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writes: I have Commitment issues! ive been single for over 4 years, I've had flings since then, but they have mainly been with men that havn't treated me very well. But last year I met a man that was absolutely lovely to me, was a gentleman, treated me well, but I just couldn't handle it I managed to talk myself out of liking him by picking faults, and being nasty to him so much that he backed off and found someone else! Then I became a woman possessed and wouldn't leave him alone, but it was too late! Now I've found someone else who is just as lovely to me but I can feel myself starting to panic again. I can see the same pattern repeating itself, how can I stop it? and why am I like this? Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, lildeesbg  +, writes (15 September 2005):
 It seems to me that since you never were in a real relationship your have fears of what to expect in the now and the future of a relationship. Relationships are scary your sharing your world with someone else. The thoughts of is this the right person for me? Will I be happy with this person? Can I trust this person to do right by me? can really be holding you back from getting into something serious.
Obviously, you want to change. Hopefully, you have learned from the last relationship. The more you keep that guard up the more you are going to be missing a possible MR. Right. The saying is true it is better to have loved then to never be loved at all. Keep that in mind. You already regret what you did to the last guy, dont regret again. The only way your gonna change is if your WILLING to. Take the leap of faith. Even if this relationship doesnt make it down the isle, it is still an experience. Relationships helps you grow as a person, maybe a relationship is what you need.
Dee =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2005): STOP! Focus on what he does good for you and what he brings to the relationship. Old habbits are hard to breake. Do you want to be single forever?
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