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writes: Hey everyone, I have been in a very loving relationship for almost 3 1/2 years now...and that is where my question comes up. My 3 1/2 year anniversary is coming up and I really need help as to what I should do to show my boyfriend how much I can and appreciate him. The problem is, that in the entire relationship, he has never done anything special for any anniversary. I get him cards...I never get one back. Please I could use some help with this!!
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (22 September 2005):
 He sounds like a good guy, but no good guy can ever be perfect.He might be a good bf to have deserved someone like yourself (who makes an effort for the relationship), but sometimes being good isnt enough. But hey, at least you havent got to worry about what 3/4 of these other girls who post their questions here are worrying about. Do you guys have a 'talking relationship'? Meaning do you both talk openly most of the time? If you have that, its wise to tell him that you'd love for him to make an effort in remembering important relationship dates like you do him!!
Well, on the subject of how to make it special, you could plan a wekkend trip to somewhere fun, you could prepare dinner at home (try a 3 course meal, ive tried that for my gf and it was brilliant), basically just do something that you dont usually do, even doing a movie marathon counts. The key here is for you both to remember this day!! So be original and incorporate what you and him like into it!!
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reader, dmntink +, writes (21 September 2005):
No he remembers everything else. He's not the type of person that forgets things...he just doesn't really do anything for them. We only celebrate the 6 month and year now until we get married...thats what we talked about when the first 6 month one came around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2005): If it's very important to you for a man you're with to remember special occasions, and he's not doing it, you should talk to him about it, very plainly, with no accusations or blame. Maybe he just wasn't raised to care so much about those things and isn't aware how much such gestures mean to you. If you've already talked to him about it and he didn't improve, then I suppose you either have to accept it or talk to him more firmly about it.That said, I have a question: Is it just the anniversaries, or is he bad at other occasions, like birthdays and holidays? If it's only the anniversaries he neglects, then it may be that he doesn't take them as seriously as you do. Not all couples celebrate the anniversaries of when their relationships began. And I imagine far fewer celebrate six-month anniversaries three years into their relationships. half-year anniversaries?
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reader, dmntink +, writes (20 September 2005):
LOL thats a good thought....but we are both young. Well i'm 21 and he's 20. It has been a topic of conversation but I'm pretty sure that he wants to wait until he's 21....so i don't know what good that would be...plus I want to be the one thats asked! lol
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reader, Happygoddess +, writes (20 September 2005):
Ask him to marry you ;)
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