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Archived questions from: October, 2005 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I keep picturing my fairytale future, even though I know it won't happen...!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6220 days ago

31 October 2005 (F) - I can't stop obsessing about the future. I'm twenty four and in a live-in relationship with a man the same age. Our relationship is very good; we've known each other for ten years and been together for three. This is the first time I've ever felt ...

My boyfriend won't give up smoking, no matter what I threaten...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6952 days ago

31 October 2005 (F) - I try to get my boyfriend to quit smoking and I also threatened to leave this relationship, but he seems to not care about the fact that I'm willing to sacrifice anything for him. He wouldn't even give it up to make me happy. We fight about th...

He keeps pushing me away because he's not ready for a relationship, but we ARE in a relationship...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6952 days ago

30 October 2005 (F) - I am in a relationship in which I met the guy in college, dated off and on for 8 years and then I moved away. 10 years later I returned to the same city and we have resumed our relationship. The problem now is that he has gone through a terrible ...

The way my bf treats me and the way he says hurtful things are leaving me drained!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6932 days ago

29 October 2005 (F) - Hello, I am stuck right now in my relationship. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over two years and sometimes he says things that hurt me, and he acts like he doesn't care, sometimes in front of his friends. I am emotiona...

How can we communicate and learn to understand each other without arguing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6953 days ago

28 October 2005 (F) - My bf and I are not communicating, we are arguing. I will try to say, how I feel, he becomes defensive and thinks I am blaming him for how I feel. He suggests something and all I hear is rejection. We both know men and women are different and ...

If I put on any more weight, my fiance is going to leave me and our son!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 6952 days ago

28 October 2005 (F) - My fiance and I have a boy together. We were OK, but just recently I have put on weight. He said if I put on any more weight he will leave. He is already planning to get a house of his own. What am I to think?...

I want to give up smoking drugs, but when I try to discuss that with my bf, it turns into a fight...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6955 days ago

28 October 2005 (F) - Ok... I need some serious help and this isn't about love or sex. I have been in a long term relationship with the man that I know I will marry. Unfortunatly we both were big in smoking, and i don't mean cigerattes. Now I want to stop because ...

My bf turns everything around to being my fault! I'm unhappy, but he's great with my kids!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6954 days ago

28 October 2005 (F) - I have been seeing a guy that I met off of the internet about 4 weeks ago. As soon as I met him I took off any dating profiles that I had online because I knew I wasn't looking to meet anybody else. In the first two weeks we was together it all s...

My partner doesn't offer me any security in the relationship, and treats me like a piece of furniture...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6955 days ago

28 October 2005 (F) - Do I stay or do I go? I have been with my partner for almost 5 years, he is divorced with a daughter, I have not been married and have no children. The house belongs to my partner, he pays the mortgage but I paid half the purchase costs (an...

Our time off work never overlaps and my boyfriend and I barely see each other...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6956 days ago

28 October 2005 (F) - My boyfriend and I just started new jobs. His work hours are from 2:15 - 11:00PM at night and I work 10 hour shifts at a busy office. I find time during my breaks to call him... and now I feel like I am very needy girlfriend. Recently, I'm noticing ...

He's always had a temper and now he yells every day!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6955 days ago

28 October 2005 (F) - My boyfriend seems to have lost interest in me. He doesn't seem to be intrested in my sexually at all. If I want to do something with him I have to practically beg him. Other than that we don't do anything. He has always had a temper, but lately it ...

My boyfriend doesn't trust me now that I've snooped on his mobile phone...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6956 days ago

27 October 2005 (F) - I have been with my live-in boyfriend for 6yrs. He is a DJ. I knew this going into the relationship. I found out his pin# to his cell phone and found saved msg. from other women. He stated they are just friends or business assoc. But now he is very ...

Yesterday he wanted to go out, but tonight he decided to work late...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6957 days ago

27 October 2005 (F) - I'm really confused. Yesterday he asked me what I was doing this evening and said he loved me. Today he rung saying he had to work late. I rung at 8 and he was still at work but said he'd probably go out for a drink once he'd finished!! I haven't...

His online dating profile didn't mean anything. So why does he want to meet the fake person I put on the site?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6523 days ago

27 October 2005 (F) - HELP me:( I thought I found the love of my life. I have been with him for 2 years. He has two wonderful children that I love. He got married at 20, and divorced after 6 years. then was in another relationship of 3 years that did not work out...

We're living together and I keep house for him. Is this all there is?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6956 days ago

26 October 2005 (F) - Been living with this man for 2 years. His mom came to live with us and I quit my job to take care of her. There never was a hot romance. Just two people who came together out of a need for each other. Problem is I miss being treated like a woman. I ...

I want to settle down... or leave and have some passion in my life!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6956 days ago

26 October 2005 (F) - Me and my partner (7 years) moved 3 months ago to a new area where we don't know anyone but are enjoying a better quality of life. He is supporting me whilst I go back to do my dream course at college. He's kept the same job but is working from ...

