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Archived questions from: September, 2005 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Is this just pre-wedding jitters? I can't stop thinking about a guy from work...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6487 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - Someone please help me...I am in pain emotionally. I am getting married in a few months time and I am supposed to be happy but I am confused. There is this guy in the office whom I met when I started work last year. There is some physical attract...

All we do is argue, but I can't imagine leaving him... Help me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5282 days ago

30 September 2005 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I love him very much and know he loves me. The problem is for the past few months we have done nothing but argue. I am so unhappy and have even thought about leaving, but I know I couldnt imagine life ...

My girlfriend is going through so much! I just want to know how to help her talk about it.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6541 days ago

30 September 2005 (M) - I have a big problem. My girlfriend won't ever tell me what is wrong and she has confronted me about this a few times. I do not know what to say and freeze when I know something is wrong. She is going through a lot right now and I want to be th...

My girlfriend shaves her legs in public...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6559 days ago

29 September 2005 (M) - I am 21 and my girlfriend is 19. She shaves her legs in public - when we were on the beach she did it, and got attention (negative!) What do I do about this habit of hers?...

I thought he'd chase me, but I'm chasing him!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6983 days ago

29 September 2005 (F) - Hi,I broke up with my bf of 18 months cos I felt he was taking me for granted and thought he would fight for me. He chased for 1 week and then it backfired in my face and I ended up begging him back. I know he loves me and if I didnt break up with ...

I'm scared of being on my own and I think that's making me too clingy with friends!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7030 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - I have a problem which I experience a lot and it is that I'm just too dependant on everyone in my life. I hate being on my own and I feel so pathetic all the time because I need someone there to talk to or to do something with, as I get bored and ...

My partner can be terribly bad-tempered, but every time I leave he coaxes me back to him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7031 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - The man that I have been in a sexual relationship for 2 years is confusing me. He is bad tempered and can be really nasty to me telling me that it's over and doesn't seem bothered at my distress... However I have stayed away and he always comes ru...

Even little things my girlfriend does and says are starting to annoy me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6961 days ago

28 September 2005 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend now for 1 and 1/2 years. I feel really close to her but lately the relationship has not been great. Phone calls are often long and boring, so we decided to stop phoning each other as often. The problem is when ...

Nothing's right with my boyfriend and I want to split, but we've been together so long!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6890 days ago

28 September 2005 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend a year and I don't think I could leave him although I feel like leaving him. I have never been totally happy with my boyfriend. There's something about the relationship and it doesn't feel right. I love him but probably...

Why does he keep taking photos of guys at the gym?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6153 days ago

27 September 2005 (F) - I am 25 and my boyfriend is 28. Recently he has been banned from the gym for taking photos of men getting dressed; so he went to another gym in the city and was banned for doing the same thing! Now he's joined another gym in the locality, and I ...

Am I wrong to feel threatened by my husband's female friend..?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6066 days ago

26 September 2005 (F) - I have been married for just under 2 years. My husband and I have had problems communicating. Also, I have been insecure and holding him back from going out with his friends. I admit this is a problem, but the poor communication makes me feel ...

I'm feeling overworked and underappreciated... and I exploded about it...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7031 days ago

26 September 2005 (F) - My husband and I have been constantly arguing, since he hasn't worked a steady job in over 6 months, and really doesn't seem to want to work. My son (15) and his daughter (16) both live with us, I work 7 days a week overnights. I get no help around ...

My love offered me financial assistance for my business. Now it's a bone of contention between us!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7034 days ago

25 September 2005 (F) - 11 years ago I met the love of my life. He was seperated from his wife and although I resisted, I fell head over heels in love with him. He explained his situation, in that he knew his marriage had been a big mistake, but he had stayed because of ...

My pregnancy drove my boyfriend back to his ex. Is this really my fault, like he says?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7026 days ago

25 September 2005 (F) - I would like some help as the problem I have is eating me up inside. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and have always had an issue with his ex wife and their child, in the sense that she rings him a couple of times every day to see i...

My partner is distant and doesn't make the effort to see me or the kids...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7034 days ago

25 September 2005 (F) - My partner of 9 years is being very distant. He's working all the time, and when he's not at work he is at the pub. We have three children; one is only 3 months old. He says he loves me but still hasn't made the effort to spend time with us. I ...

I didn't specifically state "no lap dances", but I think it's cheating anyway...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6885 days ago

25 September 2005 (F) - My boyfriend had a one night stand 2 years ago. I had a lot of trust issues, but I gave him a second chance! I have just found out that he has been going to lap dancing bars since this period. While we hardly set down what he can and cannot do, he ...

