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writes:Im blessed with a beautiful and very loving, caring partner who im sure would do anything for me and I would for her as well. So when I have this seemingly silly problem, I do not know how to overcome. Her odors. She uses deo but it wears off either by the morning after a sleep or after a long day as she works very hard around the house, cooking, gardening, cleaning to keep the house a paradise hence more sweat...... She is also skin-sensitive to regular use of deo. My woes do not end here. She loves the morning romp and loves kissing before getting off the bed and I nearly get a headache dealing the breath. I've tried exhaling when she exhales, hold my breath and other techniques.Worse she likes me to go down on her and needless to say how I survive. I do not like to offend her so I yield despite not expecting oral in return. Hate to deprive her of something she loves. Ive tried syrups and several ideas but fail to overcome.I know several friends who dont mind and others who have experienced that some girls can be different than others in the smells yet others who are happy their women do not expect it. She tried douche but gets side effects with regular use.Please don't advice me to look for someone else. Im sure all girls would be the same for the issues i face yet i do not believe a girl can be so good in all other ways that I am used to having her around me for.Please do not hesitate to post your experiences past, present, suggestions, anything you can think of. You never know what may help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2017): I never sweat and don’t have a strong body odor regardless of how much I work or how hot it is but always take a shower before bed or right before meeting my fiancé. Sometimes twice a day! I know he does the same. Always wash myself with a mild soap and use perfume lotion before getting intimate. Using strong cleansers can cause yeast as the good bacteria gets eliminated and also using the douche is not good and makes it worse. My fiancé loves giving me oral even though I really don’t care receiving it and says I taste amazing all the time. I know every woman has a unique smell but my good taste most of it is from personal hygiene. I never kiss my fiancé in the morning in bed unless I take a gum or use mouth wash. For the mouth wash try half water and half hydrogen peroxide and gurgling it is also helpful because some people have a bad breath because of their tonsils. The next morning absolutely no bad breath. It shouldn’t be used as a mouth wash regularly but I use it sometimes and it works like a magic. I don’t see any reason why you cannot talk to her. Not in a way to hurt her feelings but try to take a bath before bed together by suggesting that oh you have worked so hard today let’s take a shower and hopefully she gets the hint. Or saying something like I like your taste when you use this body wash! In my opinion this is important and can have an impact on the relationship so it’s better to solve it soon.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (27 September 2017):
 She sounds wonderful! And I am glad you are not giving up on her because of these things. We are all have our distinctive odors and as such and here's one piece of advice:
DO NOT encourage her to douche at all. Those unnatural chemicals in such a sensitive place can actually do the opposite of their intent and makes things worse which could also lead to health problems. Have her throw hers out actually. Women have survived without the douching for centuries and honestly, why have lady parts smell like a new car or whatever other scents they have? Maybe a quick visit to the gynecologist can also determine if everything is okay. We go through a lot of changes and sometimes, it's hard for us to notice when something might be wrong or imbalanced. It's nothing to be embarrassed about!
Taking it easy on alcohol (beer especially) really helps. And if she drinks a lot of coffee, this could also be the culprit. Fresh sweet fruit like apples, pineapples and other berries can really change your body chemistry. If you own a juicer, try making some juices with lots of greens and a touch of ginger. There's an all-natural apple cider vinegar called BRAGG which I recommend to all my girlfriends, one-two caps in the morning in tea or juice helps regulate things naturally.
Switch to organic soaps, harsh generic soaps aren't good at all for lady parts.
Now, I was in a similar situation once before and could not understand how I could really like a man but hate how they smelled. They switched colognes, showered more and still, I could not abide by their natural body odor...I felt so bad cause I could never even become intimate with him because of this issue and he was trying so hard to not "offend" me. We broke up for other reasons but I never forgot that and did some research on this since I was so fearful that it might happen again or I'd be the one whose smell could not be tolerated.
Some theories state that the people whose body odors we find the most attractive, are our best chances for producing healthy children etc. But that's just a theory and we've evolved beyond the compulsive need for making babies without love/care. (In some cases).