Could my boyfriend be using me as a financial crutch, or am I supporting him in a time of stress?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5106 days ago

26 October 2005 (F) - Hi, Really hoping to get some advice from you guys, as I'm feeling pretty confused. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and half now. When we first met, we fell in love straight away with so much in common. The relationship was a different ...

My husband is never at home any more. All we do is argue. Sometimes I don't know why I stay...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5829 days ago

26 October 2005 (F) - My life is not the same anymore. I have been with my partner for quite a few years and we used to go everywhere together and was always together. Then he started to get into fitness started with jogging to begin with,which I didn't mind him doing. ...

I made a bad choice when I was drunk and now my girlfriend won't trust me any more...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6956 days ago

26 October 2005 (M) - I am 24 and around May I found the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. I moved in with her after about 3 months of dating. Everything was going great, up until about three weeks ago, when I went out with my friends one night, and I got ...

My "workaholic" boyfriend has time for his mates, but not for me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5941 days ago

25 October 2005 (F) - My bf and i got back together on Fri after a two month on-off-on-off period. I told him to think about it for a week, to make sure it's what he wants. I know he loves me but he's crazy busy working and studying and has hardly any time for me. This ...

Normally she's hyper, so why is my girlfriend so secretive all of a sudden?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6958 days ago

25 October 2005 (M) - I need HELP! My girlfriend is the love of my life. But she has no intentions of telling me what her feelings and thoughts are, she obviously distracted by something or someone. She gets very distant and quiet all of a sudden.(Shes nornally hyper as ...

I want to trust my bf, but he chats to other female friends and overtly ogles other women...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6958 days ago

25 October 2005 (F) - I'm 16 nearly 17, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. He's 20, and it's been brilliant. We have a good sex life and everything is going great. But since he's lost his internet he will come round mine with me and he checks his emails but then ...

Everything I say to my fiancee seems to come across wrong!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6958 days ago

25 October 2005 (M) - Dear Cupid Ihave a problem with expressing myself to my fiancee and this has resulted her almost having an affair. This really hurts because I really love her but whatever I do or say seems to come across in the wrong way. Please can you help ...

My boyfriend isn't his ex's child's real father, so why does he spend all his Saturdays with the kid?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6908 days ago

24 October 2005 (F) - Ok I have a real problem. My partner of 4 months went out with a women who was pregnant when they got together - the child views my bf as his dad, and my bf regards the child as his son. I have never met the child. When he sees him every other Sa...

My gf broke up over my anger management issues. I want to prove it won't happen again!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6957 days ago

24 October 2005 (M) - My girlfriend is leaving me. I have an agression/anger problem that's been going on for years. Finally on the meal for her birthday last night I ripped the waiter to bits had a row with her sister because my main courtse turned up cold (in front o...

Should I act on my newly-discovered feelings for my friend Rick?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6959 days ago

24 October 2005 (F) - I am a 21 year old woman, and have been married for 8 months. My partner and I have been together for 4 years and have a 2 year old son. About 12 months ago we started to spend time with a new circle of friends, Michelle and Rick. I started ...

My fiancee says she doesn't know what she wants, but she's still making plans for our future together!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6960 days ago

23 October 2005 (M) - I've been with my fiance for 2 years now. I love her dearly but the love and affection doesn't seem to be returned. She is very spiritual and her life revolves around being a spiritualist. She would rather read a book than talk about her problems. ...

My boyfriend is used to being the best, and now he's competing with ME!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6961 days ago

22 October 2005 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend about 8 1/2 months, and he's always upset. We're in grad school together, and he won't stop making things competitive between us. He's really smart, but I do better than he does, both in terms of grades, and in terms ...

Anyone have experience with getting counselling?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6958 days ago

22 October 2005 (F) - I'd like to get some counselling or therapy to solve some problems I have about my past that are not going away. I've been thinking about this for some time but thought the problems would go away on their own. However, they haven't and I want to try ...

We're fighting too much and we've postponed the wedding...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6963 days ago

20 October 2005 (M) - I am desperate for help. Recently, my fiance and I have been fighting a lot. He is extremely unhappy at his job and our life together has gotten a little too busy to handle. Additionally, I have a 5 year old son who is very attached to my fiance. ...

My boyfriend is wonderful and kind... but also obstinate and irritating! What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6964 days ago

20 October 2005 (F) - I'm 32 yrs old and I have been dating Steven ,31 ,for a almost 2 yrs now.We are both divorcees and come from different cultures and religions.It caused a huge furore in my family when I decided to see a white american guy,who changed his religion ...

Do I keep supporting my boyfriend, even though he's done nothing to support me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6962 days ago

20 October 2005 (F) - I am having some issues with my boyfriend. We've been together going on 4 1/2 years and starting from 2003 to now he's been in and out of jail, not really working, and just not doing anything with himself. He keeps promising me that things will get ...

Honest mistakes led my girlfriend to think I cheated on her. But I'm innocent!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6963 days ago

20 October 2005 (M) - I need help. I have been faithful to my girlfriend of almost 5 months. She has a history of dating guys who, unfortunately, cheated on her, including her ex-fiance. I love her deeply but made 2 mistakes: right after we started dating, on old, ...