Am I too suspicious when he says the strip-club pass was just something someone gave him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7033 days ago

24 September 2005 (F) - I was wondering if it's OK for a man in a relationship to look at other women. What's right or not? I was at a reception and there was a very attractive woman there and he didn't see me around because I was outside the door and he was ogling h...

Are we just together for the sake of the kids? I feel trapped in my relationship!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7034 days ago

24 September 2005 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend for 10 years now, and it feels as though I'm traped. We have two children and it feels to me as if we are together just for them. I'm begining to hate her more and more each day. Can you help?...

Since my boyfriend got his new job, he's tired, edgy, distant... or stoned!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7034 days ago

23 September 2005 (F) - I have a few problems... My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months, but on and off before that for about 3 years. Recently, he has gotten a new job in construction and he is always working in the city. Now, don't get me wron...

I'm confused over how to act when I have dinner with my ex...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7033 days ago

23 September 2005 (M) - Hi all, I am having dinner with my ex (we're on a break) this Monday, and for the last few months, I have made it clear that I am serious about my intentions with her. The last time I spoke with her, she could have told me it was over, or she ...

Why can he control me so easily, even from 250 miles away? And how do I stop it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7035 days ago

23 September 2005 (?) - Is there something wrong with me because I can't seem to walk away from a verbally abusive relationship? Here is my story in short. We had been together for two years, it was a long distant relationship. He moved in with me, it lasted 10 month...

I'm not happy with the the amount of time we spend together, and I'm afraid she'll break it off if I mention it...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7036 days ago

23 September 2005 (M) - My girl friend has no time for me. We don't live together, we barely see each other. Since she got a new job (which is volunteer btw), I don't want to tell her how I feel because she might think that she's letting me down and break up with me to ...

Now that I'm pregnant with our child, my boyfriend would rather hang with his ex...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7037 days ago

22 September 2005 (F) - Yes my boyfriend and I have been living together for a year and a half. We are having a child in two months. But it seems like now that I am pregnant he doesn't want to be around me and he wants to go drink at places that his ex girlfriend hangs out ...

I'm on eggshells most of the time, trying to avoid getting into an argument with my partner...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 7031 days ago

21 September 2005 (F) - My partner and I have been together two years. He has only said 'I love you' to me once, in the very begining. He says he doesn't know if he loves me and he says 'sometimes I do', but he never actually says those three little words. We argue a ...

No intimacy from my boyfriend in over a year. And he won't discuss it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7038 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He is 16 years older than I am. I love him dearly but im really depressed about our relationship. He has never slept with me and hasn't kissed me in over a year. He says he is happy the way things are. ...

My partner has never contributed toward food or expenses and he got huffy when I suggested it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7037 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my brother's roommate for nearly two years. We are both 40 years old. My brother has taken this extremely badly but won't explain why. He won't speak to or associate with me anymore but acts normally with my ...

What can I do to make our 3 1/2 year anniversary special?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 7037 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - Hey everyone, I have been in a very loving relationship for almost 3 1/2 years now...and that is where my question comes up. My 3 1/2 year anniversary is coming up and I really need help as to what I should do to show my boyfriend how much I can and ...

Does the reduced interest in sex, plus the dating-website profile equal "cheating"?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7037 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years and we had a great sex life for the first two. As with any relationship the sex tailed off but he is always 'up for it' whereas I am often stressed and tired from work. He had been having trouble ...

I feel like I'm nothing more than a slave to my boyfriend in prison!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 7039 days ago

20 September 2005 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years. He has spent most of our time with each other in jail though, and the thing is, when he is at home we are great together. I couldn't have been happier but the way he is now is changing the way I feel ...

My son can see his dad, but I don't like him being around Grandma!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 7039 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - When my son was 2 years old I decided to file for child support since he had a deadbeat dad that would not come around. After I did this, he took me to court to get revenge and get visitation rights. I think a lot of it had to do with his wicked ...

My boss and I had a relationshp that went sour. Now I don't have a job...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7040 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - Me and my married employer formed a relationship. Afterwards he kept changing his mind as to whether or not he wanted a future with me. I decided to just apologise for any upset so he would employ me for the next 1 years contract. He switched and ...

My boyfriend says he'll change his behavioural problems, but in the meantime he yells and screams...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7036 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - Help! I'm living with my boyfriend. He is 26 and I am 35 years of age. I've had to move two times because when ever we argue, he yells, screams, and or damages the apartment. I've lost about 2500 dollars in security deposit and damages. He has ...

I'm confused about the way my father shows his "affection" to me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7037 days ago

19 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, I am confused about the behaviour of my father towards me and our relationship. He likes to have so much intamicy with me, though I am a boy, that I feel uncomfortable and strangled in his emotional confinement. Also as I remember ab...