But anyway, back to it, if she tries different things and nothing changes, then this might just be something you might have to gradually get used to...I've also heard good things about saunas and "hot and cold" cycles as a natural form of cleansing the pores and rejuvenating the body.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (27 September 2017):
 You can keep some mouth wash nearby and the both of you could take a sip of some before your morning activities.
As for her deo wearing off after a long day... That's what usually happens unless you have God's constant favour upon your underarms lol but no seriously, she works hard so I think some body odour after a long day of slaving away is not a huge thing in my book.
As for the vaginal odour that you don't like, I think maybe you can get her something that smells really good to wash down there with? It could also be her diet that doesn't make her taste too good to you when you go down on her.
If i were unpleasant to the taste or smell then I'd want to know. It may not make me feel good but still I'd want to know because it's an important thing to be aware of. So with that being said, I think that you should have a little talk with her about it and for the love of Pete, try not to hurt her feelings by saying it in a bad way. I can tell that you're really into her and that's the last thing that you'd want to do but just be careful because sometimes things don't quite come out as they're thought up in our heads.
Good luck OP.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 September 2017):
 http://curefeminineodor.com/make-your-vagina-smell-good/
Could show her this or implement some of the things.
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (26 September 2017):
Every woman in the world has a particular odor, and many persons in the world haves a bad breath right after they wake up.
Why don't you guys establish a "brushed teeth before kissing" policy? In that way, you both get to smell the best breath of each other.
Also, you can also have the policy of getting a shower right before having sex? In that way, such odors will go away, at least while the session lasts.
Finally, regarding going down, well, every women is different, has different flavor and taste. Imagine that she is a unique kind of wine, and happens to have a strong flavor. You can either adjust to the taste, mask the taste with flavored lube, or use dental dams to place a layer be between you and her.
Best luck!
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (26 September 2017):
She isn't going to change until she gets some input, and you are the person who is going to have to give it. It is time to communicate with her. You want to do it without hurting her feelings, of course, and that can be the difficult part.
Soften your comments, yet they need to be persuasive. It might help if you but some of the blame on yourself, noting that you have an abnormally sensitive sniffer. Do you shower before going to bed? Perhaps she will be motivated to do so if she sees you doing it. Pop some breath mints yourself, noting that your mouth feels stale, and offer her some, too. Get her favorite brand. I know that this is playing games with her but you certainly don't want to offend her to the point where she no longer enjoys sex...we get way too many of those stories here on DQ.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (26 September 2017):
 "after a long day as she works very hard around the house, cooking, gardening, cleaning to keep the house a paradise"
They still make these kind of women?? Don't get me wrong...Young women today are lost. They can't even boil water.
Maybe I am too old fashion...But a woman who is sweaty after working hard to look after our home and make it a paradise...I would lick the sweat off her....Hot damn!!!
Look around this site...See how many men and women are complaining that their partners do nothing all day.
The pheromones coming off a hot sweaty woman...Ohhhh... how may I be of service madam!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2017): For goodness sake just tell her it's strange to me how you can have a relationship yet then are scared to say anything .. everyone has morning breath so tell her it's mints or no action
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 September 2017):
Have breath mints at the bedside table. I bet you don't have a sweet or taste breath in the morning either. Most people don't. Mints can also give HER a bit of a tingly sensation... so it can be a win/win.
Don't use syrups on her genitals/vagina it messes with the PH balance and can cause the odor to get worse.
Or if she LOVES those morning romps, take them out in the shower.
And HAVE a conversation about it. If you can have sex with her you can gently bring it up.
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reader, Allumeuse  +, writes (26 September 2017):
I can't really tell whose issue this is, yours or hers. Humans like to think they are above other animals but they aren't. If you don't like the smell or taste of your partner I don't know if anything can help you. It might be you being very sensitive,it might be that she has a little more odor than average but the fact remains that people tend to love their partners natural smell. My wife smells and tastes like heaven. I think one of the ways you can tell you are a match is if your natural chemistry matches your partners. I'm sorry but I'm unaware of any treatment for your trouble.
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