While I was away, my boyfriend redecorated my house... and left me with the bills!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6962 days ago

19 October 2005 (F) - I have just come back from holiday. My boyfriend looked after my house while I was away, and he decorated parts of my house and bought new furniture, as a surprise, but I have to pay the bill. It made me feel angry. What should I say to him? I ...

He won't let me go out and have fun with my friends!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6959 days ago

19 October 2005 (F) - I am thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend but.... I am 17 and my fiance' is 24, I do care about him but he is too possesive over me. I just want to grow up and go out with the girls and spend time with my friends but it will destroy him...

We have communications problems. He won't discuss things, then wonders why I don't want to talk...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6962 days ago

19 October 2005 (F) - My boyfriend never listens to anybody but himself! and he is not interested in doing anything for me unless it is in his interest as well! I used to go out of my way for him, not anymore. Every time I talk to him about it, he doesn't want to row, ...

My unpleasant romantic history prevents me feeling anything for my wonderful guy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6964 days ago

19 October 2005 (F) - I met my b/f when he was married just one month - he pursued me and I eventually gave in. It was only to be "fun with no strings/ties" but feelings grew. He left his wife late last got a bedsit and is now divorced. I suffer from depression/stres...

My ex seems too busy to meet me, but not too busy to meet an online acquaintence...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6963 days ago

18 October 2005 (F) - What would you make of my ex-boyfriend's behaviour? We split in March of this year, after a six-month relationship, as he had a lot of 'baggage'. Recently, we have discussed reconciliation, but not on a serious basis to begin with, as 'baggage...

My girlfriend seems to be pulling away, but she insists that we're fine...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6965 days ago

18 October 2005 (M) - I feel that my girlfriend and I are drifting apart. We are in college and live in the same apartment complex. She has a lot going on right now and we dont seem to see each other very much, especially romantically. I feel that we are more like ...

I can't stop flirting with guys. I just need male attention all the time!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5183 days ago

18 October 2005 (F) - I constantly need attention from guys and it is starting to affect all aspects of my life. I have a wonderful boyfriend of 4 years who I love dearly who gives me all the attention in the world, but, yet, I still find the need for attention from ...

I've lost my sense of security since we discussed whether to break up...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6964 days ago

18 October 2005 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 18 months. He's 28, I'm 26. We were friends for 5 years before we got together. We don't live together but we see each other 5 days out of 7. We have a very happy, loving relationship. 2 weeks ...

My boyfriend and I get along really well. So why do I get sick when I go to kiss him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6964 days ago

18 October 2005 (F) - Hello, well I am 19 and I have been with my bf for about 13 months now and we get along really well, have a lot on common and I am attracted to him. Up till recently when we were in bed and he started to make me sick and I could not kiss him. I love ...

Should I forgive my fiance when he continues to lie to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6965 days ago

17 October 2005 (F) - I have been with my fiance for over five years. I found out that he had a one night stand and have forgiven him for it. However I don't trust him. He lies to me all the time. Mainly about stupid things, but it feels like I'm being an idiot forgiving ...

He lies to me and I feel like crying when we're together. I just want to break up with him!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6949 days ago

17 October 2005 (?) - Hey everyone, OK so I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months and he's lied to me a lot, although the other day he crossed the line. I'd found out he'd been sending pictures of his genitals to other people via texts. When I asked him about it...

We drifted apart little by little, then we had one almighty fight!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6966 days ago

17 October 2005 (F) - Hi, My partner and I have been together for 4 years. For the last year things have been hectic, new jobs, new house and the death of a very close family member on his side. We have both noticed that we have been growing apart and haven't been put...

What should I do? I've become used to my husband's moods, but I think I love Dave...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6942 days ago

16 October 2005 (F) - I have gotten myself into a very bad situation that is going to hurt my husband beyond belief if I follow through with what I want to do. We have been together since we were 15 (18 years now). I moved from UK to Australia to be with him which left ...

I was sprung when I sent a text to a girl who's not my partner!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6966 days ago

15 October 2005 (M) - I sent a text message to a girl and my partner found it on my phone. It read "hello sexy,when r u back in town ?". What do I do ?...

Instead of having a foot in both Eastern and Western cultures, I feel like I belong to neither...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6969 days ago

15 October 2005 (M) - I am a guy born and brought up in Asian culture and influenced by western culture, especially American. Though my upbringing was in humble background, I always fancied the boldness of life of people in West. I aspired to be one of them. Somehow, I ...

My husband thinks I should shut up and stand by him, but when is he standing up for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6721 days ago

14 October 2005 (F) - Dear cupid, I have been with my husband now for 5 years. We have only been married 1 month and 3 weeks. In our relationship we have had a lot of quarrels but have overcome them, but here lately it’s getting really difficult to get through them. We...

Ever since my partner cheated, I snipe at him without realising...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6961 days ago

14 October 2005 (F) - I've been with my partner for 5 years now and since he cheated on me we just do not get on. We seem to clash. We have a 3 year old son together. I just don't know what to do anymore. He says it's always me biting his head off over silly things, ...