but everytime I wish to express it with a kiss I hold back. How do I bring this up with her?...

My girlfriend wont cut ties with her ex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2609 days ago

17 September 2017 (M) - This might be a bit long. After a few relationships, i decided to try and get together with a girl recommended to me by my friend's girlfriend. I'll call her Agnes. This happened great, especially the first 3/4 months - we had our issues to ir...

My ex came back into my life only to leave again!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

17 September 2017 (F) - He reached out to me after about 6 months of not speaking, during that time he was dating someone else. We ended up meeting up to talk, and we had great conversation. He apologized for things that wet wrong with us and opened up to me that "he just ...

Boyfriend won't speak to me. What did I do wrong?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2613 days ago

16 September 2017 (F) - I'm with my current boyfriend for about 2 years and yest was hia bday. He thinks bdays are overrated, but I still got him gift card and since he didn't want cake, got him a small cake and went to see him. I was hungry by the time I reached his ...

I'm worried about my husband's business venture

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2614 days ago

16 September 2017 (F) - My husband is starting up a business and is very excited. He dedicated his life to it and we seldom get quality time as a newly married couple. If he is busy with his own job, i can understand. I know certainly what his business is. But this mor...

Should I stay .... or maybe I should go

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2610 days ago

15 September 2017 (F) - Hi dear Cupid, so I'll break this down in for form.. Myself (24) partner (23) - together three years Before I met him - I saved $13,000. Dating him - started going halves in things cause I thought it was a great idea. In three years - partner ...