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writes: I was wondering if it's OK for a man in a relationship to look at other women. What's right or not? I was at a reception and there was a very attractive woman there and he didn't see me around because I was outside the door and he was ogling her big-time as she was walking out of the room. Naturally he denies it. Is this OK or am I too jealous? Does this mean he's a womanizer or would cheat? Also, I found (snooping) a strip club pass in his wallet one night when he was sleeping. He swears someone gave it to him and he stuck it in his wallet out of 'respect'. He even told me the next day that he had a conversation with another person and told that person that we were in an argument over it and told the person that someone gave him the pass and the person he was talking to stated that he gets them a lot from other men. My brother also says it's not uncommon for guys to give other guys those. I have a hard time trusting and want to believe him but think it's all bogus. He swears to me (of course) that he don't go to the strip clubs, they do nothing for him and tries to re-assure me that he doesn't need to go there. I don't know, maybe I'm too suspicious and maybe not. Help!!! Thanks Donna
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2005): hey, i love my girlfriend with all of my heart, i would never EVER EVER cheat on anyone, im that kinda good guy. right now were even going through some trouble and i think she will probably dump me tomorrow, and i STILL would never cheat on her if the most famous celebrity of dreams came in my rooom naked.
But, i would look, you cant ban gods artwork, we marvel at our own, why not marvel at the human body. Looking is nothing, touching is everything. Baad boy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2005):
Personally, I think it is ok for a man to look at another woman while in a relationship with another, but I don't know about the Ogling. That's a bit much. A passing glance is one thing but staring her down is another. The thing that concerned me the most about it was the fact he denied it.
It maybe so that guys give each other passes to the strip club all the time, but even if this is so, your boyfriend should out of respect for you, decline the pass. Even this with the other don't make him a cheater or a womanizer he may just like the looks of a pretty woman but happy with what he has at home.
Allow him to be more open with you. Don't make a fuss if you seeing him look at another woman, instead make a joke like "Do you like what you see?" and give him a sweet smile. He sounds to me like he is afraid to let you in on anything. I don't know a man that won't look at another woman, including my husband and we have been together 11 years, however, I am secure in the fact that he would never cheat on me.
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