Not sure where we stand! Are we dating? Are we friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7040 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - I was seeing a guy 9 months ago for about 6 weeks, we both been single for 18 months due to bad relationship breakdowns. We got on well. Then we said I wasn't taking it seriously enough, that he was falling in love with me, etc., I was shocked and ...

He doesn't see the point in us getting married, but I do!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7040 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - I have been seeing my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years- ages!!! We only spoke of marriage in the last month, as he wouldn't talk of it earlier. At the weekend he sort of said 'why get married?' I want to. Am I wasting my time? I've moved countrie...

Afraid to say or do anything that might brand me a fool. Help...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7040 days ago

19 September 2005 (F) - All my life I've been seriously affected by an inferiority complex - which has worsened over the years by an abusive relationship. Recently I met someone I really like but I'm afraid-afraid of making a fool out of myself--- What should I do?...

I regret chewing him out. Now what?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7008 days ago

18 September 2005 (F) - My boyfriend was ignoring me so I went to his house and said some relly evil personal stuff to him and then stormed out, I want him back what should I do?...

When they realised how many lies I was telling, my friends all ditched me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6107 days ago

18 September 2005 (F) - I have made a big mistake. I used to lie about anything and everything to impresss my friends, and other times lies would just come out without me being able to stop myself from lying. I lie about big things, small things and usually also abo...

How can I get over the image of my girl snogging someone else?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7039 days ago

18 September 2005 (M) - Hello everyone, I've never done this before, but I am having some problems that in my head are really big. I have been with my girlfriend for over two years and we have lived together for about a year and are quite serious. A couple of days a...

I want her back, but she insists that she wants to wait a little until we try again...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6417 days ago

17 September 2005 (M) - I was seeing my girlfriend for about a year and a half. Things went really well initialy and we even decided to move in together. After a few months of living together, she was having spacial problems with me. We tried working things out but ...

My fiance won't marry me until I'm clinically obese!

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

16 September 2005 (F) - I am 24 and my fiance is 28. He has delayed our wedding until I become clinically obese. He said to me that he wants a clinically obese bride (me) at our wedding. I tried talking to him about it, but to no avail. What is going on with him...

I've resorted to snooping around, to find "proof" that my boyfriend is cheating...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6858 days ago

16 September 2005 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. (I'm 20.) I am very insecure about our relationship. I don't even know why. I get so jealous when he text messages other girls that are his friends, that like him or are ex-girlfriends. He doesn't ...

My boyfriend wants to have his cake - and eat it! Should I let him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7043 days ago

16 September 2005 (F) - Dear Cupid, I found out recently that my boyfriend kissed another girl whilst on a stag weekend. They exchanged numbers and have been in contact since a couple of times. I found this out though by a text message I saw on his phone from ...

My partner has mid-life crises every year!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7043 days ago

16 September 2005 (F) - Every year my boyfriend has a midlife crisis (he's 49) immediately after he takes his children on vacation and returns to face another birthday! They go to California, where he starts thinking about his "glory days" in his twenties. He comes back ...

He upsets me and I feel awful, but I'm still sleeping with him. Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6898 days ago

15 September 2005 (F) - I am 19 years old and recently met a man who I really liked a lot even though I was warned against. Instead of taking the advice I continued seeing him anyway. After 4 months of seeing him, I decided to sleep with him but he is the 1st person I...

After a scare in Iraq, my boyfriend is rethinking our relationship...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6600 days ago

15 September 2005 (F) - My boyfriend is in Iraq. Things were going so good and then the other day he was hurt; not bad physicaly but emotionaly real shook up. Now he has started saying things like it's not fair for me to have to go through this and worry about him. I f...

My girlfriend is beautiful, but she doesn't believe me when I tell her that!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 7040 days ago

15 September 2005 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost a year and a half. We live together in a beautiful apartment, I have a great job, I don't hit her or mess with her head in any way. I always tell her how beautiful I think she is. She doesn't ...

I ruined a blossoming relationship by picking faults... Now I'm at it again!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7044 days ago

14 September 2005 (F) - I have Commitment issues! ive been single for over 4 years, I've had flings since then, but they have mainly been with men that havn't treated me very well. But last year I met a man that was absolutely lovely to me, was a gentleman, treated ...

The battle between my culture and my education makes it hard to interact with women!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 7042 days ago

14 September 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid, My values and traditions are making me negative about myself. I am 22 yrs. old guy and have been brought up in a society where there is a strict boundary between men and women. Men and Women cannot be friends or talk honestly unless ...

My husband treats me like I don't have any sense. He's considerate to others, why not to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 7044 days ago

13 September 2005 (F) - Dear Cupid, Am married for almost 18th years now. I love my husband but sometimes I can't understand the way he treats me. He doesn't want me to be with my friends or outside family activities. He treated me not as his wife but like a daughter...